Behind this statement, on the one hand, it is a helpless compromise to reality; On the other hand, it is also the mother's growth and calmness after experiencing the world of mortals. # Love is a verb # # Parenting office #

Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka once said: "It is terrible to think that parents don't have to pass the exam." The second-born mother is the most powerful counterattack against this sentence.

From the first time I faced Dabao spitting milk, I was at a loss; After feeding Bauer, he burped without thinking.

Get up in the middle of the night for the first time, and hurriedly take Dabao to see the emergency department; Go to Bauer to have a fever, in an orderly way, take out the regular antipyretics at home, relax the fever first and then observe;

From the first time I fed Dabao complementary food, I was uneasy and didn't repeat the menu every day; Pick up an egg, eat the egg white by yourself, and put the yolk into Bauer's mouth with a spoon at will;

From the first time I sent Dabao to kindergarten, I felt guilty and uneasy in the face of separation; When I was sent to Bauer's kindergarten, I turned around and left freely;

Be cautious in choosing early education, dance and painting training classes for Dabao; Epiphany when reporting to Bauer: the reputation of the organization is not second, but it is very important to be close to home, and the walking distance is the best;

Don't mothers pay enough attention to and cherish Bauer? Of course not. Every child is a treasure left by mothers when they were pregnant in October. It's just that mothers are more confident and expert than those who are eager to raise Dabao and mechanically follow the script and raise Bauer.

A while ago, the "dispute between Yin Jianli and Li Meijin" in the parenting circle really didn't mean anything to Bauer's mother. Who listens to parenting classics? Listen to yourself, of course. When raising a treasure, you should step all over the pit; I experienced what I experienced; When raising Bauer, mother seems to know what to do naturally. Behind "the first child is raised by books and the second child by pigs" is actually a growing mother.

When I was raising Dabao, I was worried. I caught a cold and had a fever. The doctor said I should take medicine. I gave the child medicine again and resolutely poured it down. As a result, the child's crying made his throat inflammation worse. Next time, the mother will know that the child is in good condition and can eat and drink. As long as the fever goes down, it will heal itself in a few days.

Dabao fell and his face was broken. He lost a lot of blood and applied some medicine. The doctor said it was all right, but he was worried. He has been searching online. "What if the child's face is injured?" Will you stay? "When the child is well and sees his face as clean as ever, I finally believe what the doctor said. The child has tender skin and strong healing ability. After that, the child ran and jumped outside, no longer staring at it, for fear that the child would hit it.

It can be said that since having a baby, mothers' learning ability has been soaring all the way. In the era of information explosion, there are various ways for mothers to acquire scientific knowledge about parenting, and the overload of this information actually causes anxiety and tension for novice mothers.

As a mother who has the closest contact with her children and the most contact time, as long as she understands it with her heart, she can actually feel the needs of her children in different periods. What mom lacks is practice and confidence in feelings.

In the circle of mothers, it is never Bauer's mother who is anxious, nervous and asks questions. The daily life with Dabao is like a secret paper, and the process of raising Erbao is like redoing the test paper whose answers mothers already know, continuing to answer questions correctly, correcting mistakes and filling them in again. Every mother Bauer holds the license of "Gold Preschool Teacher" in her hand.

At that time, I was pregnant with Bauer, and I felt particularly incredible. I thought, how big is this mother's experience? Until the second child landed, he experienced the chicken flying and the dog jumping when the boss and the second child sang on the same stage; After coaxing the second child and playing with the boss, I realized that it wasn't any mother who had a big heart, but she didn't care at all. ...

Mom is superman, which is by no means a simple compliment. With the baby, especially with Erbao, the delicate little sister no longer exists, and every mother is like a woman.

A mother said that when she was pregnant with Bauer, Dabao was facing a critical period of kindergarten admission. After two days, I was in a bad mood, and I didn't want to walk into the kindergarten door anyway. I am pregnant for 4 months, so I have to squat down, pick up the crying child and go to the classroom while comforting. When I was pregnant with Dabao, I squatted down and picked up a pen, and I dodged if I could.

Every mother is like a super mother. The second-born mother lives like a top and basically has no time of her own. Here Bauer is calling his mother to accompany her, Dabao is calling, and his mother is coming to help. Saturday and Sunday, comparable to Star Wars, Dabao has to go to training, and Bao Xiao can only follow. Outside the interest class, other mothers are asking questions around the teacher. Bauer's mother just wants to close her eyes. What she hopes most is that there is another mother Bauer and Bao Xiao waiting outside, so that the two little treasures can make a pair, and the mothers can finally catch their breath.

365 days a year can be said to be the truest portrayal of Bauer's mothers. Once a mother said, "I have seen the most vicious appearance of my own humanity, and it is all related to children." Few mothers have not experienced a moment of near collapse in the process of raising their children.

A Bauer mother said that taking care of the children at home during the day, making a little noise an hour, making a big noise for a long time, is exhausted; In the evening, Bauer cried all night, because he was weaned, his father was on a business trip, and he was exhausted with his child in his arms. At this time, Dabao was awakened, making too much noise and going to bed. At that time, he was really going crazy. He couldn't help yelling at the children and even had the urge to throw Bao Xiao on the bed.

Taking care of Erbao is the biggest test of mom's energy and endurance. Therefore, the rougher the child-rearing, the more harmonious the family, and the joke that "the third pacifier fell to the ground and stuffed it directly into the mouth" came into being.

In parenting, mothers really don't have to tighten the strings in their minds all the time, relax appropriately, and only take the principles more seriously. Isn't it just that you can't let go of your children and yourself?

Bauer's training seems to be less elaborate than Dabao's, but everyone who has experienced it knows that mothers let go of more Bauer, and sometimes they can adapt to various environmental changes better than Bauer.

Parent-child travel has always been considered as the best way to enhance parent-child feelings. But can the seemingly wonderful parent-child tour really end with everyone happy? Many mothers complain: parent-child travel, parent-child travel, happy children, holidays seem more tired.

Yes, how many parents can enjoy the scenery along the way and enjoy the fun of relaxation while taking their babies to play? Sitting in the car, the child is bored, and the mother is responsible for telling stories; When we arrive at the scenic spot, there are no children's facilities, and mom is responsible for fighting. If there are facilities for children, your mother should play with you.

There are two treasures, which is great. After two years old, children have basic self-care ability. Sitting in the car, Dabao and Bauer can form their own drama. When they arrive at the scenic spot, they will pick flowers, branches, climb rocks and chase and play together.

Mothers only need to do a good job in logistics and remind them of safety matters at critical moments, so they have plenty of time to look at the sky, take pictures and make friends. Happiness seems so simple.

During the epidemic, a photo of a brother putting his sister on his desk as a mascot spread all over the internet. After Bauer was born, Dabao seems to have an extra toy.

It is the unanimous choice of all wise mothers to allow Dabao to treat Bauer as a toy. Tie your hair, make up, wear a hat and pose. We often see a Bauer being tossed around by Dabao in a strange way, but Bauer is still very happy and laughs louder than anyone else. This is the mysterious friendship between Dabao and Bauer. The more you toss, the deeper your feelings.

Mentioned in psychology, there is a "most important other" in the process of children's growth, and this "most important other" will become the object that children unconsciously imitate. Sometimes I don't doubt whether the "most important person" in Bauer's eyes at a certain time is Dabao.

Different from Yu Dabao's growth alone, Bauer's growth path seems to unlock his life because of Dabao.

When babbling, "Mom, my sister hit me." "Mom, my sister hit me with her hand." "Mom, my sister hit me on the head with her hand." "Mom, my sister hit me on the head with her hand. You are quick to criticize her. " In the process of fighting with his sister, Bauer's expression became clearer every time.

During the kindergarten, my mother helped my first-grade sister recite the text, and Bao Xiao was forced to recite along. Unconsciously, she knew many words and recited many texts. Compared with her elder sister who entered primary school in illiteracy, Bao Xiao seems to be much taller.

On the playground, Bauer didn't dare to play with large amusement equipment, but when she got to kindergarten, she could confidently brag to her classmates, "My sister is really amazing. She dares to play with anything. "

With Dabao's participation in the process of child-rearing, the mother got a lot of breathing opportunities, and the feelings between the two children became stronger and stronger in mutual companionship and competition. Loving Dabao is often the essence of Bauer's pig raising.

In front of Dabao, Bauer will always treat you with the same heart even if he abuses me thousands of times. Dabao bullied Bauer, and Bauer burst into tears. Mom asked Dabao to apologize. Dabao reluctantly threw out two words, "I'm sorry", and Bauer immediately smiled.

In some scenes, mothers can spend a long time together just by taking care of their babies' stomachs. At this time, in fact, Dabao is also the object of stocking.

Looking at the loving and interesting interaction between the two children, and the precious undisturbed moment of one or two hours, who said that this is not the happiest moment for mothers?

Mothers have no experience in raising their first child. In the face of sudden babies, they are often full of fear and helplessness. From what they eat during pregnancy to how to feed them after childbirth and how to shape their character, they are often cautious, reading books and feeling stones. Working hard, I gradually forgot my original appearance.

In the second child, the so-called "once born and twice cooked" puts the experience and lessons of supporting the elderly into practice, and mothers are naturally less at a loss.

At the same time, because of various rules and regulations, mothers who are nervous and anxious in parenting are constantly trying and gradually realize:

Can't you eat spicy food when you are pregnant? If you want to eat, you can eat less.

If you want to do prenatal education, forget it. Oh, forget it. It's good to listen to music once in a while.

I fell, picked it up and patted it. It's okay. None of the children met it when they were growing up.

When the tight strings are no longer so tight, mothers will find that life seems to be suddenly enlightened.

With "toys", Dabao no longer shouts boredom as long as he stays alone every day;

There are two treasures that Dabao can follow and worship. As long as he eats and drinks Lazarus, he is as lovely as an angel every day.

And because of the simplification of parenting, I liberated my private space, got rid of anxiety and gradually became calm and comfortable.

Keep it by the book? According to the pig? In fact, it is basically just a change in parenting attitude and a return to the original heart. I believe that as long as there is love, children will grow up healthily and happily no matter how they are raised.

Let our psychology be full of nutrition, and we can really have the strength to lead our children to run happily in the sun. "The first child is raised according to the original, and the second child is raised according to the pig", which is not the self-awakening of the second child mother.

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