First, preparation before engagement.
1. propose
The first thing the man should do is to propose to the woman's family, which is also an important form for parents to meet. Represents respect for the woman and also represents satisfaction with her. Then, when you go to the woman's house for the first time, you should bring gifts, usually wine, cigarettes, tea and so on. Of course, it also depends on whether the woman's parents drink or smoke. In addition, people pay more attention to health now, and it is also a good choice to send nutrition.
Talking about bride price
It is normal for the man to give a bride price, and he is not afraid to get it on the table. Therefore, it is also very appropriate to discuss the gift money on the day of proposing marriage. So how much is the gift money appropriate? There are two ways. The first way is to give as much as others give according to local customs. The second is for parents to discuss; Either way, it generally meets the requirements of the woman, but it also depends on the actual situation of the man.
Step 3: engagement party
After the gift money is negotiated, the two families can discuss the engagement date together. The woman's family will determine the number of people and the man will book a hotel. Wedding banquets are not as high-end as wedding banquets, but they need to be booked in advance, especially during the prime time of May Day and November, and many hotels also need to book in advance.
4. Engagement clothes
In Jiangsu, before engagement, both parents need to buy clothes for their future daughter-in-law or son-in-law. The man's house is for his wife, and the woman's house is for her son-in-law. I don't pay much attention to clothes, just a formal celebration.
Second, the day of engagement
Engagement means that two families get together for dinner and relatives and friends formally know each other. Of course, there are two important links to be completed on the day of engagement: first, the bride price, that is, the gift money or jewelry negotiated in advance, should be formally handed over to the woman today; In addition, the prepared ring can also be given to the woman to wear today, indicating that the other party is a gift. No matter which link it is, we must discuss it with both parents in advance to avoid unnecessary contradictions in getting along because some problems are not well communicated.
Third, the engagement party is over.
After the engagement party, the man will send the woman's family away. Remember that both parties should not say goodbye, because goodbye means remarriage.
The above is the engagement process in Jiangsu. Generally speaking, there are still many things to prepare. It should be noted that the money spent on engagement is the man's money, in fact, not only in Jiangsu, but also all over the country. From the beginning of engagement, the money is paid by the man, which brings a great burden to families with weak economic ability. So now some enlightened families will cancel their engagement and get married directly.