1, choose a date
The wedding day in Shandong is called official day, and the day before official day is hospitality day. Whether it is a positive day or a hospitality day, we should consider a good day. Generally, the official day is chosen by the man, and the reception day is chosen by the woman. The reception day is three or four days before the official day.
2. Wedding ceremony
After the date is chosen, you need to wait until the right day comes. On the wedding day, the man needs to choose 8 or 9 to go to the woman's house to celebrate the wedding. You need to bring something to the wedding, such as tenderloin, which means leaving your mother's meat. We also need some green onions and red washbasins tied with red lines, which are rules handed down from some traditional customs.
Step 3 send relatives away
After receiving the bride, the groom left home together and went to the new house. The bride needs to see her off when she gets married, and the bride's brother must go with her. This is called "pressing the car". In Shandong, the mother of the bride can't see her off, but the father of the bride can. When the bride gets married, she should cry as loudly as possible.
Step 4 get married
The wedding can begin when the teams that take the relatives and send them off arrive at the wedding site together. The groom's parents can give the bride some red envelopes. The subsequent process ceremony is similar to the modern wedding process. At the end of the ceremony, there was a wedding banquet, and the couple toasted the guests together to express their gratitude.
5. Go back to the door
On the third day of marriage, the bride will cook a meal for her parents-in-law, and then take the groom back to her family. The bride's family will hold a thank-you banquet on this day and invite some close relatives. Newcomers usually make speeches, so it's best to prepare early. Choose some festive colors for the dress, it doesn't need to be particularly grand.
Marriage customs in different parts of Shandong Province
I. Longkou City, Shandong Province
Longkou, after the bride gets on the sedan chair, she should send two porcelain pots to the bride and groom's sedan chair, and put two peaches and two mirrors in the pots in the bride and groom's sedan chair to symbolize health and longevity. In addition, there is a custom of the groom stealing things in Longkou, that is, when the banquet is over, the groom secretly takes back a small handleless wine cup and a pair of chopsticks when people are not paying attention, which means to have a dutiful son early after marriage.
Second, Shandong Jiaonan and Rizhao
The bride is assisted by a "married woman" and enters the sedan chair on the red carpet or flower mat. If it rains, her brother or younger brother will carry her into the sedan chair. Before getting on the sedan chair, it is inevitable that mother and daughter will cry when they are separated. The bride should have a mouthful of rice in her mouth, or a mouthful of comfort, spit half and leave half. It is said that too much wealth is thrown at the bride's family, too much poverty is left at her family, and the poverty of the other half of her husband's family often puts the bride in a dilemma. In some places, the bride wants to grab a handful of money from her mother's pocket. Catch more and catch less means the same as spitting. Some people use food instead of money.
3. Boshan District, Shandong Province
The bride grabbed the sedan chair. On the wedding day, the groom took the car and sedan chair and followed a group of people to the woman's house to "rob the bride". The bride's brother ran behind her, the bridesmaid was behind the guard, and the groom took the people to catch up. After a symbolic struggle, the bride was robbed of the sedan chair. After the bride gets on the sedan chair, there is a custom of splashing water in many places, which is called "marrying a woman and splashing water"
Linqu is the bride's brothers and sisters who bring her water, also called soup, which is the last brotherly service the bride enjoys before she gets married. Some are the bride's mother or brother's sister-in-law, throwing a ladle of water outside the door. It is said that it means that the married daughter, like the spilled water, can never be collected again, hiding the pity of mother and daughter.
Fourth, Taian, Shandong.
Taian worships heaven and earth in front of the incense table. There are offerings on the incense table, candles are lit, red carpets are laid under the incense table, and cakes are placed. The groom kowtowed to heaven and earth, and the bride stood motionless on the cake. In some places, when offering sacrifices to heaven and earth, people grab the sorghum in a bucket and sprinkle it on the bride's head, which is called "Sa 'er", but it is actually a "Sa 'te".
In Yangjun Township, Laiyang, the sedan chair arrived at the door, and the father-in-law pulled the curtain of the sedan chair forward. Before helping the bride get off the sedan chair, the bride's feet should be baked with a stove, and the groom is lying on the kang in the bridal chamber, commonly known as "pressing the kang".
Help the bride to the front door and call the groom's maiden name three times in a row. The groom heard the sound and accompanied the bride across the saddle and into the gate. Before worshiping heaven and earth, my father-in-law kowtowed at the table of heaven and earth. After worshiping heaven and earth, he entered the house and took off the bride's red hijab with a weighing beam. Take off the red hijab and throw it on the roof at once. The higher it is, the more auspicious it is.