Etiquette focuses on persistence and consciousness. We object that you regard them as formal dogmas, but as long-term investments or practices. In the best case, the content of these etiquette is your true nature, and apply them to the extreme. As an important reminder, you must know yourself before you decide your position.
Next, we will choose some etiquette forms as representatives to tell you the rules of words and deeds as a royal sister. I hope you can understand the enthusiasm of our group. Let's talk about this seemingly insignificant form of etiquette first, because it is easy to practice. One way is that the royal elder sister can insist on using a set of symbolic words when answering the phone. For example, "Hello, please speak"; When making a phone call, start with "I'm sorry …"; Don't hang up until the other person hangs up. The unique etiquette in this phone has nothing to do with the object at the other end of the microphone.
Although it is easy in the process, it may be difficult for the rebellious chaotic style royal sisters. Their charm is willful, but it has a good reference value for law-abiding royal sisters. The precepts here are usually directed at the royal sisters with religious backgrounds. A woman with a good religious education has something incomparable to the general royal elder sister in temperament, such as piety and sacrifice. Whether its teachings are accepted by others or not, we all admit that the goodness of religion can be well reflected in individuals, which has nothing to do with the opposition between materialism and idealism, and the opposition between God and godlessness.
Ordinary royal sisters can also have similar forms of discipline and etiquette. It can be considered that a highly legalized female image can be regarded as a nun under the secular system. Appearance etiquette can be divided into two environments: reality and network. In reality, grooming etiquette is almost every woman's consciousness, not just the consciousness of the royal sister. What we want to convey is that in reality, the key to a woman's appearance reflecting the characteristics of a royal sister is obviously your unique side rather than a fashion model that can be referenced everywhere. However, due to some practical restrictions related to management, your choices are limited. For example, it is often a good idea to wear cloth shoes for a royal elder sister with OL status. Of course, there is a foundation. Your standing posture, sitting posture and walking posture must be as decent as possible-stand as loosely as possible, sit like a bell (this is often difficult, but at least you can avoid the bad posture of crossing your legs and shaking your feet), and walking posture is like the wind, otherwise your appearance will never be satisfactory.
In the network, your appearance usually means three elements: nickname, avatar and signature. Because there is no clear law, we will not put forward the suggestion of "what should you do" in this respect, but we can list some customs that must be resisted as a qualified royal sister in routine. For example:
The first impression of using strange characters in ID is the junior high school students who are not deeply involved in the world.
Taking pictures with moving pictures ── the habit of Lori, Zheng Tai, truant college students and strange uncles with lollipops.
Excessive signature-rude noise is the hint I read from it.
We also recognize exceptions, but you must first prove that your spirit of royal sister is consistent with exceptions. The debate mentioned in this section is basically only aimed at the network environment. Debate, when it comes to debate, has different meanings, but the applicable etiquette is the same.
Debate is one of the biggest ways for royal sisters, especially introverted royal sisters, to gain on the Internet, but it also has a relatively high risk cost. If you intend to participate in it, you must make a pre-assessment of yourself in two qualities, namely, being knowledgeable and diligent in thinking. Extensive knowledge is the accumulation of profound knowledge and skills in one or several fields, and strong thinking is excellent wisdom and corresponding way of thinking. You must have enough confidence in at least one of them, and the source of confidence is to have a considerable degree of specialization in it. If not, we mean that you may not have the capital to show your charm in this respect, and suggest transformation to avoid chronic disqualification in neglected humiliation.
If Yujie decides to take part in the debate, you must first make clear whether the content of the debate has the meaning you agree with, and then you need to combine the evaluation of two basic qualities to make clear whether the debate can provide space for giving full play to your specialty. Know yourself and yourself, these are two important foreshadows that determine the outcome of future events. And formally participate in the debate, your first purpose is generally considered to be to win, which is acceptable, and the royal sister should oppose the behavior of Mr. Nice guy who has no opinion. The most common one is the guy who claims everywhere that "carrots and vegetables have their own tastes" and "no one can convince anyone anyway, so there is nothing to argue about". This is blatant irrigation. If you really want to win, you should invite someone with enough judgment and credibility.
In the west, there is a famous saying "Don't take off your coat". In the debate, this sentence also warned the royal elder sister to keep etiquette at all times. Royal elder sister should pay more attention to her expression, demeanor and empathy than victory. When things go well, it is feasible to pursue victory persistently. As long as you don't get carried away, people will think you are petty bourgeoisie. Of course, the introverted royal elder sister may be more open-minded. When you are at a disadvantage, you'd better carefully sort out your thoughts and existing speeches, make it clear, examine the correctness and richness of your views, and then decide whether to stick to it. If you can find a loophole in your own story, you have to take the responsibility of not spreading it. When it is time to admit your mistake, admit it readily, and when it is time to admit defeat, give up generously. Moreover, we suggest that Yujie go further and admit her own mistakes and the other's correctness, although it seems to be true.
Debate also has an inherent meaning, which is to serve the spectators. This is also an important reason why we oppose casual and comprehensive. A good debate is a stage to convey the spirit, thought and accomplishment of the royal sister to the public, and establishing a good sense of debate etiquette is also a prerequisite to grasp it well.
A more advanced means of writing communication than argumentative writing is writing, which can be considered by a capable royal elder sister. Rhetoric referred to here is a technical term, which is interspersed in personal conversation and affects the whole speaking style in the form of details.
Rhetoric etiquette is usually used in self-introduction, conversation, argument, guidance and other occasions. Under normal circumstances, there won't be much controversy about the observance of rhetoric. However, in more daily communication, rhetoric can easily strengthen personal extravagance at the expense of affinity. Although this is important, it is not the best way to achieve this goal through rhetoric. And people who don't like dealing with rhetoric will usually ask you to give up this dialogue style directly. The royal elder sister should generally accept this opinion, and etiquette should focus on conveying the overall situation of virtue.
A royal elder sister who is good at language and etiquette can adjust her affinity and dignity to the required degree. Let's take an example for reference: when others are upset because of you and you intend to admit it, how should you express your attitude to each other?
We believe that there are other feasible options besides a unified apology. When this reason includes the fault of the royal sister, the expression of "I'm sorry" is appropriate; Whether "expressing regret" can better meet the needs of the situation without the fault of the royal sister is a proposition worthy of consideration.
There is a concept similar to the rhetoric, but not the same, that is, oral addiction. The royal elder sister's attention to it is closely related to her method-chaos. However, you should be aware of the possible impact of this feature on your image and handle it appropriately. The subtext of management is power, and the use of power is a joke to all kinds of people, including Yujie. Don't we just claim to influence and change others and have the ideal and sense of responsibility in the revolutionary world? Then in the face of realistic management problems, this will be a book that we can hardly practice.
Management in the online community is an excellent experimental field for us, and any kind of royal sister has the opportunity to participate in this serious game. There is a saying that small communities can successfully implement chaos, but the larger the scale, the more difficult it is to manage chaos, and in order to survive, they have to evolve to a legal model. In our opinion, this statement is usually verifiable, although it does not take into account that the nature of the community has different similarities to the two types of people, which is legal/confusing. Chaotic management style means that there is a lot of willful space, which not only can naturally satisfy the chaotic style of royal sisters managers, but also has the temptation of similar power corruption for legitimate people. Moreover, we have chosen such a system ourselves, which is efficient and safe, whether it is to attract the same interests or to exclude dissidents.
In addition to the legal and firm royal elder sister, everyone is willing to seek their own foothold in such an atmosphere. Because the environment is friendly to them, the royal elder sister who is recognized and can obtain management authority can express herself here without restriction. In this environment, the role of etiquette is mainly reflected in the attitude towards the outside world, while the etiquette requirements purely for management purposes are consciously set by the royal sister. Except for a few failure cases, this series of behaviors are always generally supported in the current environment. Based on respect for all kinds of opinions, we trust the royal sisters to handle their own etiquette forms in management occasions, which is an area that encourages a hundred flowers to blossom. For reference, we have listed several manners that are generally considered to be the most basic:
-Welcome newcomers, even if it is courtesy (not applicable to large-scale jurisdictions).
Please, hello, thank you, sorry and goodbye. Speak out when necessary and ignore acquaintances as appropriate.
-Don't make an assertion about uncertain things easily, and leave room for it.
-In most cases, avoid using strongly emotional sentences and punctuation marks.
-just order maintenance, or chaotic orientation of eating, drinking, and enjoying.
-Answer questions and give feedback carefully.
As a unique ability of women, she is attractive but not attractive.
-always remember the highest principle of royal elder sister.
In addition, there may be a potential hidden danger, that is, whether managers can reach a higher level should not only strive for success during their term of office, but also make appropriate preparations for the foreseeable future after leaving office.
When the scale of the online community is in the expansion stage, the quantitative change will gradually turn into qualitative change, and the legitimate voice will be higher and higher. At the same time, the weakening of managers' charm may cause a chain reaction, unless you are not outstanding in some special skills, but you are particularly outstanding. However, things are relative. In this environment, etiquette and morality will play a more effective role than chaotic environment. As a royal elder sister, there should be conditions to meet a general lack of demand. In the weak supervision environment of the network, the more people gather in the unit space, the easier it is for people to ignore kindness and encourage malignancy. Fortunately, our social environment is at least good in terms of clear rules, so goodness is ignored but not excluded, but it has become the hope of many people who are eager for the Holy Spirit. Therefore, even in the most chaotic crowd, the royal elder sister should have the determination to adhere to the spirit of the royal elder sister, carry forward the manners of the past, and refuse to be stained with dirty marks. If you feel that this environment is no longer worth living, it is advisable to leave.
Management in reality is a much more complicated knowledge, and this paper does not intend to delve into it, but to convey an idea.
We believe that management is a kind of guidance, and there are many kinds of guidance. One of them has a special meaning, that is, the way for the royal elder sister to start her career. A teacher needs not only professional skills and prestige, but also higher requirements for modesty, love and responsibility. These gentle manners should be as important as the strong side of the royal sister, but they are easily overlooked. Teachers' achievements are closely related to students' achievements. We try to quantify this achievement into four categories:
Students respect their teachers.
The students are grateful to their teacher.
Three. Students are proud of their teacher.
Ⅳ. Teachers are proud of their students.
A reference conclusion is that this class classification is not only a suggestion and guidance for the relationship between teachers and students, but also an ideal management pursuit for any level of royal elder sister managers after changing keywords in any environment. Yujie Road does not deliberately yearn for supernatural immortals. We admit that anger, as a common emotion of human beings, also has the significance of excavating its deep value. When faced with disrespectful or aggressive behavior that she thinks is indisputable and must be dealt with positively (there is a subtle classification: this kind of behavior is sometimes not directed at herself), she has the right to choose whether to express her angry feelings directly or to bury her anger in her delicate chest. Some royal sisters will have a spirit of "offering sacrifices to God", and they will assume each other's innocence in advance. The result of a period of reflection is usually to turn anger into a feeling of sacrifice. But in reality, patience is probably the choice of most royal sisters in most cases, which depends on your expectation of the consequences and your confidence in your ability, which we acquiesce in.
In the network, in this case, the royal elder sister will be eager for the means and strength of revenge, showing her violent and vicious side. Both reality and network can provide a stage for performance. Because the way of royal elder sister is not a pure ethical framework, we will only supervise the good and evil in the words and deeds of royal elder sister in a neutral way, and will not make biased comments, but anger with the characteristics of royal elder sister is also the etiquette we want to explain.
For anger, the royal elder sister should know the difference between it and argument, so the most important taboo for the royal elder sister to deal with this situation is nonsense. If the royal elder sister can't control the situation and let it turn into confrontation, it is shame and failure. Royal elder sister's anger should be like a natural force, try to judge right and wrong quickly, then make a decision and settle things. We are not playing a farce of neighborhood disputes, but following the guidance of "God" and implementing the will of "I". If the royal elder sister doesn't have the right to handle affairs by herself, she can try her best to be fluent in writing, clear in logic and complete in expression, calmly ask for a clear complaint in appropriate occasions, and can't involve accusations and doubts against irrelevant upper managers, no matter how the upper managers deal with it in the end, to avoid entanglement, especially with opposing parties. If the result is quite rebellious, we should be able to respect public opinion and question our own correctness. Therefore, we should either admit our mistakes and endure them, or simply fade out of that group to avoid duplication, noise and infighting. If the royal elder sister herself is highly manipulative, then things will be much simpler. Your personality is law, chaos, good and evil, and you should only decide the outcome rather than the process. However, you should be prepared for possible consequences, which depends on your strength.
In fact, there is another kind of anger, that is, complaining and anger. We think this is not only an opportunity to show the strength of the royal elder sister, but also a pleasant opportunity. You can even use curses, such as the national curse "damn" in the eyes of Mr. Lu Xun. But since you are a royal elder sister, even such an opportunity should have the consciousness of showing grace. Reading "fuck" loudly with the pronunciation of "he meows" skillfully neutralizes the rudeness and inner show of royal sisters' humanity, which not only achieves the purpose of venting, but also makes people laugh, and is suitable for all types of royal sisters. Royal elder sister should have the courage and dedication to pursue and enjoy the relationship between men and women in her mind or the relationship between men and women.
There is a long-standing dispute about the love view of the royal elder sister in one detail, that is, whether we should tolerate the erosion of other people's love. Some people think that this kind of behavior violates the fundamental significance of the royal elder sister to serve others with virtue, and sacrifices the interests of some people to meet the needs of two people. Some people think that being a royal elder sister needs to dare to love and hate. Dare to confront the big environment is a high-level embodiment of the strength of the royal elder sister and a special way to show the charm of the royal elder sister to the world, which should be recognized. The point of view represented by this paper is that people who support this kind of behavior mainly take Yujie control as the mainstream, but our Yujie does not exist for Yujie control, and Yujie control cannot form a causal relationship with Yujie. Therefore, we still adhere to the fundamental virtue of being a royal sister, adhere to the fundamentalism of the royal sister's declaration, hold a clear opposition to the act of eroding others' love, hold an inclusive and critical attitude towards the royal sister who made this mistake, and reserve the right to investigate and assert that her royal sister may be disqualified.
After making a clear position, we can continue to discuss the love etiquette of Yujie. We can divide the royal elder sister's love needs into erotic needs and love needs, among which erotic needs will be discussed in detail in Section 5 of this article. The following etiquette instructions are only for royal sisters who need love.
The etiquette of royal elder sister's love is based on her disqualification in the final analysis, including two representative norms. One is that the royal elder sister should have her own reserved grasp of the object she loves, and can't break through the boundary between good and evil. The other is that the royal elder sister should properly handle the relationship between lovers and others, and can't lose charm and give up honor in front of anyone because of one person. We know that love is very exclusive. To achieve this etiquette standard, unless you have given up the right to love once from the beginning, then only when you reach a certain rational height can you maintain a quality balance between your emotional investment in love and your surpassing investment in love, which will be manifested in your attitude towards people in practice. A well-done royal elder sister can even turn the nourishment of love into investment in other things, strengthen her own royal elder sister spirit, and let the surrounding. Yujie has a natural affinity for Zheng Tai. For a new royal elder sister, getting Zheng Tai's sincere approval and shaping her spirit and self-confidence is a compulsory basic course, and as long as you are a royal elder sister, you can't abandon this technology. As for how to define Zheng Tai, it is actually very simple. As long as you call your sister verbally and honestly, it is in your definition, but it is your further work to truly gain his deep recognition.
Royal elder sister want Zheng Tai sincerely agree, not the name "elder sister", but your skill and strength. This article only introduces the application of etiquette in skills, and the etiquette that Royal Sister should have for Zheng Tai. The following is our summary:
I, Royal Sister, should have the sincerity to accept Zheng Tai.
Second, the royal elder sister should have a choice about how to get along with each other.
Three. Yujie should have patience to accept Zheng Tai's conversation.
Ⅳ. The Royal Sister should carefully give Zheng Tai the guidance he needs.
ⅴ, royal elder sister can molest Zheng Tai, as long as he is willing to.
ⅵ. Yujie can change the realistic road of Zheng Tai with her own ability.
ⅶ, the royal elder sister must control the limits of her contribution to Zheng Tai.
Eight, the royal elder sister must understand that Zheng Tai has no obligation to pay for himself. To plan the etiquette of the royal elder sister, we must first understand the relationship between the royal elder sister and the royal elder sister. We believe that the ideal state of existence among the royal sisters should be a mutually beneficial relationship with loose grades, no class opposition, resistance to division in the collective and competition among individuals.
In the general advocacy, the royal elder sister and the royal elder sister should respect each other, stare at each other, cooperate with each other, know each other cautiously based on the tacit understanding of * * *, and maintain the unity of the royal elder sister group as a whole. But sometimes, there are regular conflicts between royal sisters. For the time being, we think both sides have certain strength. According to common sense, royal sisters who have a certain understanding of each other's situation will consciously avoid direct confrontation with royal sisters with similar strength, but strengthen their own ability and strength to achieve potential competition. But under the action of a wire, this undercurrent is uncertain when it will become an open confrontation. We can accept this situation, and it doesn't hurt to convey the spirit of the royal sister. Fortunately, in most cases, the final result of this confrontation is that both sides give their opponents a step down and end a confrontation with dignity. The outcome is judged by people. This result is generally predicted by both sides in advance, although one of the reasons for the outbreak of confrontation is that both sides have confidence in winning.
In the etiquette of royal elder sister and royal elder sister, the biggest enemy is the deterioration of jealousy, so we must be vigilant.
The above does not introduce business etiquette, public relations etiquette, banquet etiquette, catering etiquette, social etiquette and so on. We believe that these manners are not so much as a royal sister, but rather as a kind of etiquette for a person. Although not representative enough in this context, it is the basic etiquette for all royal sisters to survive in society.
There is a very common example-do you waste food on the table?
In contrast, what we don't want to see is that even in the eyes of many royal sisters, eating badly is far more unacceptable than wasting things, but the virtues we are committed to are not negotiable. I hope your will stick to our agreement.