The premise of educating children is to know them. Parents may feel both familiar and unfamiliar when they face China's youngest generation, the post-90s generation. Familiar, because they are around you, maybe their own children; Strangeness is because parents often feel that they don't know these children very well. Their thoughts and ideas seem to have been separated from their parents for a century. In the face of the "post-90 s" generation, parents often worry about their hard work, but they are still separated from their children, and sometimes contradictions are inevitable. In this regard, Sun Hongyan of China Youth Research Center wrote in the magazine Family Education that if effective measures are taken in combination with the characteristics of the post-90s generation, it will be more conducive to establishing a harmonious parent-child relationship between parents and children. In the eyes of parents, the post-90s generation lives in the ever-changing information age, bearing the expectations of their families, their lives are better than their parents', they are very curious about new things, and their growth is closely related to the Internet. They grow rapidly and are called "post-90s". How do parents treat the underage "post-90 s" children? The following are five parents' "incomplete comments" on the post-90s generation in the adult world. I can't understand children now, and I can't communicate. It's no use peeking at her diary. I can't read it at all. I didn't say "I", but said "E" and "Thank you" and said "3Q", only recently did I understand. (Ms. Chen, 45, senior one) My child is like a contradiction. He is enthusiastic about outsiders and indifferent to his family; He is curious and loves learning, but he only likes studying online and doesn't like listening to teachers. He has troubles in his heart and is willing to chat with strangers online, but he doesn't tell his parents and teachers. (Mr. Zhang, 43 years old, the child is in the third grade) My son has three ear holes. When he came home that day, he almost fainted. He still looks indifferent. When criticizing him, he also plausibly said that his generation can't live too wronged and adults care too much. (Ms. Cao, 43 years old, her child is in the third grade) My daughter is fine. I don't think there is anything wrong with her, but I think this generation of children is under too much pressure. There are endless homework and exercises every day, and I feel that children are unhappy. (40-year-old Ms. Wang, whose children are in the sixth grade of primary school) I think children nowadays are all bad-natured, arrogant and particularly vulnerable. It may be because many children are only children, and their families spoil them too much. (40-year-old Mr. Song, the child is in the fifth grade of primary school) The declaration of "post-90 s" in the net text is vivid, and laughing is our habit. We like running (online games), video games and novels. We are looking forward to classes, and we are looking forward to holidays. This is us, the "stubborn stubble" in the eyes of teachers, the "stubborn" in the eyes of parents, and our new generation in the 1990s. -90&90 is very angry! Angry people misunderstand our worship. Generally speaking, "post-90s" is an era misunderstood by society. Most people think that the "post-90s generation" is a declining generation, but this is not the case ...-What is there to criticize for clever little fortune tellers writing on Mars? I am disgusted with certain things. Can I choose my own birth? In the material society, our spirit is very empty, so we can only entertain ourselves online and write some sensational articles about Martians. If you don't allow this, it's really ... can you only go to school and leave school every day? -Ah ah, our generation is not as rebellious, cold-blooded, aloof, not open-minded and not motivated as adults think. On the contrary, as a "post-90 s" (not used to it), I think our generation is full of self-confidence, honesty, courage, kindness and simplicity, and it is extremely easy to be moved and shocked. Don't say we are numb, in fact, we are more emotional than anyone else. The characteristics of post-90s lunch boxes The China Youth Research Center and the Office of the National Youth Working Committee jointly conducted a survey on the development of children in China, covering children's psychology, values, study, leisure, consumption and media contact. The survey involved 184 schools in 46 districts and counties in Henan and other provinces, all born after 1990. Through questionnaire analysis, the post-90s generation has the following characteristics: characteristics 1: Self-confident but fragile post-90s generation can know themselves correctly, have higher acceptance of themselves, recognize their value in social life, and are full of expectations for self-development. This shows that today's children are more confident, more aware of their own values and have higher expectations for the future. However, there are still some children who are emotionally fragile and are controlled by anxiety, depression, irritability and pain all day, making it difficult to live happily and easily. Feature 2: Ideal but extraordinary "post-90 s" value orientation and understanding of life happiness are diversified. Scientists, teachers and doctors are still the most ideal social roles and occupations in children's minds. Feature 3: Attaching importance to rights protection but often limited. Although some children want to communicate with teachers and parents through diaries, more than half of them don't think it is a good opportunity to get to know them. With the growth of age, the post-90 s awareness of rights protection is getting stronger and stronger. They think that this is a violation of my rights and can't do this. The proportion of them who think that "I'm glad they have the opportunity to get to know me" gradually increases with age, and the proportion of them who think that "I'm glad they have the opportunity to know me" gradually decreases with age. Feature 4: Most children who like to study but have a heavy burden like to go to school, and their interest in class is increasing, but more than half of them have high expectations for academic qualifications. Although the call for reducing the burden has been very high, the learning pressure of the "post-90 s" generation is still great. Their homework time is seriously exceeding the standard and their sleep time is seriously insufficient. Feature 5: After 90' s, who are independent in consumption but accustomed to comparison, their living standards are further improved, their commodities are richer, and their consumption behavior is more rational. High consumption, comparison consumption, blind consumption and pursuit of famous brands still exist. Feature 6: The media environment is rich but easy to get out of control. Watching TV has almost become a "compulsory course" for the post-90s generation, ranking behind books, newspapers and magazines. Compared with five years ago, they spend less time reading books and newspapers and more time watching TV and surfing the Internet.