When you reach the marriageable age, when your elders meet you, they will enthusiastically ask if you have a boyfriend and when you will get married. Once they get a negative answer, they will start to urge marriage, and then talk to you earnestly about the conditions that a good marriage partner should have. Everyone's standards are naturally different, but most elders will mention one thing, that is, you must find someone who can live a good life when you get married. Because only those who know how to live well can live well, and their married life will not be chaotic. Picture | Internet

I think this is not wrong at all. If there is no plan, life will be just like joking, how can you live a good life. But I didn’t expect that knowing how to live well and being stingy are really two different things, especially the “frugality” that only targets you and your family’s stinginess. I thought I had found a man with whom I could live a good life, but later, I found that I had found a stingy husband.

My husband and I met at work. He was a client of mine. The person I was originally working with asked for maternity leave, so he was roped in to help. Because of work, we spent a lot of time together, so we became more and more familiar with each other. When we get along, we often have dinner together because we often have to work overtime together. Unlike many boys who are careless and only focus on the taste of food, my husband is more concerned about whether there are discounts and whether it is a good deal.

What he means is that we eat to fill our stomachs. As long as we feel full, there is no need to spend more money for some aesthetics or taste. I didn't agree with what he said at first, but as the restaurants around us were quite good and reasonably priced, it took time. I found that not only did I have a delicious dinner, but I also saved a lot of money. I began to feel that my husband was good and a man who knew how to live a good life.

I completely forgot that he wasted an hour or two and delayed other things just to save a few bucks, so I just remembered to save money. When his colleague came back to work from maternity leave, he confessed his love to me, and I simply nodded in agreement. Now that I think about it, it’s really not something that comes naturally, but it’s something that I’ve become accustomed to. After we fell in love, he rarely gave me gifts, saying they were not affordable and that we were going to get married in the future, so it would be a good use of the money on our married life.

Comparing the love relationships of my peers around me, I naturally felt a little unbalanced, but I was still convinced by him. I told myself that my husband’s behavior was not stingy as my friend reminded me, he had a long-term vision and knew how to live well. My parents didn't agree with the marriage at first, but I insisted and we got married in the end. There is no betrothal gift, and the reason is naturally the same as before. Once you get married, you are a family. The money must be used wisely. There is no need to care about these formalities.

I started to really believe these words, but after getting married and actually living together, I realized that I was too stupid. His so-called "saving" is only for me and my natal family. When I was in love, I was reluctant to buy me gifts, reluctant to go to better restaurants, and reluctant to watch movies. It's not to save money, it's because he doesn't think it's necessary to spend money on me. Although my parents-in-law and my sister-in-law are not all famous brands, they are all very good. The key is that my husband spends the money.

I am not saying that it is wrong for a son to spend money on his parents and an elder brother to spend money on his sister. I wanted to express that I was wrong. He saves money not to live a good life, but because he is only stingy with me. After getting married, he no longer pursues saving money as before. He always emphasizes whether it is nutritious and he likes to try new products. There are many expensive ingredients. It turned out to be very simple. After getting married, I would bear the living expenses of the family.

I regret agreeing to his suggestion before we got married, because we wanted to buy a house by ourselves, and his salary was a little higher than mine. We agreed at the beginning that his salary would be saved and mine would be used for daily expenses. Now it seems that my salary is actually spent, and no one in my husband's family feels sorry for me. As for my husband’s salary, I don’t know if it is really saved. I am a more traditional person. I just got married. Although I was uncomfortable, I really didn't think about divorce. But later on, it seemed that I was really not sure how long I could hold on.

It was my mother’s birthday last week. This is the first time we have met my mother’s birthday since we got married. My husband, who is a son-in-law, should at least express his gratitude. Even if there is no expensive gift, buying a cake and treating my mother to a meal is the right thing to do. As a result, I told my husband a month ago and he didn’t know what to do. A few days later, I reminded him several times a day, and when I couldn't avoid it, he answered my question head-on.

My husband told me: "Birthdays are a matter for children and young people. Your mother is already old, so there is really no need to engage in these formalities. Just have a meal at home then." Well, at worst, I’ll go with you.” I tried to explain it with emotion and reason, but it was useless no matter what I said. He went to my mother's birthday empty-handed as expected. It would have been really embarrassing if I hadn't prepared the gift in advance. Just like that, he also complained that I spent money, saying that it would affect the purchase of a house.

I couldn't hold it back and complained to my parents. My mother said that I was the one who insisted on getting married in the first place. Now there are no other problems. I can only take it slow and see if he can change. . The next day, I insisted on seeing his savings, saying that if you don't let me see it, I won't be responsible for daily expenses. He reluctantly showed me the balance. Good guy, you made me laugh. You do have savings, but they are not as much as my monthly salary.

In the past six months, you can imagine where his salary has gone. My mother-in-law also told me that the new jewelry she bought was bought with her own money. I thought about it calmly for a few days. I knew that if my husband continued to be like this, he would not be able to live this life. I told my husband what I thought. In the future, my salary will be saved to buy a house, and his salary will be used to cover daily expenses, and every transaction must be accounted for.

He didn't agree at first. I mentioned divorce and he hesitated. Before he could give me a final answer, my mother-in-law’s birthday arrived. Only then did I know that my husband had booked the hotel early and had prepared gifts. It’s so ironic compared to my mom’s birthday. I thought about it, put away the gifts I had prepared, and even returned the cake. Finally, I gave my mother-in-law 200 yuan, saying it was a birthday gift.

My husband looked surprised, and then accused me: "It's my mother-in-law's birthday, and your daughter-in-law only gives 200 yuan as a birthday gift?" I smiled and said, "What else? 200 yuan is not bad. It's your mother-in-law's birthday, but you, the son-in-law, didn't say anything." After saying that, I lowered my head to eat, and my husband began to scold me, saying that I was careless and not generous enough. I looked up at him and said, "It's not easy to make money, you have to spend it wisely. I'm so old, I don't have a birthday, I'm not a kid anymore."

These words, he just said last week, return them to him intact. Finally, before I left the meeting, I emphasized to him that my proposal from the previous few days would be considered as soon as possible. If you agree, you can continue to live this life. I will give you another half year. If you don't agree, then divorce and find a wife who is generous and doesn't care. I know it's not good to say this at my mother-in-law's birthday party, but I don't want to put up with it anymore. Some people are not worth compromising.