1. Good health;
2. Lively and cheerful, with good psychological quality;
3. Good conduct and noble moral sentiments;
You can master the course well.
In a word, Sunshine Teenager is a teenager with all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty.
In real life, some students are often confused and annoyed. Students who are always unable to get up in academic performance will feel stupid and lonely. They have no real friends and cannot be understood by their parents, classmates and teachers. What's the matter? There is something wrong with the mentality. How powerful is the mentality? There is a short story that can tell us the influence of mentality on people:
A professor asked nine people to do an experiment. He took them to a dark room and said, "You nine listen to my command, cross this winding bridge under your feet and don't fall. But it doesn't matter if you fall, there is some water under it. " Nine people understood and groped their way. Then, the professor turned on a yellow light. By the dim light, nine people saw not only a little water under the bridge, but also several crocodiles crawling. They were startled and glad that they had not fallen just now. The professor asked at the other end of the bridge, "Who dares to walk back now?" No one dares to leave. The professor went on to say, "You should use psychological hints to imagine yourself walking on a solid iron bridge." He induced for a long time, and finally three people stood up and were willing to try. The first man was trembling and spent twice as long crossing the bridge; The second man was trembling, and he couldn't hold on any longer after walking halfway, so he was scared to lie on the bridge; The third man took three steps and never dared to go any further. The professor then turned on all the lights, and everyone found a net between the bridge and the crocodile. The net is yellow. I couldn't see it clearly under the yellow light just now. So, most people are not afraid, and a few people will come soon. In the end, only one person dared not leave. The professor asked him, "What's the matter with you?" The man said, "I'm afraid the net is not strong."
The principle revealed by this experiment is that mentality affects ability. Therefore, the mentality is good and the ability is enhanced; Bad mentality, weakened ability. Mentality has such great power that it affects you from the inside out. If you feel unlucky, you will find countless facts to prove that you are unlucky; If you say you are really lucky, you will find countless facts to prove that you are a lucky one. If you are an inner fire, you can release light and heat; If you are a piece of ice in your heart, it is still zero even if it melts. If you want to warm others, you must have heat in your heart; If you want to illuminate others, please illuminate yourself first; If you want to illuminate yourself, you must first illuminate your heart. How to illuminate the heart? Light a heart lamp and shape the sunshine mentality.
So, how to shape the sunshine mentality? There are many ways, and I can give you a few here:
The first method: change your attitude.
If you can't change things, change your attitude towards them. A person's injury because of what happened is not as serious as his view of things. The matter itself is not important, what matters is what people think of it.
There is an idiom called "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise". In the ancient East, there was a wise man. One of his horses was lost, and the neighbor said, "You are really unlucky." The wise man replied, "I don't know if it is good or bad." Soon, the lost horse came back with a wild horse, and the neighbor said, "You are lucky to have another horse." The wise man replied, "I don't know if it is good or bad." Soon, the wise man's son rode a wild horse, fell off the horse and broke his leg. The neighbor said, "You are really unlucky. You have such a son whose leg is broken. " The wise man replied, "I don't know if it is good or bad." After a while, the emperor recruited soldiers and many young people were killed on the battlefield. The wise man's son was lucky to survive, because his leg was broken and he could not fight. So in the long run, we don't know whether anything is good or bad. Things are like a coin, sometimes it may be heads, a few days later it may be tails, and then it may turn over. If everything is divided into two, people will become rational and free and easy.
Changing attitude can often produce passion. With passion, there will be fighting spirit to strive for progress, and the result will often change. There is a classic case in China: In ancient times, two scholars, A and B, went to catch the exam and saw a coffin on the way. A said, "What bad luck! I met a coffin, and this exam is dead. " B said: "coffin, promotion and wealth, it seems that my luck has come, and I will definitely be admitted this time." When answering questions, their efforts are different. As a result, A dropped out of the list and B was admitted. When they got home, they all said to their wives, "That coffin is really clever."
This case shows that mentality can affect people's ability, and ability can change people's destiny. Ensuring a good mood at the moment is the basis for ensuring a good mood all day. If you can keep a good mood every day, you will get a good quality of life and experience a wonderful life that others can't.
The second method: enjoy the process.
Enjoy the process and make every day wonderful. Life is a process, not a result. If you don't enjoy the process, everyone knows what the result is. Life is a bracket: the bracket on the left is birth and the bracket on the right is death. All we have to do is fill in the brackets with a good life and a good mood.
There was a young man who thought he had seen through the world of mortals and sat lazily under the tree in the sun every day. A wise man asked him, "Young man, why don't you make money at such a good time?" The young man said, "It's boring. If you make money, you have to spend it. " The wise man asked again, "Why don't you get married?" The young man said, "It's boring. If you can't get it, you have to divorce. " The wise man said, "Why don't you make friends?" The young man said, "It's boring. If you make friends, you will turn against each other. " The wise man gave the young man a rope and said, "why don't you hang yourself?" You have to die anyway. You might as well die now. " The young man said, "I don't want to die." The wise man went on to say, "Life is a process, not a result." The young man suddenly realized that this is called "a word to wake up the dreamer."
The third way: live in the present.
The real meaning of living in the present comes from Zen. Someone asked a Zen master, what is it to live in the present? The Zen master replied that eating is eating and sleeping is sleeping. This is called living in the present.
If you ask everyone, what is the most important thing for you? Who is the most important person? What time is the most important? Some people may say that the most important things are promotion, getting rich, buying a house and a car, the most important people are parents, lovers and children, and the most important time is exams, interviews, games and rest. I'm telling you, none of these things exist. The most important thing is what you do now. The most important person is the person you are with now. The most important time is now. This view is called living in the present. Living in the moment, you should learn to discover every good thing that happens to you and believe that your life is unfolding in the best way. If you don't live in the present, you will lose the present.
A country girl milked a can of milk, put it on her head, and then began to think: this can be sold for a few dollars, and you can buy some chickens. When a chicken grows up, it can lay many eggs. When a chicken grows up, it can lay many eggs. The money of these eggs is enough for me to buy a beautiful skirt. I put on my skirt and danced in the palace. My dance attracted the prince, who invited me to dance. This is "if you don't live in the present, you will lose the present".
The fourth method: emotional independence
Emotional independence means not to base our happiness on other people's behavior. We can only grasp ourselves. On one occasion, Su Dongpo and Zen master Fo Yin visited the temple and found that Guanyin Bodhisattva in the temple was also holding prayer beads. Su Dongpo asked: "People use rosary when they read Guanyin, and who uses rosary when they read Guanyin?" Fo Yin replied: "I still read Guanyin." Su Dongpo asked again: "Why does Guanyin still read Guanyin and read himself?" Fo Yin's answer is: "It is better to ask yourself than to ask others. Therefore, if you want to have a good attitude, you must learn to be emotionally independent. Some people are always worried about the future. If what you are worried about is beyond your control, let it be, and don't rock the boat. We can only consider what we can, do our best if we can, and let him go if we can't. "
The fifth method: learn to be grateful.
When business owners recruit college students, the first thing to look at is whether they are filial to their parents. If you are not filial to your parents, you will not be loyal to the enterprise. When recruiting, he will ask, "What do you do in winter and summer vacations?" The applicant replied, "Play, travel and have a rest." He asked again, "Do you often go home?" They said, "Come back often." The boss then asked, "What are you doing?" They said, "Let's have dinner and chat with our classmates." The boss finally asked, "What are you doing at home?" They said, "Sleep and watch TV." The boss is dissatisfied with such a candidate: "Why don't you mention honoring your parents?" You can help your parents do some work and tell them about the university. "
To learn to be grateful, it is very important to be grateful to your parents first. There is Thanksgiving in the west, and everyone will thank others for their help on that day. Many people will send a short message to all those who have helped, supported and cared about themselves, thanking them for their concern. You send a text message, others will reply, and send a text message to someone who needs gratitude. This will have a chain reaction, everyone will have a very happy Thanksgiving, and interpersonal relationships will become more harmonious. Gratitude can make people happy. There is a saying in the west that eating vegetables with love is more fragrant than eating beef with hate.
The sixth law: "heaven" and "hell" are made by heart.
Whether a person is happy or not has nothing to do with wealth, status and power in essence. Happiness is determined by thoughts and mentality, and the heart can create "heaven" or "hell". There is an interesting story: God took a man to hell, and this man found that everyone in hell was bony. They all drink porridge with a special spoon. The handle of the spoon is very long and the head of the spoon is very small. Not only can I not drink it at all, but the porridge I scooped out is also spilled on the ground. Finally, there was no porridge in the bucket, and everyone complained and hated each other. God took this man to heaven again. He found that everyone in heaven was chubby and smiling. They eat the same porridge with the same spoon, but they scoop it out and feed it to others. You feed me, I feed you. As a result, everyone eats porridge. This means learning to be kind to the people around you. Someone said, "I have many close friends, but they are all in Xinjiang, and the water is far away and thirsty." Some people even regard their classmates as enemies. This is not right. It is your colleagues and people around you who can help you in time at critical moments. If you treat others as demons, you will live in "hell"; If you treat others as angels, you will live in "heaven". If you can turn others into demons, you are creating "hell"; If you can turn others into angels, you are creating a "paradise". How can we turn others into angels? Learn to be grateful, appreciative, giving and tolerant.
The seventh method: learn to bend if the pressure is too great.
There is such a case: a couple in Canada always quarrel and are on the verge of divorce. So they decided to travel and try to save their marriage. When they came to a north-south valley in Quebec, they were surprised to find that the east slope of the valley was covered with all kinds of trees, while the west slope was only cedar. Why is there such a big difference between east and west slopes? Why can only cedar survive on the west slope? Later, they found that the snow was heavy on the west slope and light on the east slope, while the branches of cedar were softer. If there was more snow, the branches would bend and fall behind, and the branches would recover. Other trees are stiff, and finally the branches will be crushed by snow and the trees will die. They understand that when people are under great pressure, they should also learn to give in. The husband quickly reviewed to his wife: "It's all my fault, I didn't do it right." As soon as the wife listened to her husband's review, she immediately said, "I didn't do enough." So the two made up.
No matter how sharp the knife is, it is useless to break it at the touch. When there are some frictions and contradictions between classmates, we might as well calm down, hold our heads high and say "I'm sorry" to our classmates and friends, and even the biggest things will be solved.
Life is magnificent because of self-confidence, creates the future because of passion, and creates today because of mentality. If you are in a good mood, you will find the desert song for you, and the grass dances for you; If you are in a bad mood, you will find that the open rose is crying and the rushing stream is crying. This is called love born from the heart, heart born. We compare life to a buffet dinner. What you eat is your choice, and you have what you choose. Students, let's start from the little things around us, be a lively and cheerful person with good ideology and morality, study hard, love classes, unite with classmates, be helpful and be healthy physically and mentally!