1, Li Li's "Drawing a Love Track with a Wheelchair"; Shi Tiesheng "wrote a magnificent chapter of life with an iron will"; Zhu Yanfu "interprets the ultimate life with firm belief"; Sang Lan's "I don't cry in the face of life, I conquered the world with a charming smile"; Tai Lihua, Let's Hear Bloom's Voice with Pure Dance. ...
2. Get out of the shadow of life and rekindle life. I hope the peasant woman can set up a painting and calligraphy exhibition room.
The peasant women finally came out of the lingering shadow in their hearts. This winter, the first "exhibition room for peasant women's calligraphy and painting" was set up at home, which not only touched the surrounding villagers, but also attracted urban and rural calligraphy and painting lovers and cultural celebrities to visit.
Wang Fen was born in a poor ravine in Xunyang County on 1962. When he grew up, he married Zhang Haipo Village, Mawang Sub-district Office in Chang 'an District. Having a son and a daughter after marriage leads a comfortable life. But when she reached middle age, misfortune followed. In 2003, her husband was killed in a car accident. The following year, a fire burned the whole family into an empty shell, and she was admitted to the hospital because of severe burns. Wang Fen was once in despair. In order to get rid of the lingering shadow, Wang Fen consciously or unconsciously painted on waste paper with lipstick and eyebrow pencil before he died. When I was discharged from the hospital and went home to recuperate, I picked up a pencil to draw when I couldn't go out. After a long time, she fell in love with this art, so the pencil was replaced by a brush and she began to copy Chinese painting by herself. Wang Fen began to practice calligraphy in his rapidly growing paintings. Over time, Wang Fen walked out of the long-standing shadow and rekindled his new pursuit of life.
With the rapid development of calligraphy and painting, Wang Fen attracted the attention and praise of people around him. Dong Jia has a happy event, but the family has a white event, and everyone has to ask her for a picture. On the eve of the Spring Festival, her home became more crowded. The recognition and love of the villagers made Wang Fen more diligent and studious. For three years, she worked hard day and night, studied and practiced hard, and wrote no less than 3000 words every day. Mr. Zhang Qi, a member of the Provincial Calligraphers Association, said that the rapid progress of Wang Fen's calligraphy and painting is surprising, and the fundamental reason lies in his earnest writing and good understanding. People are delighted to see that Wang Fen has won more and more awards. The rural women's painting and calligraphy exhibition room she founded has become a frequent place for urban and rural painting and calligraphy lovers, and the painting and calligraphy room has also become a new platform for enriching and activating rural cultural activities.
3, the entrepreneur's life midfield: only the shadow knows the sunshine.
Mr. Hu is currently the director of ING Real Estate China Company, the executive director of ING Beijing Investment Co., Ltd. and the chairman of Beijing Pacific City Real Estate Development Co., Ltd. During his many years of career, Hu's role has changed several times: from the director of research institutions to the senior manager of foreign companies, and then to the boss of independent companies. Every change has to give up a relatively stable job. Nonsense, he likes to explore places he has never been.
An accidental conversation inspired Hu, "When you see your own shadow, look in the opposite direction, and you will find that it is a piece of sunshine shining on you." "I don't have the resources and abilities that others have. It doesn't matter. I imitate them in a down-to-earth manner. " Nonsense: "I learn a little at a time, but once I find that I can't do it, I just need to subtract what I have removed." "Doing my best is another rule for me to do things." In his view, people don't have to compare with others all the time, obsessing over temporary gains and losses. "That will only tie their hands and feet."
The shadow is a paper dragon.
What kind of influence it will have on you in your life, the final decision is in your hands.
Grandpa made me a long dragon out of paper. The gap in the dragon's abdominal cavity can only accommodate a few locusts, and all of them die in it, and no one is spared! Grandfather said, "locusts are too impatient." In addition to struggling, they never thought about biting the dragon with their mouths, nor did they know that they could climb out from the other side as long as they continued to move forward. " So, although it has an iron pliers-like mouth shell and serrated thighs, it doesn't help. "When my grandfather put several green bugs of the same size into the faucet and then turned off the faucet, a miracle appeared: in just a few minutes, the young green bugs crawled out of Bali.
Tip: Destiny is always hidden in our minds. Many people can't walk out of the shadow at different stages of life, big or small, not because their natural personal conditions are much worse than others, but because they have no thought to bite through the shadow paper dragon and have no patience to find a direction slowly and move forward step by step until a new hole appears in front of them.
5. Light and shadow are the wealth of life.
No matter how smooth life is, it will not be sunny and flowers bloom every day.
Shadows are really annoying! "The famous cartoon cats Tom and Toby think so." We must get rid of it. "
However, wherever they go, Tom and Toby find that whenever the sun shines, they will see their own shadow that makes them crazy.
However, Tom and Toby finally found their own solution. Tom's method is to close his eyes forever. Toby's solution is to stay in the shadow of other things forever.
This fable illustrates how a small psychological problem becomes a bigger psychological problem.
It can be said that all psychological problems stem from the distortion of facts. What is the truth? Mainly the negative events that make us suffer.
Because of the painful experience, we are unwilling to face this negative event. However, once it happens, such negative events are bound to accompany us all our lives. The best we can do is to suppress them to the subconscious, which is called forgetting.
However, they will continue to play a role in the subconscious. Moreover, no matter how much we forget the facts, the pain accompanying these facts will still attack us, making us inexplicably sad and uncontrollable. This kind of pain makes us make further efforts to escape.
Finally, the usual solutions are these two: either, like Tom the cat, completely distort our experience and turn a blind eye to all the important negative facts in life; Or, like Toby the cat, we just seek refuge in pain and make everything very bad for ourselves. Since everything is so bad, the events that made us most sad are not so painful.
99% of drug addicts have had painful experiences. The reason why they take drugs is to escape these pains. It's like hiding in the shadows. The painful truth is the devil. In order to avoid this devil, I simply sold myself to a bigger devil.
There are also many adults who drink. They have an alcoholic and tyrannical father who has suffered a lot from him. In order to forget the pain, they learned the same method.
In addition to these visible wrong methods, we humans have invented countless ways to escape pain, which Freud called psychological defense mechanism. These defense mechanisms are necessary when it is too painful, but unfortunately, if the psychological defense mechanism distorts the facts excessively, it will bring out more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety, multiple personalities and even schizophrenia.
There is only one way to achieve real health ―― facing pain. People who face the pain will get many unexpected gains from the pain and eventually become the wealth of the parties. Planning and making good use of existing capabilities is far more important than tapping the so-called potential. "
Remember: Shadow, like light, is the wealth of life.
One of the most important psychological laws is that no matter how painful things are, you can't escape. You can only face it bravely, resolve it, transcend it and finally reach a settlement with it. If you are temporarily overwhelmed, you can ask relatives and friends, or professionals for help, and let people you trust accompany you to face these painful things.
American psychologist Rogers was once the loneliest man, but when he faced this fact and solved it, he became a real master of interpersonal relationship. Frank, an American psychologist, had a tyrannical and alcoholic stepfather and a terrible mother, but when he challenged this fact and finally forgave his parents from the heart, he became an expert in treating this problem. Japanese psychologist Morita Shoma was once a serious neurosis patient, but he challenged this fact and finally invented Morita therapy ... the most painful fact in their lives, and finally became their most important wealth. You can do the same.