1, Life: Creating a Harmonious Family Atmosphere
Senior three students get up early and go to bed late every day, constantly brushing exams, coming home from school and studying by themselves all night. It can be said that students' nerves are always tense. At this time, the learning environment and family atmosphere are particularly important. If parents want to create a harmonious family atmosphere for their children, they must first maintain good communication with their children. This seems simple, but it is difficult to do.
In a psychological survey of senior three students, it is found that most students' psychological problems come from emotional aspects. Nearly13 of the emotional problems are caused by parents. Another survey shows that as many as 70% of parents have communication problems with their children. This shows that most parents are still not good enough in this respect. In order to avoid the problems reflected in the above data, parents should not only care about test scores and rankings, but also learn more about children's psychological dynamics and learn to listen to their inner thoughts.
Secondly, the relationship between parents is also the main factor affecting the family atmosphere. Therefore, parents should pay attention to reducing contradictions, especially not arguing in front of their children. In addition, parents should adjust their psychological state. Because many parents attach too much importance to their children's grades, their emotions are prone to ups and downs and they are too anxious, which leads to "parents syndrome in college entrance examination". At this time, parents should clearly realize that emotions are contagious. Emotional instability of parents will increase the psychological burden of candidates and make it difficult for candidates to concentrate on their studies.
2. Learning: Supervise the children to complete the learning plan.
As children grow up, parents will find it more and more difficult to help their children learn. So many parents feel anxious because they can't solve their children's learning problems. In fact, although parents can't study for their children, they can supervise their children as supervisors.
Candidates are prone to burnout due to excessive pressure during the preparation period. At this time, parents should not only help candidates to relieve psychological pressure, but also be rational, guide their children to establish a correct learning attitude and find the most suitable learning method for them. Besides, a good plan can make students get twice the result with half the effort. Therefore, when dealing with the college entrance examination, parents should also pay attention to guiding learning and making detailed study plans: from each round of review plans to daily plans. And supervise the children to complete the learning tasks according to the learning plan.
3. Life planning: guide candidates to formulate target institutions and majors.
In the preparation stage of the college entrance examination, parents should work out a target college and target major with the candidates, so that children can find a specific direction in their study. Parents should be rational when choosing the target university. Setting the goal too high will make children unwilling to learn, and setting the goal too low will make children feel tired. Therefore, parents should make an in-depth analysis of the candidates' learning situation, and estimate the results of the college entrance examination according to previous exams, especially mock exams, so as to delimit a suitable range of colleges and universities.
Secondly, when setting goals, parents should pay attention to the choice of majors, and should not blindly pursue good schools and ignore the importance of majors. When choosing the target major, we should not only fully understand the learning content, employment direction and career potential of this major, but also choose the major that children are really interested in according to their hobbies, so as to encourage children to study hard and achieve their goals. Anxiety, mixed information and inexperience will all affect parents' judgment, making it difficult for parents and candidates to make appropriate life plans.
For children's college entrance examination, parents must first have several "strengths".
1, be elegant first, improve the self-control of emotions, and let the children not be disturbed.
Beware of "Parents Syndrome in College Entrance Examination". Children's college entrance examination has become a top priority in their parents' lives. Because of its importance, their emotions are diverse and changeable: expectation, excitement, disappointment, fear and so on. , and more is anxiety. With the approach of the college entrance examination, parents will invariably have "parents syndrome of the college entrance examination" to varying degrees. Education experts point out that "parents syndrome in college entrance examination" is the biggest pressure facing senior three students at present.
Emotion is contagious, just like the transmission of dominoes, parents' anxiety will deepen their children's psychological burden. Therefore, parents should deal with their own pressure and not be overwhelmed first.
Most of the problems in psychological counseling in senior three are about emotions, and nearly 1/3 are caused by parents. The "plot" is basically like this: the children's learning situation is not satisfactory, parents are impatient, "hate iron to produce steel", and then "strongly" point out that they unconsciously burst into rage, despair, criticism and sarcasm, which triggered the children's emotions, and some even triggered fierce parent-child conflicts.
Parents should be alert, once your negative emotions break out, it will take a long time for children to digest your negative emotions, and they will think of unpleasant things in a conditioned way, making it difficult to enter the learning state. For the sake of children, parents must try their best to control the extreme negative emotions that children may have.
What parents should do: Try not to release their negative emotions in front of their children. Remind parents not to bring their work mood home; Don't show your dissatisfaction with life easily; Although the quarrel between husband and wife is inevitable, it must be avoided in front of the children; Don't let family events affect children.
Parents should also be mentally prepared. The whole senior three may have several quarrels and unpleasantness with children. At this time, parents with high emotional intelligence must calm down and rationally let their children understand what you want to express; Facing a bad-tempered child, try to analyze what the child really wants to express.
2. Improve the control of children's stress and find the best stress tolerance range for children.
Nowadays, parents have some psychological knowledge and realize that "the greater the pressure, the higher the efficiency", but there are still some problems, such as blind decompression and unconscious pressurization. The former is because parents simply withdraw the pressure because they think it is not good, and the latter is because parents think that they have decompressed from the cognitive point of view, but they are still pressurizing in behavior.
These two tendencies are not desirable, which may easily lead to children's lack of learning motivation. There is a yerkes-dodson law in psychology. Its image is an "inverted U" curve. The image shows the relationship between pressure and efficiency at a glance. The abscissa is the degree of pressure and the ordinate is the efficiency. Less pressure, lack of challenge and in a relaxed state, invalid; The pressure increases gradually, prompting people to study or work hard, and the efficiency will gradually improve; When the pressure reaches people's maximum bearing capacity, people's efficiency will reach the maximum; When the pressure exceeds the maximum bearing capacity, the pressure becomes resistance and the efficiency decreases.
This "inverted U-shape" can also explain the relationship between parents' expectations and children's motives. Excessive expectations not only lead to parents' mental imbalance, but also increase undue pressure on children, especially those with poor grades. Excessive expectations can easily lead to children's pessimism and helplessness.
Parents should keep moderate pressure and expectation on their children in order to play an incentive role. This requires parents to carefully observe their children's emotions and learning status in daily life, and fine-tune their behavior strategies to find the best tolerance for their children.
3, convey positive emotions, improve their attractiveness, and turn external requirements into children's internal needs.
Home is a warm harbor, but parents are not necessarily the objects that children are willing to associate with. In the third year of high school, the problem remains the same. It is conditional for parents to help their children turn external requirements into their own internal needs. Psychologists point out that the realization of this process depends on whether several psychological needs of children are met, among which intimacy and trust are very important.
Parent-child relationship should be intimate, respectful and trustworthy. In this way, children can be close to their parents, listen to their parents, think about their words and agree with their views. If children feel negative emotions such as insecurity, anxiety and depression in contact with their parents, they will inevitably resist their parents' demands and education.
It's important to remind parents not to dig up their children's old accounts. Many students who have just entered the third year of high school must really want to fight hard. However, after a period of review, some children's grades have not improved much, so some parents began to nag, lost patience and confidence, thought that their children did not work hard, did not have the state of senior three, and could not help but habitually turn over their children's old accounts. And this practice will hinder the child's transformation. Probably, the child has made up his mind to reinvent himself. Therefore, if you want your child to make greater progress, you must let go of the past, at least don't give your reasons for taking it for granted in front of your child, but constantly discover his little progress and give him full affirmation. Educators believe that behind the change and growth of children is the change of parents' understanding.
The domino effect of emotions tells us that anxiety can be contagious, and of course positive emotions can also be transmitted. These positive emotions and feelings are care, confidence and trust. When a child's self-awareness is stimulated and recognized, it will stimulate his potential and sense of responsibility. Parents should always express such a message to their children: we believe in you, stick to it, and mom and dad will support you and accompany you!
4. Be a capable parent, improve the ability of business guidance and improve the overall quality of children.
Some parents reported that their children didn't communicate with their parents, thinking that parents were annoyed and said they didn't understand. In addition to handling the parent-child relationship well, parents also need to know some knowledge and skills, establish their own sense of authority, and prevent children from feeling that their parents are bossing around.
It is not easy to be a parent of a senior three candidate. As a child's strong backing, there are several roles that can make children even more powerful in the college entrance examination if they can do well.
The roles that parents can play: children's psychological and learning instructors, children's health care doctors, nutritionists. Children need close guidance in study and psychology, which is the key to success; The body is the guarantee, and the more important it is in the later stage.
Parents can improve their parents' ability by reading articles on psychology and education, and recommend to pass the college entrance examination with their children. This is a mother's diary. With her own personal experience, she pointed out the problems that children are prone to, which has excellent reference and enlightenment for candidates and parents. There are also articles on health care, recommending "all diseases can be heart medicine" and "wisdom of not getting sick". There are many health knowledge and massage skills in the book, and you can also improve the parent-child relationship through massage. Parents can also pay attention to nutrition and diet.
It is suggested that parents can talk with other parents in reality or online groups, analyze their children's various problems, share their gains and losses in the process of educating their children, and let their children get some reference.
Increase parents' ability through reading and sharing, so that parents can handle practical problems skillfully.
5, do not forget the rules and constraints, strengthen the control of children, in order to improve their execution.
The study in senior three is very heavy. Some parents think that their children are tired and should be tolerant of them, so they relax their homework requirements and behavior norms. This must arouse vigilance and can only be done occasionally. In the long run, children's study habits and willpower will definitely be affected. Rules and constraints are very important, and the combination of rigidity and flexibility will play more roles. Parents must not relax their habits in their children's study life.
Parents should still urge their children to complete the learning tasks stipulated by the school. The advantage of urging children to complete tasks is that there is no shortcut to success first. The law of learning is nothing more than preview, class, homework and review. Completing the task is the consolidation of learning; Second, the establishment of parents' sense of authority, without regular prescribed actions, children will gradually ignore parents' persuasion; Third, let the children out of tension. Psychological research shows that people will show a state of tension in tasks. People who have not completed their tasks will have a state of tension, and their minds will always be troubled by those unfinished tasks, and their psychological tension will hardly disappear. The most important benefit of completing the task is to let the children improve their execution and learn to stick to it until the end.
The child's code of conduct cannot be compromised. Rules cannot be broken at will, and good rules are easy to create environmental stability and psychological stability. Parents should cooperate with teachers to manage and restrain their children's lives, and should not indulge their children, otherwise they will lack willpower in the long run.
Eight taboos of parents
Taboo 1: you must be admitted to a university!
Taboo 2: you must be the first in the class!
Taboo 3: 12 The key to study is this exam, so you must grasp it well!
Taboo 4: It doesn't matter if you don't do well in this exam, you can repeat it next year.
Taboo 5: Don't do anything, just review well!
Taboo 6: review well, the college entrance examination is extraordinary!
Taboo 7: Someone was admitted to a university last year. I hope you are like him!
Taboo 8: How did you do in this exam?
A few tricks to help children decompress.
The exam is coming, children are under great pressure, and parents' life is not easy, but parents should control their emotions and decompress their children at the same time. Here are some ways to relieve stress for parents, so try them.
1 trick: cheer for the children. Don't let the child face the pressure alone, let him know that the whole family is with him, cheer him up and face the problem optimistically. When children's mood changes, we should help them build up confidence and overcome difficulties.
The second measure: give praise and affirmation. Parents should explore their children's advantages, give praise and affirmation, and enhance their self-confidence.
Step 3: Have time to relax. Parents' emotions will affect their children. Try to let go of your worries, relax your mood, take a walk with your children in your spare time, and do some physical and mental exercises to give your brain a rest.
How should parents scientifically arrange candidates' diet?
Before the college entrance examination, students should pay attention to the three principles and eight considerations in food arrangement. These three principles refer to balance, suitability and hygiene.
On the basis of these three principles, we can achieve the following eight points:
1, pay attention to reasonable food collocation and balanced diet;
2, pay attention to food diversity, not partial eclipse, not picky eaters;
3. Eat regularly and regularly;
4. Have a good breakfast, have a full lunch and have a light dinner;
5. Pay attention to food hygiene and don't buy food from unlicensed vendors;
6. Don't overeat and diet blindly;
7. Avoid frying and foods that may cause allergies;
8. Exercise properly to promote appetite and increase blood circulation.
In the last month before the exam, candidates are in the most nervous state physically and mentally, and their demand for energy and various nutrients exceeds that of adults. Therefore, parents must attach importance to students' dietary nutrition and follow the principle of "eat well for breakfast, eat well for lunch and have a proper amount for dinner".
However, many parents generally have some nutritional misunderstandings. For example, they think that big fish and big meat are nutrition, and eating well is reasonable nutrition. Therefore, too much greasy food is given to children, especially high-calorie foreign fast food, which will cause precocious puberty and obesity for students to eat for a long time. At the same time, in some remote rural areas, parents do not understand the nutritional structure and often sell eggs to buy instant noodles for their children. The result is not worth the candle.
Myth 1: tonic before the exam is the most effective.
Many parents regard taking health care products as the best way to supplement nutrition, and they are greedy for more and quick, hoping to achieve the goal of quickly supplementing nutrition through health care products. It is not appropriate to make up temporarily before the exam. Nutrition, like knowledge, depends on the usual accumulation, and it is actually a misunderstanding to wait until the exam to pay attention to what to eat.
In fact, health care products are by no means omnipotent, and not all candidates are suitable for "enjoying supplements". Health care products also vary from person to person and are not suitable. Candidates and parents should not expect those products advertised as refreshing to produce "special functions". If the examinee does not absorb and adapt, it will also lead to diarrhea, allergies, colds and other diseases, which is counterproductive to the parents' original intention. If you really want to give your child some brain-strengthening health food or health medicine, you must pay attention to a degree of problem, don't abuse it, enough is enough.
Myth 2: meat plays the leading role
Studying before the exam is tense and consumes a lot, so nutrition must keep up. Many parents are worried about their children's malnutrition, and try their best to find a good prescription. There is an endless supply of delicious food, and they even wait on candidates all day.
If there are big fish and big meat every day before the exam, the child's stomach may not be used to it, but it will lead to diarrhea, physical discomfort and loss of appetite. Moreover, eating too much is easy to cause gastrointestinal fatigue, and eating too much requires a lot of blood to digest food in the stomach, and the brain's oxygen supply to the blood is reduced, which will lead to brain dullness and slow thinking.
In addition, it is unwise to play the leading role in diet before the exam. Light and low fat is the right way. The energy consumed by the brain is mainly sugar, not fat. The blood sugar level is low, and the brain is not efficient. Therefore, raising blood sugar appropriately is conducive to reviewing exams. Low fat, because eating too much greasy in summer will hurt the spleen and stomach. The diet before the exam is mainly light.
Myth 3: recipes have changed a lot.
Some parents like to prepare special meals for their children before the big exam. In fact, changing recipes before exams is a taboo for candidates. The reason is that the diet changes greatly, and the stomach needs a certain adaptation period, which easily affects the physical condition.
It's best not to change the law of daily life and keep a normal diet. Especially three days before the exam, don't suddenly eat some unfamiliar food or food that you don't eat often. Eat less gas-producing and sour foods before the exam, such as leeks, sweet potatoes and carbonated drinks.
A balanced diet is the most scientific.
During the big exam, candidates should pay attention to a balanced diet, maintain good eating habits, and don't overeat. How do candidates eat before the exam to be considered nutritious? Parents should arrange the examinee's diet reasonably according to several principles of balanced diet.
1, the food is diverse, mainly cereals;
2. Eat more fruits, vegetables and potatoes;
3. Always eat fish, poultry, eggs and lean meat in moderation, and eat less fat and meat oil;
4. Eat milk, beans and their products regularly;
5. It is the balance between physical activity and food intake, that is, the food intake is arranged according to physical activity;
6, eat more light and less salt food; Then eat clean, hygienic and non-perishable food.
In the preparation stage, parents of candidates must do a good job in the food hygiene of candidates. Don't give the candidates leftovers. Eating raw fruits and vegetables should be scalded or disinfected with boiling water. When making cold salad, vinegar and garlic should be added to the seasoning, which can not only sterilize but also stimulate appetite. Don't give candidates too much cold food, so as not to cause gastrointestinal discomfort, diarrhea and other diseases, which will affect the candidates' preparation status.
The principle of high sugar, high protein and low fat should be followed in diet selection to ensure the scientific intake of nutrients. You can cook some delicious, nutritious, cool and summer-relieving foods, such as mung bean syrup, tremella lotus seed soup and so on. During the senior high school entrance examination, candidates consume a lot of brain cells, so it is particularly important to supplement protein in time. Candidates can eat lean meat, chicken, fish and other foods with high protein content, and parents can also prepare a small number of vegetables and fruits with rich varieties for candidates. Colored vegetables and fresh fruits are rich in vitamin C. Vitamin C can not only help candidates enhance their immunity, but also help candidates improve their memory and analytical skills.
Pay attention to the hot and cold taste of food. College entrance examination students are young and strong, and Chinese medicine recognizes that their physique is mostly dry red. They should avoid eating too much warm food, such as dog meat, mutton, leek, pepper and pepper, or abusing warm nourishing drugs, such as ginseng and velvet antler. Overeating is mild, which can cause dry stool, sore throat, red tongue, bloody stool, nosebleeds, acne and insomnia at night.
In addition, we should pay attention to eating less cold food such as ice cream and ice cream during the big exam; Try not to eat cooked meat products or cold dishes on street stalls to prevent food poisoning or intestinal infection.
Candidates often have poor appetite and can't eat because of anxiety during the big exam. At this time, you can drink more milk, eat some fruit or drink some juice to supplement nutrition.
For candidates who study at night and stay up late. It is suggested that you can add more meals appropriately and remind candidates to eat less and more meals, which not only ensures energy intake, but also avoids drowsiness after eating.
Clever arrangement of recipes during the big exam
1, eat a good breakfast and never eat on an empty stomach, otherwise hypoglycemia and syncope will easily occur. Eating a good breakfast can fully supply the brain with the necessary energy, which plays an important role in maintaining vigorous energy and better examination status.
Breakfast energy should account for 30% of the total energy of the whole day. Because the cerebral cortex is still inhibited after getting up in the morning, many children have poor appetite and eat less, so they should eat small but high-quality, high-calorie, hunger-tolerant, easily digested and absorbed foods for breakfast, such as eggs, milk, bread, cakes, sugar, jam, steamed bread, sesame cakes, fried eggs and fried steamed bread slices, soybean milk, fried egg noodles, sausages and so on.
2. Lunch is the main meal for candidates in a day. In the morning, the body consumes a lot of calories and various nutrients. You should have a complete lunch and eat some high-energy foods, such as meat and eggs. It prepares for the exam activities in the afternoon. Therefore, lunch should be full of calories and various nutrients. There is food, meat, vegetables, bean products, dryness and thinness.
Lunch meals should be rich, and the contents of various nutrients in lunch generally account for 35%-45% of the total supply.
Recommended lunch dishes: sweet and sour hairtail+fried vegetarian dishes+seaweed leaf soup; Pork liver slices+celery shrimp+lotus seed lily tremella soup; Potato and beef slices+cauliflower and mushrooms+pea soup.
3, dinner should be based on cereals and vegetables, light and easy to digest, which is conducive to anti-fatigue and refreshing.
Recommended dinner dishes: stewed ribs lotus root soup+fried tofu with lobster sauce+mixed with jellyfish silk; Minced meat tofu+shredded potatoes with green peppers+preserved eggs mixed with tofu; Fried pork with onion+scrambled eggs with tomato+cowpea.
4, add meals. Before the exam, most students went to bed late because they reviewed their lessons, and there were about 4-5 hours between dinner and sleep. During this time, the food for dinner has been basically digested and needs to be supplemented. In addition, some students are very tired and their brains are in a state of tension and excitement, which affects their sleep. Therefore, it is best to drink a glass of milk and eat some bread and eggs when adding meals at night, which not only supplements nutrition, but also plays a role in calming the nerves.
Nutrition experts believe that many candidates are not malnourished, and imbalance is the main problem. Therefore, if you can eat three meals a day, the nutrition your body needs is enough. You can't eat too much high-protein and high-fat foods and nutrients because of one-sided pursuit of nutrition, otherwise it will increase acidic substances in the body and lead to brain fatigue. Therefore, at the critical moment of reviewing for the exam, supplementary nutrition should be moderate. Only when candidates suffer from severe malnutrition due to partial eclipse can they consider adding some nutritional preparations.