Hello! First of all, we must choose a good date, usually in Qingming, July 15, the first day of October, and the anniversary of the death of the elderly; Secondly, red cloth should be put on the monument before it is erected (this is the custom in our region, I wonder if there is such a custom in other regions); Then burn incense and paper and kowtow.

Erect a monument instead of a single grave: if a man never leaves his mother-in-law, his father must have his mother, which means that one of the husband and wife is dead and the other is still alive. Some of them have been erected, so it is best not to engrave the party's name or paint it with red paint.

Don't erect a monument three years ago: generally speaking, according to the calculation of people who died later, a monument will be erected three years later. Some people set up a monument to their ancestors on the third anniversary. Also have a plenty of ancestors after three years, Tomb-Sweeping Day or the Mid-Autumn Festival on October 1st of the lunar calendar.