Set aside 1 day for yourself every month. This 1 day is entirely yours. You can be alone, take care of your children, or take part in activities. The form is not important, what is important is that this day is completely controlled by yourself, not affected by external factors, and there is no social activity, just for yourself.
I have been doing this for two years. No matter how busy and unhelpful I am, I will leave myself 1 day without thinking, just reading and listening to music, or just watching movies and sleeping. Form really doesn't matter As long as you don't do anything too tired, you will get twice the result with half the effort and feel calm the next day. Through my practice, it is very effective.
Some people may think that cooking can replace reading, so they concentrate on cooking, buying ingredients, adjusting recipes and preparing stoves. After all this, they will have a faint sense of satisfaction. This kind of satisfaction is very important, which can make a person feel alive, meaningful and alive.
On the contrary, some people live a lively life every day, singing and dancing, pushing a cup for a change and always having a party. In my experience, all this is fake social interaction, without social essence, and it will only waste a lot of time and energy, making a person afraid to be with himself.
Everything we do is meaningful, including some seemingly meaningless things.
Excessive pursuit of meaningful things in life will make people feel very tired. Including some normal and seemingly meaningless things is actually meaningful. For example, sitting in the living room in a daze, parents cooking in the kitchen. In this case, it seems meaningless for me to be in a daze, but it is of great significance. If my parents need company, it makes sense for me to stare blankly in the living room. If I go out to do other things in order to find the so-called meaning, my so-called meaningful things are meaningless to my parents.
Everything has advantages and disadvantages. We socialize every night. Think carefully about how much valuable communication we are doing and how helpful it is. If you choose carefully, 90% of the parties are a waste of time. Maybe we will feel worse and more depressed after the party. Time and time again, we are spending a lot of time and life, thus becoming ignorant and doing nothing. Because people need to be alone, they need to give themselves time to relax and recharge.
Therefore, we give ourselves 1 day every month. This day belongs to you completely, you can control it at will, but on one premise, you can't use this 1 day to consume yourself.
We should learn to raise ourselves, just like raising a pot of flowers, loosening soil, fertilizing and watering, how to raise our heart and how to do it. In the long run, a person will be young, quick-thinking and calm. There are many benefits.
Every season of life has gifts, one of which can be loneliness, a day in a month. Get up early to enjoy the sunrise and enjoy the afterglow after work. To give yourself time is to give yourself an opportunity and be responsible for yourself. Some seemingly meaningless things are actually very important.