Especially in the past, rural people basically lived in the same area, and they were all related by blood, and to some extent, they were related.
The countryside is a society that pays special attention to human feelings. They pay more attention to reciprocity, and every family will share something good with their neighbors.
Moreover, rural people always look up but don't look down, and rural areas also pay special attention to neighborhood relations, so that neighbors around them can take the lead when they have difficulties at home. As the saying goes, far water can't hydrolyze near fire.
I believe that partners who have lived in rural areas have relatively large living areas in rural areas, and most rural families will bring their own yards.
Especially when rural families meet happy events, they will choose to hold banquets at home, which is more economical than hotels in cities.
Generally, when there is a happy event in rural areas, relatives and friends around me will be invited to attend. I especially like to attend banquets since I was a child.
This is mainly due to the harsh living environment in the past, and the big fish and meat that can only be eaten at the banquet table are foods that cannot be seen in daily life.
And rural people pay special attention to rules and etiquette, especially weddings and funerals.
First, no one can attend the wedding ceremony.
There is a saying in the countryside that people don't blame Hong Li and don't accept Bai Li.
This sentence reflects the marriage culture of rural people, mainly from ancient times to the present. Most people want their relatives and friends to know about the important events at home. Generally speaking, China uses red to express the festive atmosphere.
Friends who have been to the president of the countryside all know that the bride's family usually uses red things to express happiness, and red gives people a feeling of wealth, so that life can be more prosperous.
So rural families usually have children or get married. These big things will invite relatives and friends in advance, and generally close friends will take the initiative to bring gifts.
Not very popular in our hometown. We usually give money directly when we bring gifts to weddings, but for rural people, going to other people's weddings or having a full moon wine is called accompanying wine.
Generally, there will be a special person at the gate of the countryside to record in the little red book, which records which family gave how much money, and the owner will return the money in the future.
People who come to the banquet are also happy, and the money they bring is also a blessing to the couple.
But in recent years, many rural people have been working outside, and some people may not be able to get to their hometown in time because of work. Even so, they will transfer the money to the newcomers in other ways.
These people can't get to the scene, and the owner won't be angry. This time, as long as the money is in place, it is important.
This sentence confirms what rural people say, happy people can be absent, but the money must be in place.
Second, Bai Li must be human.
Then the second sentence means that rural people should be polite not only to others, but also to others when doing white things.
In addition to dressing up for festive events, the elderly in rural areas will hold a heavy funeral for the elderly when they leave this world, which is also a custom handed down from the previous society.
Then why are rural people unhappy when they are not at the scene and only give money?
This is mainly because someone died in the rural family, and the family members were particularly sad. At this point, everyone is immersed in grief.
Moreover, the funeral is also an extremely time-consuming and labor-intensive thing, and the strength of a family alone is not enough.
At this time, we need to mobilize the resources around us. At this time, rural people will inform relatives and friends in advance. This is not to let them come and be happy, but to let them come and help.
At this time, the importance of personality can be reflected. Some people always feel that it is especially unlucky to hold a funeral in order not to cause trouble. They are unwilling to attend the funeral.
In this case, it will be spurned by rural people, especially hate this kind of behavior.
At this time, if neighbors and friends only know how to send money but don't go to the scene or mourn the dead, it will also make rural people particularly chilling and rude.
Summary:
Some rural people are particularly afraid of trouble and don't want to run other people's business.
When this happens to these people themselves, people around them will not be willing to lend a helping hand.
At this time, rural people just want to help, not money. This is also the way for rural people to get along.