I always like to keep my own style and way of doing things, and I am also a straight-tempered person; I always feel that there are some people around me who are eloquent, sometimes I admire them, and sometimes I feel hypocritical; I am not a very talkative person. I feel that I have something to talk about, and I don't need to be at home when I have nothing to talk about. I have not formed the good habit of speaking.
I participated in a book donation activity and got the book "The so-called high emotional intelligence is talking" for free. I am also curious about what this kind of book is about, whether it can be understood by everyone and whether it can be integrated into actual work life, so I spent two or three hours reading it in two days.
The content of this book is very neat. When talking about every breakthrough and skill, we use practical examples to help us understand and digest. In the process of reading, we recall our own experiences and think what he said is really interesting, correct and close to life.
In order to help me remember, I also put all the knowledge points in the book into a mind map to help me summarize and review later, and then take out the book to read it carefully when necessary.
On the basis of the first book "Don't get stuck in talking", the author summarizes several points of this book, so that readers can better understand and use it, and help readers master and use the skills of wording perfectly:
1. Three steps to change "no" into "yes"
2. Seven Breakthroughs of Changing "No" into "Yes"
3. Eight skills of creating "epigrams"
The author describes breakthroughs and techniques as "wording recipes", just as we can make a delicious dish by following the recipes and practicing hard; You can also make a speech through the "wording menu".
Give an example from the book:
"I'm sorry, I suddenly have work to do. Cancel today's appointment. "
When dating, the other party calls like this.
This situation is very common, almost out of necessity. However, as the notified party, in addition to disappointment, there may be such feelings:
"The other party doesn't value me ..."
In this way, the original happy and excited mood will be shrouded in clouds. What's wrong with it? What's wrong with the hateful class teacher who suddenly added homework? Maybe. But the more critical issue is that such "wording" makes people feel that they are not taken seriously at all.
How about this?
"I'm sorry, I suddenly have work to do, but I'd rather see you."
Just change the wording and the other person's mood will be different immediately. There are two reasons.
The first reason is that I expressed my love with "I want to see you more".
The second reason is that through this expression, the original simple "canceling the appointment" has become "an obstacle to deepening the relationship between the two."
Similarly, if the wording is used reasonably, in our work and life, the probability of changing "no" into "yes" may be prompted for 2-3 times, which will be of great help and influence to our work and life over time.
Turning "no" into "yes" can be achieved in three steps:
Step 1: Don't speak your mind directly.
Step 2: Try to figure out each other's psychology.
Step 3: consider wording that suits the interests of the other party.
According to the above three steps, there are seven breakthroughs that can change our wording and express what we want to say.
Breakthrough 1: Do what you like-you can get the other person's good opinion and realize your expectations.
? "This shirt is all that's left."
? "This kind of shirt sells quickly, and this is the last one."
Breakthrough 2: it can form a strong coercive force. This is the last resort of wording.
? "Please touch the exhibits."
? "It is coated with medicine, please don't touch it."
Breakthrough 3: freedom of choice-you can guide each other without leaving a sense of compulsion.
? "Do you want dessert?"
? "Which do you prefer, mango pudding or matcha ice cream?"
Breakthrough four: eager to be recognized-even if the other party is difficult to deal with, it will be willing to respond to expectations.
? "You clean the windows!"
? "You can climb high and polish the windows brighter. Please. "
Breakthrough 5: You have to-make the other person feel superior only if you are selected, so you are willing to respond.
? "Go for a drink?"
? "Only you have business experience can you participate."
Breakthrough 6: Teamwork-can make each other feel a sense of partnership, even if it is a troublesome request, they will be willing to accept it.
? "Come and organize the reception, too."
? "Let's organize a reception together."
Breakthrough 7: Thank you-it can make the other person have a vague sense of trust, so it is difficult to refuse easily.
? "Please move this table."
? "Please move this table. Thank you. "
It is more sincere to look at each other and say thank you.
1. Determine what you want to express.
Add appropriate surprise words
Ah, wow, yes, I was shocked, whoa, whoa! Oh, that's right! , alas, alas! , really! ? Unbelievable, (end of sentence)!
These are all sighs!
A "wording recipe" that can be completed in an instant.
1. Determine what you want to convey most.
2. Add antonyms to the first half of the sentence
3. Feel free to add other words to connect the preceding and following sentences.
Even if you forget other "wording recipes", remember this "wording recipe" that can create famous sayings.
1. Determine what you want to convey most.
2. Turn your body reaction into naked words.
3. Add "naked resignation" before what you want to convey.
For example, when you want to say "delicious", how does your body react?
Naked problem table
For example: when it is "very delicious"
Face? I couldn't help laughing.
Throat? → grunt
Lips? → lick your lips
Breathe? → a short pause
Eyes? → Want to close
Hair? → The whole body hair stands upright
Skin? → get goose bumps
In the brain? → a blank
Palm? laboured
Fingertips? → tremble
Blood flow? → become faster
Just find the strongest naked resignation from the answers to these questions and add it to the sentence.
The key to naked resignation's law is to use some embarrassing naked resignation. In this way, you can create explosive sentences.
A burning, embarrassing and exposed "wording menu".
1. Determine what you want to convey.
repeat
Through repetition, you can instill emotions and stay in each other's memories.
Very, very simple and easy to remember.
1. Don't suddenly say "What do you want to convey"
2. Start with the climax words
Climax vocabulary
"Please keep a secret"
"You will get it in the exam here."
"You are lucky to hear that."
"Just say it here."
"Don't take pictures next."
"Just say it once"
"There are two key points."
"I won't disclose it on other occasions."
"Only tell you one person"
"I want to confess."
In addition, as long as it contains the information of "what is important to say next", use the climax method.
Just don't forget this eye-catching "wording".
1. Determine what you want to convey.
2. Replace with the appropriate number
As long as you add "numbers" to the sentence, you can enhance your persuasiveness. In particular, adding numbers to commodity names or introductions is not only visually eye-catching, but also easy to understand.
From the perspective of language effect, even numbers such as 2, 4, 6, 8, 10 are soft, so they are weak. 1, 3, 5, 7, 9 and other odd numbers have angles, so they are strong.
95% people don't know the "wording menu" that uses numbers to enhance persuasiveness.
1. Select the main core word
2. Prepare a large number of synonymous candidates to replace secondary core words.
combine
If you think about the phenomena in the world, you will find that many names are composed of two words. Most new things in the world are made up of "two things combined".
If you can't find inspiration in the process of trying, please prepare more synonymous candidates for secondary core words, and you will definitely meet the right words.
It can be described as a "trend inventor" who created a buzzword "wording menu".
1. Determine what you want to convey.
2. Add appropriate vertex words
Using vertex method can give people a shock and attract their attention.
The most commonly used "words" on store shelves to create buying motives.
The breakthroughs and skills summarized in the above books are actually sometimes used in our lives, but we just don't pay special attention to them.
You need to practice hard and get into the habit to speak naturally!