Sun Tzu put forward the famous thesis of "making people not make people" in the book "Virtual and Real", and expounded the guiding ideology of war to mobilize the enemy without being mobilized by the enemy and master the initiative to defeat the enemy. To become is to be controlled, which means to mobilize. Existence means existence. Make people not make people: on Sun Tzu's Art of War. This means that we should be able to mobilize the enemy in the battle without being mobilized by the enemy. Cause, incur. Extend to transfer. The sixth article of Sun Tzu's Art of War is about this tactic. People often say that "it will cause people but not people", that is, if you want to win, you must dominate the enemy, not be dominated by the enemy. "Governance" means "governance", which is the meaning in classical Chinese. This sentence means to rule others without being ruled by others. Mencius said, "Those who work hard govern others, and those who work hard govern others." In other words, people with brains rule others, and people with physical strength are ruled by others. It should be "governance", otherwise it is a generic word. "Governance" means management, governance and restriction. "Passive" should mean restricting others and not being restricted by others. This is the tactic mentioned in Chapter 6 of Sun Tzu's Art of War. People often say that "it will cause people but not people", that is, if you want to win, you must dominate the enemy, not be dominated by the enemy. Didi has been familiar with Sun Tzu's Art of War since primary school. When other girls are still keen on bungee jumping, Didi has already understood the truth of "causing people without causing people". So, academically, she has always attracted people's attention. From elementary school to university, she knows exactly what kind of life she wants and what efforts she should make for her ideal life. When choosing a major in the university, others filled in foreign languages or communication studies under the guidance of their parents, but she insisted on applying for IT major. Through the books she usually reads, she just knows that the employment prospects in the IT industry are good. Sure enough, when she graduated, several units rushed to want her, and she also successfully entered an online company. Didi is not only provocative in the workplace, but also never provocative in love. Smart girls are still being chased. Didi talked about several friends in college, but they all broke up because they wanted to dominate her too much. One of them is coming, but the boy is going abroad, and Didi must go with him. Didi has her own ideas, and she doesn't agree. When she broke up that day, she read a message from the boy's eyes: I'm not going abroad, I want to bye bye. The next day, Didi took the initiative to find the boy and took the lead in breaking up. Later, Didi said, instead of waiting for him to speak, I'd better put my cards on the table first, so as not to be accused of dumping me. It is such a question of who dumps who, and Didi won't let anyone do it, let alone other major events. In the current company, Didi is not picky about his work, and a male colleague frequently shows that meaning. Didi didn't rush into battle. She felt that if she promised soon, she would be in a passive position. She should give herself enough time to prepare. The male colleague's name is Abiao, the only child in the family. After seven or eight years abroad, he insisted on coming back to start a business. A Biao was spoiled by his parents since he was a child. Even after working for so many years, he will still show his immaturity in some small things. Invite customers to dinner, as long as he eats eggplant, he won't eat it, because he only eats eggplant made by his mother. He later told Didi that the eggplant in Beijing restaurant didn't smell like eggplant at all. Then he asked Didi, "Can you make eggplant?" Isn't it obvious? Being unable to cook is Didi's only shortcoming, if it is also a shortcoming. So, after that meal, Didi quietly bought some books about cooking and devoted himself to research on the rest day. Didi never cares about cooking and doesn't want to care. However, Abiao is a good person, and his strength is equal to Didi in all aspects, so Didi doesn't even want to give up an opportunity to try. Learning to learn, Didi found cooking fun, especially the dishes made with reference to recipes, which made Didi very proud of himself. With the signature dishes as the backing, Didi feels that he will not be "stiff", and with the capital that causes people but does not cause people, he can also accept challenges. At a private party, Didi showed off her hands well, which made the company's colleagues dumbfounded; In particular, the eggplant made by Abiao and Didi unintentionally made him relaxed and happy! After eating eggplant, he immediately made it clear to Didi. Didi smiled. Although Didi and Abiao couldn't be together for other reasons in the end, Didi has always been grateful to eggplant, because eggplant has given her more than one ability, which can cause people but not others. And skills will only bring eternal benefits to people. Now, Didi lives with someone who also loves her eggplant. With that person's conditions, Didi can be a comfortable full-time wife in this life. But Didi didn't do that, because she always felt that being a full-time wife depended on her husband to support everything, not only for people, but also for people. Therefore, she would rather travel between the company and home every day, just for the feeling that it causes people rather than others, and she says it is beautiful.