The relationship between people, just like pulling a rubber band, can produce a subtle state with a little force. If you push too hard, it will break easily. When parents-in-law get along, children are like ties, which make the two families closely linked. Although, from the standpoint of children, they are all family. However, when you get along with your in-laws, you need to keep a proper distance limit. Zhou said: "Appropriate restrictions are a sign of mature love. It knows how to keep the necessary distance between people in interpersonal communication. " If the in-laws get along without a sense of boundaries, it will easily affect the relationship between the two families and the marital status of the young couple. It is the best policy for in-laws to get along, maintain superficial harmony and not interfere excessively with their housework. The two families help each other, which is conducive to family building and unity. However, when we are busy, we should try to help as little as possible. No matter how good the relationship is, it is meaningless to help the in-laws no matter how little. Figure 02. Help your in-laws as little as possible. As the saying goes, "every family has its own problems." Don't interfere with in-laws' family affairs at will, don't interfere at will, and try to help solve family affairs as little as possible. Because, it is easy to do bad things with good intentions and stimulate contradictions. Sheng Shulan in Do You Know married a local scholar, Sun. He is famous as a scholar, but his family is poor. Shulan brought a huge dowry and tried her best to serve her mother-in-law and take care of her husband. She used the wealth given by her family to supplement her husband's family, but her husband was ungrateful. Instead, he bullied Lan Shu in every way, making life very bad for him. If you give too much help to your in-laws, you will develop the habit of not knowing how to cherish and even being insatiable. Moreover, every family has different lifestyles and different life concepts. If you care too much about your in-laws' family affairs, you may actually put yourself in an awkward position. Because in this world, there is no real empathy. Different status and environment between people lead to different inner feelings and decisions. In-laws have to solve it themselves. Everyone, assuming their own responsibilities, can make the whole family develop harmoniously and become more and more happy. Figure 03. You owe too much to your in-laws, but as little as possible. No one can really help a person for a lifetime, and no one can really save the poor for a lifetime. If the in-laws have poor financial conditions, it is because they are not well managed. Then please don't give his family too much money to help their children. A family's financial deficit and poor management must be due to its own reasons. It is not terrible to enter the bottom of life. The terrible thing is that you always want to live by others. When in-laws are heavily in debt, don't just help pay off their debts. But to help them think of some ways to make money, find some jobs suitable for them, and let them stand on their own feet. On the road of life, you have to face any difficulties on your own.