This sentence is just a few words, but I feel it is full of information.

As a civil servant, I have to eat with my boss. I have the responsibility and obligation to protect the dining atmosphere, otherwise I will appear to be a social failure.

Second, what should I do if I encounter an episode where the soup is very salty? I think this reflects a problem of "speech skills". It's about how to say it so that you can show that your speaking skills are high, without ruining the atmosphere of the scene, and can even relieve the awkward atmosphere when everyone is drinking soup.

From these two analyses, the decisive factor lies in how you say it? How should I put it? I remembered that when I went out to eat with my boss, it was the same situation. The soup was also very salty. Let’s first listen to what I did at that time! !

In December last year, our unit participated in a province-wide event. The activity is very important, so the three of us in the department and the leader in charge set out early to take the lead and take care of the logistics.

For dinner, we went to a small shop to taste local delicacies at our own expense. When serving food, the waiter first brings melon seeds and sour appetizers, and then the soup. The dishes were served one after another. Because they are all familiar people, although there is a leader, they are direct leaders, and the leaders are easy-going and don’t have many restrictions, so everyone is more open-minded. So when the waiter served the soup to a few of us, I immediately took a sip first and found that the soup was also very salty. It felt like eating salt.

At that time, I thought, this is too bad. This snack bar was brought here by me. If the boss doesn’t think the soup tastes good at the first sip, he will definitely have a bad impression of me. And the waiter is nearby, how embarrassing! what to do? What can I say without ruining everyone's mood? My mind was racing, and I turned around and raised my voice and said to the waiter: "Waiter, please help me tell this to your boss and chef. Today's soup is really delicious, but it's a little salty. If it's lighter next time, I can drink it." Three bowls”.

At that time, when my colleagues and leaders heard my "reminder", they only tasted a little bit of the soup and stopped drinking. I also agreed that the soup was salty. But the atmosphere of our meal was still very good. Later, the store said that they wanted to serve us soup again, but we declined due to time constraints, and the store gave us a 20% discount.

Actually, what I said at that time had three meanings: the soup today was delicious (praise), but a little salty (criticism). If it is lighter next time, I can drink three bowls ( praise). Whether it is a waiter or a leader who hears this kind of talk, it is easy for them to accept it and they will accept it happily.

I once read a psychology book, which mentioned a saying in critical psychology: people sandwich the content of this kind of criticism between two praises, thereby making the critic happy. The phenomenon of accepting criticism is called the sandwich effect. The first layer always recognizes, appreciates, affirms, and cares for the other person's strengths or positive aspects; the middle layer contains suggestions, criticisms, or different opinions; the third layer always encourages, hopes, trusts, supports, and helps, making it endlessly enjoyable. . This method of criticism will not only not dampen the self-esteem and enthusiasm of the person being criticized, but will also actively accept criticism and correct one's shortcomings.

So, when encountering the situation mentioned in the title, I suggest you consider using the sandwich effect criticism method, which may have the effect of killing two birds with one stone~~