The specific customs of marrying women are different in different parts of the country, so do you know the difference between the marriage customs of the north and the south? What are the wedding customs in Beijing? What is the custom of marrying a woman in Shanghai? Let's take a look at the specific customs of marrying women in various places.
The specific custom of marrying a daughter 1 1. What are the customs of marrying a daughter?
1. When a woman gets married, she has a goal when choosing who can't go to see her off, and this goal is based on the requirement that farewell banks need to "live". In this custom, all living people choose to send their relatives, so that parents are alive, the original husband and wife are married, brothers and sisters are accompanied, and children enjoy their knees.
2. When a woman gets married, parents, aunts and aunts can't send her: there is a popular folk saying that parents don't send her, aunts don't marry, and aunts send sick sentences. In fact, they are afraid that these immediate family members will cry when they say goodbye, which will bring bad meanings to the couple.
3. Avoid sending pregnant women: In ancient times, people thought pregnant women symbolized lotus flowers. When the bride gets married, pregnant women should not give it to each other, so they should avoid it, otherwise it will bring lotus disaster to the couple.
4. The bride can't stay alone: someone needs to accompany the bride all the time. The person accompanying the bride should be chosen from relatives and friends. She must get married, have parents and in-laws, have children, and preferably both, so she is called Quanren. Folklore believes that "whole person" is a lucky person, and they can bring the same good luck to new people.
5, avoid eating wedding cakes: distributing wedding cakes to relatives and friends means bringing joy to relatives and friends and sharing the joy of the wedding, but in the gift, the bride of the man can not eat the wedding cake, and the bride eats the wedding cake, which means that she has eaten her own joy.
6. If you go back to your hometown three days after marriage, don't stay at your mother's house. You must go back to your husband's house before dark. You can't stay at your mother's house. If you can't go back under any special circumstances, the husband and wife must also sleep in separate rooms to avoid the lotus on the bride's honeymoon colliding with your mother's house.
7. You are not allowed to attend weddings and funerals within 100 days after the wedding. The bride and groom are also called newlyweds, which means the beginning of a new life. If you attend the wedding, you will inevitably meet another couple. People think that two couples will collide when they meet, and the funeral will bring bad luck to your new life.
Second, what's the point of marrying a prostitute?
Marrying a daughter has been a custom for thousands of years. This kind of wedding quilt is usually sewn by her mother-in-law. It is considered unlucky to exchange new cotton for cotton and sew wedding quilts with old cotton. The old man said it meant "the old man", and his married life would be unhappy. Some families with better family conditions will marry a few silks as a dowry. Quilts should also be even, indicating pairs, because the singular has always been an unlucky symbol in etiquette!
In addition, this kind of happiness is called "lovesick quilt" in some areas, because the homonym of "quilt" is "for life", so giving a quilt in the dowry means giving your daughter's life to the man. It is a wish for the newlyweds to live a better life. I hope the couple can grow old together and have a happy life. In addition, the more wedding quilts in the dowry, the richer the woman's family.
Dowry is dazzling, but a bed with good texture and auspicious style is essential. In the past, in the south of the Yangtze River, wealthy people would draw several silk quilts as their favorite quilts. On the one hand, silk quilts are comfortable and durable, and they are rare and expensive. On the other hand, it is a good color "lingering, staying together".
Nowadays, times have changed, but family ties have been passed down from generation to generation. Silk quilt is light, soft and beautiful, and gradually becomes the best choice for quilts.
Third, what parents who marry prostitutes are most worried about.
1, the bride price is high, people say that you are greedy for money and the bride price is low, for fear that your daughter will be wronged when she gets married!
2, people who have no money look down on them, and rich people are afraid of being looked down upon!
3, few brothers, worried about the heavy burden of old-age care! Brother duo, I'm worried about the old man's eccentricity!
The specific customs of marrying a woman 2. Marriage customs in different parts of China.
Marriage customs in Beijing;
The first step: bride price
After the parents of both men and women are arranged, blind date and engaged, the man sends a bride price to the woman's house, indicating that she is designated as his wife. Part of the dowry is symbolic. Tea, snack boxes, wine and clothes should be given to the woman as dowry. )
Step two: marry him
After receiving the dowry from the man, the woman will send the dowry from her mother's family to the man's house one afternoon before marriage. Some people intend to repay their dowry. In principle, the man's dowry is doubled. (But now it is usually the man who prepares the new house, and the dowry of the woman is generally the furniture and appliances of the new house, which is more practical. )
Step 3: Get married
When the auspicious day arrived, the deacon came to the door, the bride's family was busy getting on the sedan chair, and the husband's family was busy getting married. Ostentation and extravagance are big and grand, and there are many ceremonies. Although modern weddings are not as exquisite as those in ancient times, sedan chairs are replaced by cars, and there are also special ceremonies and wedding companies to handle the wedding, but the whole wedding ceremony is used!
Step 4: Sit in the bridal chamber.
After worshipping heaven and earth, the couple went to the kang to catch the hijab, and the couple formally met. After visiting the church, you should "build a new house." Newlyweds have some rituals, such as eating children's cakes, drinking toasts, making beds and serving the first class. It runs through the theme of wishing the newlyweds happiness. The custom of toasting is becoming more and more obvious now. The bridal chamber doesn't have to be noisy, and the wedding reception is the most lively! )
Step 5: Go back to the door
After the wedding night, the next morning, the newlyweds should worship God, Buddhism and Buddhism together, and meet their parents and other elders for naming and recognizing their size.
On the third day after the wedding, the bride usually goes back to her mother's house to say goodbye to her father, brothers and relatives. This is the so-called "back to the door", also known as "back to the wine." Usually early in the morning, the bride's family will send someone to pick her up in a carriage. Before leaving, the bride will kowtow to her in-laws, and then take a carriage with the groom to pick her up. After arriving at the bride's family, the newlyweds should salute the ancestral tablet of the Buddha in the family hall, and then kowtow to the woman's parents and elders.
After watching the ceremony, they held a banquet to invite the newlyweds to drink. After dinner, the groom goes home alone, and the bride won't come back until evening. Although there are few matchmakers in this era and there are not many complicated details, the tradition of simplification has been passed down. )
Shanghai Marriage Custom Shanghai old-style marriage, the combination of men and women, the rate is mostly the words of the media, the life of parents. After the opening of Shanghai, this custom was abandoned and improved, and was introduced by men and women. After being introduced, they looked at each other at the agreed place. This is called "blind date".
There are also men and women who, after getting to know each other, agree on a place and ask their parents to come and see it, which is also called "blind date". After the two sides are satisfied with each other, they should also invite a respected person to be a formal matchmaker. Because this matchmaker does not actually play the role of introduction, it is called "ready-made matchmaker", from which we can see the influence of the old custom that "marriage must have three media and six certificates" After the woman's family agrees, the man's family will give a "small gift", commonly known as "cutting red", which will send a birthday, that is, a future grandfather.
After a considerable period of time, the man's family will have a "dish ceremony" to entertain relatives and friends to inform relatives and neighbors that the marriage has been decided.
Shanghai Pudong Customs:
In rural Pudong, this "Yue Bai" ceremony was held the day before the bride's family received the betrothal gift. The groom-to-be picked up a "plate" filled with gifts such as cock, herring, pig leg, goose and dried fruit, and the bride-to-be entertained the bride-to-be for tea, and then told him how much dowry the bride-to-be had and how much rope, horizontal bar and burden she needed, because this was for the man.
In the rural areas of Pudong (especially Fengxian area), there are still many men who go to the woman's house to marry their dowry. Overnight, the woman's family has put all the dowry in the living room, just like holding an Expo, attracting neighbors to visit and show off their wealth. Here, the makeup has not been fully enjoyed. A group of young people (in pairs) who came from the man's house with a shoulder pole with the word "Xi" written on it and Kuang Luo have arrived at the woman's door and set off firecrackers to welcome the makeup.
According to custom, the man's makeup man must obey the instructions of her father and brother at this time. For example, makeup tools should be placed in a fixed place: poles and poles are beside firewood in the yard, and Kuang Luo and baskets are placed in the yard. The custom is that at this time, the woman's family will not wear makeup to express "anger", and the man's family will knock gongs and set off firecrackers to constantly "urge makeup". This will attract more audiences and satisfy both men and women. If so, after about 1 ~ 2 hours, the bride's brother got her sister's permission and began to make up: first go to the toilet, then the bedding and suitcase. ...
At this time, the makeup artist stood outside the door and could only step into one foot at most to take makeup in the threshold, so as not to be suspected of "grabbing makeup". As for the toilet where one combs one's hair and makes up first, it is also called "tong tong" in Shanghai custom. In the old society, women gave birth at home, and children all gave birth in the toilet, so the toilet is an important thing to wish children and grandchildren a happy marriage. After accepting the betrothal gift, the boys can't stop running back all the way, and some will run east or south when they come out of their girls' homes. This is the so-called "taking dragons". Custom thinks it is so lucky.
The specific customs of marrying a woman 3 Heilongjiang wedding customs 1. Preparation before departure
1, four bride price: divorced mother meat (2 ribs), 2 fish, 4 green onions and 4 vermicelli.
Cover the big well behind the new building with red paper.
3. The bride-to-be wears guest flowers, and the bride and groom corsage and wedding corsage are not worn for the time being.
4. The bride and groom should have even numbers (generally 8 people, 10, 12).
5. The total number of wedding motorcades (excluding video cars) should be doubled (generally 6,8, 10).
6. The groom is set off by elders, boys, girls and other related relatives. Generally speaking, when he went, the number of people was odd and when he came back, it was even.
Second, to the bride's family.
1, knocking at the door: the groom knocks at the door to ask his mother to open the door, and his father opens the door (it is difficult for the family to open the door, but it should not take too long).
2. Recognize relatives: the bride's parents stand at the door to meet the man's relatives, and the groom introduces them to his parents-in-law (starting from the elders). After shaking hands, the two sides entered the room and sat down. The bride's parents and her parents' relatives entertain the man's relatives to eat (commonly known as; Not empty talk or sweet talk).
3. Proposal: The groom kneels to propose to the bride and says a few romantic words that can impress the bride. The bride can embarrass the groom, but not for too long.
4. Wear corsage to each other: The bride and groom wear corsage to each other and take a group photo.
5. The groom changed his mind: the bride's parents sat down and the bride and groom stood facing their parents. The groom officially changed his name to Mom and Dad and made three bows. The groom gave his father a happy cigarette and a piece of candy, and his parents rewarded him with a small change (one for each parent, 100 1 yuan, representing a thousand good sons-in-law). Parents said a few words of exhortation, entrustment and blessing to the future life of the bride and groom.
6, eat noodles: a bowl of noodles and two eggs, the bride and groom eat each other.
7. Changing shoes: usually made by the bride's sister (if there is no sister, you can change to other relatives of the same generation or younger generation). The groom carried the bride into the car, and a piece of red cloth was laid under the new shoes. After my sister dressed the bride's shoes, the old shoes were put away. The groom rewarded his sister for changing shoes.
8. Relatives of both parties get on the bus, parents get on the bus first, and relatives of the man get on the bus later. Empty cars are not allowed. Four bride price gifts brought back half of other items except meat from mother.