If you want to go, no one will laugh at you for being disabled. By doing so, you not only gave your cousin enough face, but also earned a good face for your father and family. I think my family has only a few relatives in this world. Without your uncle's face, there will be no glory, which will make people guess that your own nephew will not come to such a big thing, which will prove that your uncle is a bad person. If you go, you have a good life. It means that your family is very harmonious. Now everyone knows that family members don't bully outsiders. As long as the family is harmonious, no one dares to bully the people we add. So I suggest you go without a gift. Your uncle will be very happy.