A true story that happened to me.
I feel like a city girl and my husband is a high school classmate. I have been in love for many years and finally got stuck by this question. There is no dispute between the two sides, it is entirely up to us to decide. But a few years ago, it was said that my father-in-law's thought was more traditional, and he felt that his son's wedding would be full of excitement and joy in front of the villagers. I care more about the feeling of the wedding. To put it bluntly, it is a sense of ceremony. Then one afternoon, I took a special leave to go to my husband's house to discuss marriage. When this topic was mentioned at the dinner table, my father-in-law's face froze and he stopped talking. At that time, I felt very wronged and felt that my idea was right. The scene was very stiff and embarrassing, or my mother-in-law had a circus and said that she could go to see the venue again in the afternoon if she felt that she couldn't.
The three of us have seen it before, and they are all quite satisfied.
In the afternoon, when I went by car, my father-in-law was not feeling well. As soon as I entered the hotel gate, my face softened a lot. After the introduction of the special lobby manager, I finally looked at the menu. The hotel is definitely more expensive than the wine at home, but how do you say it? After all, my father-in-law nodded [laughed] [laughed ](Ps: my father-in-law is really good to me, the difference is only a matter of concept). This matter will be settled satisfactorily. Don't spray personal thoughts. I hope I can help you and communicate with you.
Tell me a real case that happened to me. I am a mobile banquet in the countryside. Me, our family lives on the edge of the city. You can say the same thing in the city. My brother got married in the first month of this year, and he refused to have half a banquet at home. My mother said that your brother is a caterer, which can save a lot of money. Generally, we only accept 400 yuan for a table. But the hotel wants a table of 568, which is also the minimum standard of the hotel, but he said that marriage is only free once and a half. Setting the wedding venue at home is better than setting up a hotel major. Life and death means not agreeing to hold half a banquet at home. Besides, young people nowadays get married mostly for the sake of face. Generally speaking, I stay at home in China, and most of my marriages are in hotels. Ask us to go to their house after the baby drinks the full moon wine. Let's talk about going to the hotel to save face. There is only one marriage in my life. Actually, it's okay to spend more money. If it were me, maybe I would be in the hotel, too.
The world is so big that everyone has it; Personally, I think communication is the most important thing, or custom ... things like this are not important here. Do it once in my hometown. If you work in a county or city, it is necessary to do it again in a county or city ... There is no conflict with such things here ... I wish you to handle things well and have a baby as soon as possible.
My brother is getting married, and my brother-in-law must hold a banquet in the city. What if the family doesn't agree? I'm glad to answer your question. Seeing your problem, you should think that your brother's daughter-in-law's request is reasonable and feasible, but your family doesn't agree. Then you have to do the ideological work of your family, communicate with them and sit down and talk. After all, marriage is a happy event. Don't make your brother-in-law unhappy because of where to hold the banquet, or even make the two families break up in discord.
If your family wants to hold a banquet in the countryside and your brother-in-law wants to do it in the city, and your family's economic conditions do not allow it, you can do it in the city and then in the countryside. In this way, we can have the best of both worlds and everyone is happy.
Your sister-in-law is going to hold a banquet in the city. Maybe she has her own ideas. Maybe she is from the city, and all her relatives are in the city. Don't want to come to the countryside to attend the wedding. Maybe she thinks it's great to hold a banquet in the city. Anyway, since she married your brother, try to follow her! In order to avoid major events being unpleasant again.
Marriage is a life-long event, and whoever marries will have a happy event. As long as communication is good, I believe my family will agree. As long as it is not too demanding, there is no need to stop it, so as not to get married in the future.
Take the contradiction between our village and a family because of marriage. It can show how important communication is and can solve many things easily.
A boy in our village met and fell in love with a girl while working. The boy is an only child, but when discussing marriage, the girl actually asked the boy to settle in the woman's house-that is, to insert the door backwards. The girl has no brothers or sisters. The boy's mother died young, and only his father resolutely opposed it. Later, after the boy gave it to the girl and her family, patiently did ideological work and communicated many times, the girl and her family finally agreed to marry the man's family. Because the boy is an only child, but the girl has other sisters.
Therefore, communication is very important. As long as you want your family to agree to this matter, you must do a good job in the ideological work of your family, communicate with your family and discuss it well. I'm sure things will work out.
To be honest, I personally don't think this is a problem. I think it's ok to handle it in the city! Nowadays, the countryside is not so particular, unlike in the 1980s, when people are very open-minded. As long as you can get married, it doesn't matter where you hold the banquet. I think the main thing is to be happy when you get married. That's all that matters. Really, you really have to think about getting married. Now many married people regret it. If you get married, you really have to think about it, because it is a lifetime of happiness and unhappiness, you know!
Take marriage as an example. My brother-in-law asked for a banquet in the city, and my family wanted to do it in the countryside. I don't know why, but one thing is clear. That is, the family is afraid that the meeting in the city will receive less money, and they are afraid that they will lose money if they can't collect the money they paid before. In other words, the reason why family members hold banquets in rural areas is to "return to nature". Although it is hard to hear, this situation is especially common in rural areas.
Let's start with my sister-in-law's request. I don't know the basic situation of my sister-in-law. If my sister-in-law is from the city, it is understandable to ask for a banquet in the city. But if my sister-in-law is from the countryside, I don't understand why she has such a request. Moreover, wedding banquets in rural areas are generally held by men and women, and women will do things one day earlier than men. If the woman likes to do it in the city, she can ask the woman to be in the city and the man to be in the village that day, so that the two sides will not be unbalanced.
Besides, to put it bluntly, your brother and daughter-in-law are married. What role did your sister play in this incident? Do you agree or disagree? Or remain neutral? Do you have enough words to support your position? It's obviously about the couple. Why should family and relatives intervene? I think we should all quit and let the couple decide where to hold the wedding, and the result will come soon.
Everything should be analyzed objectively. This matter was put forward by the man's parents, and the man, the woman and the woman's parents all put forward it, but as the relatives of the man put forward this matter, it is interesting (they can't avoid a word of money).
Your brother-in-law insisted on having a banquet in the city. It's reasonable for others. Maybe people work in the city, and all their friends and colleagues are in the city. If your family insists on having a banquet in the countryside, they may not be able to stand it.
If the family doesn't agree, you can do things in the city, invite guests from the city, hold banquets in the country, and invite guests from the country!
Inviting every guest and receiving every gift is conducive to married life. After all, marriage is your brother's sister-in-law's life, so family should not interfere too much!
I am also a rural person, and sometimes I have to attend rural banquets. There are too many uncivilized and unsanitary behaviors in rural banquets, which is very helpless:
0 1 For example, as soon as the food is served, people who eat will keep eating in the bowl, and some people will finish it before others move chopsticks;
02. For example, some people carry plastic bags, some people carry iron pots, and others start to put them in their own bags and pots before eating, and they all come with so many gifts. They are all villagers, saying no, not saying no, the banquet is very ostentatious, but many people are not full!
03. Banquets in rural areas are usually outdoors. When it's windy and rainy, rain and dust enter the food together, which is very uncomfortable to eat!
04. Rural people smoke, throw cigarette butts and spit everywhere!
05. Tableware stoves used in rural banquets are generally placed on the ground and can be cleaned every time they are used. How many bowls can a rag wash!
This question is not easy to answer. It would be nice if the family conditions were good. If your sister-in-law is making faces and getting fat, there is no room for discussion. I advise you girls not to get married, because if you don't live, you won't think so much when you get married. After all, you will survive after marriage.