There are several reasons why foreigners rarely have conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. China Ma Bao expressed envy. 1, foreign mothers are not possessive of their sons, and their sons will not live with their parents after marriage. Many families in China have a serious concept of carrying on the family line. Many parents regard their sons as more important than their own lives, and they don't want to take care of their sons all the time, so they are too possessive of their children. After marriage, it is even more out of control, for fear that the son who has worked hard for decades will be eccentric by his wife. The mother is afraid that her son will not listen to her or even be filial to herself, and the sense of crisis will rise, which is the reason for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. On the other hand, foreign parents are not so possessive of their children. Basically, when their children are capable, they will be independent and will not actively interfere in their lives. There are few opportunities for contact with the daughter-in-law, so naturally there will be no contradictions. 2. The concept of marriage abroad is relatively open. Marriage and divorce are normal for them, and the family atmosphere is not strongly influenced by traditional concepts. China's parents think that children's marriage and divorce are important and cannot be sloppy. So after marriage, China's parents are more willing to help their children make the whole family happier. In order to keep the marriage going, China's parents like to infiltrate their own ideas into their children's marriage and follow their planned route, which often infringes on their daughter-in-law's interests. After all, she is the protagonist of this marriage. However, foreign families are more open in the concept of marriage. They think that marriage and divorce are normal things, and it is not appropriate and there is no need to force them together. Although this will lead to a weak family atmosphere, it also avoids many contradictions in marriage and family life, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 3. Retired people abroad pay more attention to their quality of life. China's parents always have to worry about their children until they can't move, so they are willing to "interfere" with their children's lives after marriage, such as helping them to have a confinement and taking care of them. People are not of the same era, and their ideas are different. There will inevitably be friction in getting along, and it is this fear that leads to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The elderly in foreign countries generally pay great attention to their own quality of life, especially after retirement, they will not lower their living standards because they want to help their children, let alone involve their old age in their children, and their children will not take the initiative to worry about their married affairs. 4, foreign family members are independent of each other, the relationship will not cross the border. Family members abroad are relatively independent, everyone has their own space, parents will not tie their children to themselves, and their relationship will not cross the border. Parents just give their children some advice, and it is impossible to make decisions for their children without authorization. This relationship will not change even after marriage. It is because of this concept that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law abroad is not as tense as that at home. How to minimize the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? First of all, as a son and husband, it is impossible for a man to stay out of contradiction. Family discord, mother-in-law discord, as a man has an unshirkable responsibility. Did you get home in time after work? Do you like doing housework at home? How long have you been with your mother and wife? If it's all done, I believe the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a problem. In addition, men should be filial to their mothers and love their wives, so as to set an example; Even when there are signs of contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they can be found and resolved in time; Being a peacemaker with contradictory mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not conducive to the unity of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Secondly, women who are women and mothers should be elders. Mother-in-law, as an elder, should be kind to her daughter-in-law and not embarrass her in everything. From the moment the daughter-in-law stepped into the threshold and shouted, her mother-in-law regarded other people's girls as her own daughters. I haven't left my parents' home for 20 years, so it's inconvenient to marry my in-laws. We should put ourselves in the other's shoes, take care of it with our heart, and love our daughter-in-law as much as her mother. However, we can't be as strict and picky as our daughters. My mother-in-law has many old sayings, so be careful what you say. Don't be an outsider and scold your daughter-in-law, talk less and do more. Turn a blind eye to the little things your daughter-in-law says, and don't haggle over every ounce. Third, wives and daughters-in-law should be good hostesses of this family. To be a good hostess is to do everything for this family, don't be self-centered, don't be exclusive, and don't let my mother-in-law give in to me. As a daughter-in-law, we should first put the younger generation in the right position, treat her mother-in-law as a mother, be more respectful and filial, be more tolerant and tolerant, be more concerned and help, and be a "little cotton-padded jacket" like a mother. Don't always compare with your mother, learn to appreciate the advantages of your mother-in-law. Praise her husband and her son in front of her mother-in-law, and say hello to her mother in front of her husband. We should really do our duty as a hostess, not only love our husbands, but also take care of our parents-in-law and children. Hard-working and capable, hard-working; Diligence and thrift, careful calculation. Run your life with all your heart. Why are there few conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in foreign families? Psychologist Dr. Sheila Rosen believes that the relationship with your mother-in-law is the same, and the key lies in how deep your feelings for your mother are. He said: "The mother-daughter relationship is different from other relationships. Mother and daughter don't hold grudges. Even if they quarrel, they will make up soon, because this is a very different relationship with our mother. " But he also said that if you have a bad relationship with your mother-in-law, your relationship with your mother is not much better. Generally speaking, women in the daughter-in-law generation are very disdainful of their mothers and their mother-in-law, and their relationship with their elders is not handled well, not just the problem of their mother-in-law. Dr Rosen also believes that the biggest obstacle among British women is jealousy. Daughter-in-law will be jealous of the intimate relationship between mother-in-law and husband. Mother-in-law would like her daughter-in-law to take care of her son, but the two aspects are not harmonious, which leads to dissatisfaction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But British women don't fight with each other even if they use sharp and mean words to satirize each other. The most common way for British daughter-in-law to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to speak. Because they maintain the most basic etiquette, if there is a contradiction, they will still have the attitude of sitting down and communicating. If the mother-in-law says something unpleasant, the daughter-in-law will choose to say directly, "Are you unhappy? Why are you unhappy? You can tell me what I did wrong. " The reason why the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in Britain is not so fierce is that they both know how to appreciate each other's advantages. It's good to be annoying, even if you don't have any friends, such as your mother-in-law to help your daughter-in-law clean up the kitchen carefully, her daughter-in-law will thank her or invite her to eat snacks. Often such people, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be bad.