She is surprisingly serious about her work, demanding herself almost harshly and being "critical" of everything.
For example, to prepare a special dinner, we should check multiple recipes to find the best one, each ingredient should be accurate to the gram, and the time control and cooking time should be perfect. Before eating, you should not only set the plate, but also lay a beautiful tablecloth, choose exquisite tableware, and then take a perfect photo before eating formally. ...
Another example is washing clothes. We should accurately classify the clothes to be washed, such as coats, underwear, light colors, dark colors, etc., and then set N functions for the automatic washing machine according to the categories, such as water level, high temperature, and too much fog ... This is the quilt cover instruction she sent me once: 1. First, turn the quilt cover over, turn it out outside, and fasten the pockets. 2, enter the washing machine in spring, don't go in. 3. Mixed washing mode+pre-washing+full grid water +90 degrees+fog washing+ultra-clean rinsing 4. The big white barrel is covered with Baoning laundry detergent, and the dripping disinfectant is covered with it. When filling water, which water tank will fall into which grid when running water! ! !
I have almost opposite views with her. Small things in life, especially housework, can be done. Isn't eating just to fill your stomach? Stew a rice cooker, stir-fry two dishes, or order takeout if you really don't like to move, and you're done; Washing clothes, not just to clean clothes, throw them into the washing machine, and wash them as quickly as possible. 15 minutes, done.
Should we "pay attention" or "make do"? We often argue about it.
The main reason for her "stress" is that her usual work and life are very stressful. We should love life, pay attention to every bit of life, improve the quality and taste of life, have a sense of ceremony and enhance happiness.
The main reason why I make do is that "attention" wastes too much time. I should devote my time to more important things, such as reading, sports, writing, thinking, eating and housework, so that I can squeeze out more time to do meaningful things.
I have done a complete thinking and combing on this matter recently, and I have some experiences.
First, don't "make do" if you can "pay attention". Whether it's big or small, "seriousness" is an attitude, and details determine success or failure. People who can't even do small things well or don't take small things seriously can't do important things or big things well. It is really important to cultivate "serious and rigorous" attitudes and habits, which can also make life interesting and enhance daily happiness.
Second, we should be "really particular" and not "blindly particular". Whether cooking or washing clothes, we should consider more health factors. A delicious meal will stimulate appetite and be nutritious. Fine classification washing helps to protect clothes and remove bacteria and mites, which are "really exquisite". For example, clothes are expensive and eating is extravagant and wasteful. Although this situation is simple, it is better to make do with it.
Third, be "critical" of yourself and "make do" with others. It is not too much to be strict with yourself and take life seriously, but "don't do to others what you don't want others to do", be tolerant and considerate to others, try to understand each other's position, and don't ask others for things you don't want to do or can't do. As long as it is not a matter of principle, there is nothing wrong with "doing" at this time. Of course, this does not mean that you can indulge and be irresponsible. You can still "pay attention" to the first point you refer to or don't "make do".
Fourth, when there is no way to "pay attention", we can only "make do". Everyone in this world can't follow one's inclinations, and it is bound to be restricted by external conditions and conditions. At major and critical moments, some minor things can only be done, and the mentality should be peaceful. For example, in order to fight the epidemic, medical staff or volunteers can't eat or drink for six or seven hours or even longer, because it is very inconvenient to wear protective clothing. They get up early, stay up late, and work continuously ... Although they break the rules of sleep and diet, they can only "make do" at this time and sacrifice their health for a short time.
"Attaching importance" is a positive and serious attitude, and "making do" is an optimistic and tolerant attitude.