If the daughter marries far away, parents can't take care of and protect her. Nowadays, girls are becoming more and more parents' treasures. If the lovely baby is too far away from her, she will be very worried about whether the distant daughter is doing well and so on.
But in the daughter's heart, they are emotional and romantic. They look forward to their Prince Charming at the last stage of their relationship. In such a strong expectation, once you meet the lover you think, you will suddenly lose your mind, be blinded by your self-righteous love, and marry each other regardless.
As a parent, I can't help but feel heartbroken for my daughter's marriage. The girl was carried away by love and married in Africa despite the opposition of her family. Her name is Xiaoying.
Xiaoying was born in a very wealthy family. As an only child, she is very popular with her parents. Xiaoying is also very beautiful and studies well. When she was shopping at the university, her wallet was stolen by a thief. Just as she chased the thief loudly, a handsome African boy helped him find the thief.
In this way, the two met. In order to thank them, Xiaoying invited men in black to dinner, and then they often contacted each other. Over time, they developed feelings. Xiaoying thinks that the black guy is very handsome and caring, and Xiaoying soon likes the black guy.
Xiaoying not only wants to marry him, but also wants to live in Africa with him, which is strongly opposed by her parents. The daughter made up her mind to leave, even disowned her father, and then went to live in Africa with her boyfriend.
After her daughter left, her parents were very distressed. I don't know what Africa is like. A few months later, my mother hurried to Africa to visit her daughter. But after arriving in Africa, she went to her daughter's residence and saw her living environment. Those so-called self-deception ideas are gone. I couldn't take it for a while and fainted on the spot.
It turns out that my daughter lives in a poor, dirty and messy environment, which can't be compared with her own home. It would be unacceptable for any parents to see her living in such an environment.
In fact, my mother is not against marrying an African, but wants her to keep a clear head in love. Girls should be considerate when they get married, because you have to go to a strange environment and face strange faces.
But after the mother woke up, she stayed with her daughter for a few days in such an environment. She also knows why her daughter married an African, because Africans are different from what we thought. Although they are black, they are gentle and kind. The daughter said that she was happy and safe around him, but she regretted it because of environmental problems.
Later, under the mother's repeated persuasion, the daughter and son-in-law returned to China to live together, so that they could often see their daughters and be with their husbands.
Women in love always like reading books and idol dramas about love. Under the influence of such love literature and art, they regard love as supreme, and even think that it is love when the whole world strongly opposes it, but they still insist on their own decision and are desperate.
When a girl and a boy she likes spend months and nights thinking about each other, they simply think that this is married life. They always idealize marriage and love, thinking that everything is beautiful and full of expectations.
As experienced parents, they will treat their marriage objectively and realistically, but girls always feel that their parents just don't want to make themselves better, want to break up with their boyfriends and won't listen to anything.
When the idealized love and marriage you expect are completely opposite to what you expect, you will find that reason and reality are often more important than love in the face of marriage.