Because of the outbreak of the epidemic, the students have been kept in school for more than a week, and they have not come home for the first three weeks. The children are a little anxious: they want to go home and can't go back, they have to prepare for the college entrance examination, get up early and get up late, and they can't finish their homework by themselves. This is the background of this incident.
At that time, I studied for the second and third classes in the evening. The chemistry teacher was online in the classroom, and I was editing the courseware in the office. I wasn't in the classroom for a while, and just after the second evening self-study, the monitor hurried to the office to find me. "Teacher, teacher, two girls are fighting." Hearing this, I hurried to the office. Pushing open the front door, the two girls looked serious and glanced at each other angrily. Most students are listening attentively, especially Zheng, who is sitting on the podium. It looks as if he is going to put his face on the screen.
In order not to affect the students' listening mood, I blinked and the two of them left the classroom from the front door. I followed closely, watching the two of them tilt their heads, still angry. I took a deep breath and looked at them. "Come on, come closer to me." Tell me your reasons first. "This time, the two girls refused to give way to each other: Dong-"Who let what you just said affect my hearing? "Yufei Ren-"I'm not the only one talking. Why are you just taking it out on me? ! "As soon as I heard it, I probably understood their problem: they can't adjust their emotions well, and they have a strong desire to learn, which leads to a little stimulation that triggers their emotional outburst.
What are we going to do? Cold salad! !
I walked up to them and said, "You didn't really have any big conflicts before, did you?"
The two girls nodded.
"Now everyone is listening to the chemistry teacher. If you two can't handle your own contradictions, it will not only delay the study time, but also affect the class's mood. So, I need you two to calm down and get back to work quickly after dealing with the relationship. Can you do it? " Since I became a class teacher, I have been instilling such a truth in my children: harmonious relationship is the guarantee to ensure study concentration, and learning to deal with interpersonal relationships and adjust one's emotions is the basis to improve one's performance. Therefore, the two of them are very aware of what the teacher is asking of them now. So, they didn't make any noise, so they went to the first floor steps to solve their own contradictions. 10 minutes later, I came back from the classroom again and saw them crying on the steps. It seems that the problem has been solved. I told them both to go back to the classroom. Before I went in, I asked, "Do you know what your question is today?" Dong said: "I am too impulsive today, mainly because I have no holiday and my mood is too impetuous." I don't really take it personally, "Yufei Ren:" I have problems, too, teacher. I don't obey the discipline when the teacher is lecturing. As a class cadre, I can't set an example. Sorry, Dong. "I laughed." That's right. You can talk to me alone tomorrow morning, and then go in and listen to the teacher. " ……
The next day, I found two of them to help them analyze: 1. There are three children at home. They are the boss, the boss, but they are willful and have poor emotional management skills. Whenever their younger brothers and sisters interfere with their studies, they will make a hullabaloo about or fight in their brains. This behavior pattern gradually formed their behavior pattern of coping with stress. Compared with other students, you have fallen behind.
2. The suspension of classes due to the epidemic is a unified requirement of Hebei Province. If there is no overall awareness, we will consider the problem from our own interests, and the more we think about it, the more uncomfortable it will be. If you learn to put yourself in other's shoes and look at the problem from another angle, it will be more helpful for you to prepare for the college entrance examination.
The college entrance examination is just around the corner, I can't tell my priorities clearly, and I'm easily led by my emotions. Fortunately, both of you can handle your contradictions and emotions well under the guidance of the teacher.
? Feeling: When there is a contradiction between students, instead of standing between two people to judge, it is better to take a step back, let them take the initiative to deal with the problem, guide the children to see the necessity of solving the problem, and affirm that the children have a higher pattern. The problem is not terrible. What is terrible is that children cannot be guided to grow up from the process of solving problems. And this just needs the wisdom of educators.
Case 2 Li Haoyang, April 3, 2022
The third class has passed 10 minutes. I saw Li Hao coming up from the entrance of the building. He smiled shyly at me: "Teacher, I just went to fetch water during the big break and talked to a little girl, and was caught by Director Liu. The director said that I would go directly to the class teacher and let you handle it. " I looked at him with a smile: "Do you have grass in your heart?" "No, teacher, I just said a few words to her, and there was no intimate behavior." "In that case, considering our current learning task, I hope you can take the tail from wagging the dog, put away your little mind and pay attention to your image. Last time you Li See Shuanghong smoked in the dormitory, it affected others' rest. How to deal with it? " "Stand and listen." He said yes, it is easy to get sleepy in online class now, and standing and listening can also prevent you from being distracted. Just do it, starting today, and pay attention later. I'm not going to deal with this publicly in class, and I'm not going to inform your parents, so I'll save you face and you should learn to be self-disciplined, okay? ""I see, teacher. "
Next, I urge and remind Li Haoyang to take disciplinary measures every day, and urge him to take quizzes in all subjects every day.
Feelings: The leader gives the class teacher the right to deal with students' problems, which is a kind of recognition and trust for the class teacher's ability to deal with problems. Facing the college entrance examination environment, it is very important to stabilize students' mood, guide students to focus on the overall situation, and let go of bad behaviors and thoughts that affect their study. This is also an important policy to ensure a good style of study in the whole class. On the occasion of the 64-day countdown to the college entrance examination, I will continue to adhere to the management policy of "one center and two basic points", with "efficient learning" as the center and "physical and mental health and harmonious relationship" as the basic point, so as to ensure the smooth and normal progress of this ship in Class 5, Grade 3! !
Case 3 April 3, 2022? Liu Quanwei &; Liu Ziye
I went to the classroom to confirm whether Yao in the class was a first-class poor student. Just as I was walking towards the back door of the classroom in the corridor, I found two boys at the back door. Liu tried his best to enter the classroom and pushed the door hard, while Liu tried his best behind the classroom door. As I approached, I saw an exasperating and ridiculous scene: two children were blushing, and one was with his back to the corner.
Looking at me coming, Liu blushed, let go of his hand and got out of the way from the door. I walked into the classroom from the back door, and Liu He was embarrassed to look back at me.
Maybe I saw a lot of classmates watching. Liu felt ashamed of being blocked by Liu, so he raised his face and scolded, "Who the fuck told you not to let me in?" Liu did not show weakness when he heard this. "You fucking blame me ..."
"Hey-Liu, go to the office and wait for me. Let's go!" I yelled! Liu left bitterly.
I turned to look at Liu. He scratched his head and smiled shyly. I curled my lips and said, "Is this a beautiful thing?"
He lowered his head: "Not beautiful." "Then tell yourself that I am a big idiot." I looked at him with a smile. "I'm not a big idiot." He was even more embarrassed. "Since you don't admit that you are stupid, you will be responsible for your actions. Go and apologize to the back door of our class. " He scratched his head, went to the back door and bowed to the door. "I'm sorry." The students next to him burst into laughter.
"I have dealt with Dong in our class, and I can't vent my personal emotions on the class property. This is a manifestation of lack of literacy. " I looked at him firmly. The smile on Liu's face disappeared and became serious. "Well, teacher, I know I was wrong." "Is there any big contradiction between you and Liu?" I asked. "No." He said. "What is our most important task now?" I strike while the iron is hot. "learning." What he said was sincere. "Well, the teacher believes that you can handle this matter. Go ahead, go to my office and find Liu. You two should deal with this by yourselves first, and then come to me when you are finished. "
At this moment, the bell of the fourth class rang. I settled my classmates' class status and came to the office. Seeing that their mood has been very stable, I glanced at them and asked, "Has the contradiction been solved?" They nodded. "How to prove it?" Liu reached out knowingly, and Liu Ye reached out. At the moment of shaking hands, both of them smiled shyly.
"Time is tight, you just let it go. You see, you two have to contract the front and back doors of our class until the college entrance examination. Who is the front door? " Liu raised his hand. "Who is the back door?" Liu Ye raised his hand. "Good, let's go back to class first."
In the afternoon, I used the time between classes to find Liu and guide him to pay attention to the most important things at present. He admitted that he was still too impetuous. He should learn from Li Shuanghong, let go of the interference in pursuing his goals and settle down. Through short communication, I can feel the change of Liu's mentality. He was the league secretary of our class last year. Since he practiced physical education, his academic performance has been obviously affected. Moreover, his hobby is not sports, but art, so he is particularly easy to be in a state of "spirit in his head", which is not practical and unfocused, which greatly affects his current learning state.
Feeling: The wisdom behind the action is to guide students to develop in the right direction. Every question prompts us to find out the reasons behind the students' mentality, and then try to solve it after analysis. The goal is to complete students' ideological guidance.