? After laughing, think about it carefully and feel it makes sense.
Thinking about it again, that doesn’t seem to be the case.
What made the theory of "grabbing a man's stomach" famous may be traced back to the sentence in Zhang Ailing's novel "Lust, Caution": The road to a man's heart leads to his stomach. Having said that, if you want to control a man's heart, you must naturally guard the stomach, which is an important checkpoint.
Does this sentence make sense?
? Of course.
The famous actor Xu Fan once said that the secret to his stable marriage to Feng Xiaogang was to capture his stomach. Feng Xiaogang is very busy at work and has very irregular meals. Xu Fan felt sorry for her husband's stomach, so she often made "love lunches" for him.
? Most people believe that it is natural for women to cook. This view has probably existed since the beginning of human existence. Since ancient times, men have hunted and women have gathered, men have brought back ingredients and women have cooked. When a man has been running around outside all day, what awaits him when he comes home is a steaming meal, and the warm feeling of fullness washes away the hard work of the whole day. For them, the meal cooked by their wife means home, a care that is difficult to let go of. Therefore, this woman who can bring him this sense of satisfaction naturally becomes a bond that he cannot break away from, and is moved from the inside out, from the stomach to the heart.
Perhaps, this is something that has been ingrained in men’s genes since ancient times. That meal is more than just a meal for men. It is a woman's gentle smile, expectant eyes, anxious waiting, the fireworks of life in the hustle and bustle of the city, home, a safe haven, and the simple reality of human connection. After working hard for a living outside for a day, when you get home, you can smell the aroma of the food in the kitchen and hear your wife's words of hard work, and you can relax your body and mind in an instant. At home, men no longer have to wear suits and ties, and they don’t have to be flattering. Instead, they can return to the state of children, talking and laughing casually, and not sticking to trivial matters.
? At this time, men actually no longer care about what they eat and whether it tastes good or not. What he wants is just this feeling of relaxation. A taste, a attachment.
Just like the "mother's smell" that many people always miss. It may not be because the food cooked by mother is as delicious as the chefs in high-end restaurants, but because the taste of mother is home, warmth, and unreserved love and longing for her children. However, can you really make a man stay by your side wholeheartedly by serving him delicious food and drinks every day?
? Of course not.
? I know a woman, A. Not pretty. Therefore, based on the principle of catching a man's stomach, he has developed good cooking skills. Just listening to her daily recipes made me feel envious as I only know how to scramble tomatoes and eggs and often scramble them to paste, and I also felt a little guilty towards my Mr. Yin. I thought that just for this meal, her husband would have to go home early every day.
? Unexpectedly, one day, I heard A complain that my husband was away from home every night. I cooked a table of dishes, but he said he wouldn't go home to eat and would have to work overtime. Who are you kidding? He is a small employee in a public institution. What kind of overtime can he do? Nothing more than playing games in the office. I don't go home until 11 o'clock after playing. I would rather eat KFC at work.
I was very surprised and asked her why. A replied that she didn’t know either. I asked again, how nice it would be for the whole family to sit together, eat and chat. Why not enjoy such a good life?
A said, there is no time to chat. After eating, I have to help my son with his homework and practice piano with him. My son is asleep and I have to be busy with work. Besides, my husband eats a lot. I was afraid that my son would not eat enough, so I always asked him to finish eating first and then he would eat. Moreover, after being married for so many years, what else is there to talk about. If you talk too much, you will easily quarrel if you disagree, so it is better not to talk at all.
? So, I finally understood why her husband would rather eat KFC than go home for dinner.
? Because what men care more about is actually the gentleness behind the diet. In other words, a tender woman is more attractive to men than a delicious meal.
? There are many women, like A, who are really the so-called good wives and mothers. I am extremely busy every day, the house is kept clean, the children are taken care of, and the meals are prepared in a variety of ways. Of course, you still have to go to work. Make yourself like a top that can't stop. At the end of the day, I was so tired that I could hardly get up, so my exhaustion inevitably turned into a nagging feeling.
? At first, the man nodded in response, but as time went by, he got tired of it and didn’t even bother to respond.
? Such a state will cause women to nag even harder and men to escape even more helplessly.
? As a result, men will come home late, work overtime, and socialize.
? If a gentle woman appears at this time, any man with a little less determination may be at risk of making a mistake.
Even this mistress can’t cook at all.
It can be seen that a meal is very important, but it is not that important.
? It will not make a man obsessed, but it will make a man nostalgic.
? The key lies in how the woman behind this meal faces it.
? If you regard it as a communication of love and pour your deep affection into it, even if the meal itself has no taste, it will make people enjoy it. If you treat it as a responsibility, a task to be completed every day, and mix your own injustice and helplessness into it, even a delicacy will be difficult to swallow.
? Just like Xu Fan's success, in fact, it lies more in "love" than in "convenience".
? Therefore, if you want to capture a man's heart, you must first capture his stomach, which is not that easy. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be a big hit for those chef schools.
In the management of marriage, a meal is really important.
? But the important thing is not just a meal.