My mother-in-law has three sons. Every time during the holidays, the family is reunited with 14 people. What a huge group of people is this?

When eating, it is common to have two big tables set up and a group of children running around, throwing bowls and chopsticks. As long as a group of us go home, my mother-in-law has been busy since the morning.

Even so, when it’s time to eat, there are two groups to eat. My six children and I were in the first group. Why am I grouped with children? Because among these adults, I am the only one who is as greedy as a child.

The remaining 6 adults will eat after we finish eating. And my mother-in-law is always busy in the kitchen.

After I finished eating, I took a group of children for a wild run. And my mother-in-law couldn't sit down and take a bite of food until the six adults were almost done eating. Most of the time, the food is already cold.

Sometimes, she will start clearing the dishes while eating.

At this time, the eldest brother, sister-in-law, second brother and sister-in-law took their children and went home to rest. Because our family of three lives in the city, we will stay at home with my parents-in-law for a while.

My mother-in-law and I counted the bowls and plates for eating, and there were actually 37. My mother-in-law did all these things herself. She refused to let me get involved. She felt that the daughters-in-law should not put their hands on the work when they came home once.

I sometimes ask my mother-in-law if she is particularly tired and bothers us. Such a large group of people have to be taken care of when they come and clean up after they leave.

She said: "Tired is tired. Tired, I also like to have more children. This is called having children and grandchildren, you don't understand. When you are old, having only one child and being lonely is called unlucky."< /p>

My mother-in-law and I are two completely different people. She loved having many children and grandchildren and was not afraid of trouble. Even with her son and grandson, she raised 9 children in total. She also raised my son.

I am lazy by nature and determinedly do not want to have a second child. I really feel that one child is enough chaos. Like my mother-in-law, raising 9 children will drive me crazy.

In rural areas, there are mothers-in-law like my mother-in-law who like children and grandchildren to make trouble, and there are also mothers-in-law like me who are very afraid of getting tired and annoying the mother-in-law.

A sister from my mother-in-law’s family, in my mother-in-law’s words, was a flower in their youth. I have met that old man, but I really feel that she is not as good-looking as my mother-in-law. But my mother-in-law said that at that time, young men from all over the country liked her.

That mother-in-law is the same age as my mother-in-law, 65 years old. Whenever the Chinese New Year comes, she will complain to my mother-in-law. She said something very special: "This is not a Chinese New Year, it is a disaster. We have worked hard to save money for a year, and when it comes to the Chinese New Year, there is not much left to buy fish, meat, and give New Year's money to the children. I still have I feel tired just thinking about having to cook for 15 people and wash 44 dishes.”

Every time I say that my mother-in-law has given birth to three sons and such a large group of grandchildren, she is really tired. Too noisy. Every time, my mother-in-law was very dissatisfied and said: "The flower I told you also has three sons, one more grandson than me. But you are not willing to give birth to me, so you are holding me back."

My mother-in-law is tired and happy on her side, and she is tired and in pain on her side.

Two days ago, my mother-in-law called me and said: "This year, Yi Zhihua's three sons will not go home to celebrate the New Year. Yi Zhihua is feeling uncomfortable at home."

Yi Zhihua said to my mother-in-law: "When they come back, they just want me to serve them. They just want money and food. Last year, my husband lifted the table and asked my sons to bring things and my daughter-in-law to help me cook. During the Chinese New Year this year, , people said that she was busy and would not come back.”

My mother-in-law said that during the Chinese New Year last year, Yi Zhihua was busy in the kitchen for 6 hours like my mother-in-law, and when it was time for lunch, her son, daughter-in-law, and grandson were waiting. When the granddaughters saw the food on the table, they all ate it without waiting for a flower to be placed on the table.

In fact, this was also the case in previous years. However, Yi Zhihua complained to her wife every year, and her wife was completely annoyed. This year, when she saw that the children were so unruly, she turned over the table.

The daughters-in-law were not happy, the sons were silent, and the grandchildren were frightened and cried.

The old man asked his sons to buy them gifts during the New Year. The daughters-in-law all went to the kitchen to help their mother-in-law cook, and the grandchildren did not give them any new year's money.

Then during the Chinese New Year this year, all three sons said they were too busy to go home for the Chinese New Year. The gifts are all bought and will be sent back to the villagers.

This Yihua cried to my mother-in-law: "Is this what I want from them? This means that the daughters-in-law are revolting. They don't come back, and they don't want to go to the kitchen to help me cook. They They all feel that since they don’t give them new year’s money, there is no need for them to go back.

I have been serving them for so many years and they will be like this when I get old. Go to them. Your daughter-in-law should understand better and stop forcing others to have children. What’s the use of having so many children?”

My mother-in-law continued to talk about the things she prepared for the New Year. She complained to me that pork was too expensive and told me not to buy beef during the Chinese New Year, but she couldn’t chew it.

I also prepared New Year gifts and food for my mother-in-law. Sometimes I really admire women like my mother-in-law.

She is the kind of person who really loves her children and grandchildren and is tireless when seeing her children and grandchildren. She said: "When I am in a bad mood, I hug our children and everything will be fine."

She is looking forward to the New Year and the reunion of this big family. The daughters-in-law were chattering, and the children outside were noisy. She was cooking in the kitchen, and her three sons were chatting with her next to her. My father-in-law went out to buy something he forgot to buy again. This may be the happiness she wants.

But what if the old man doesn’t want such “happiness”?

If the old man wants, the daughters-in-law will go into the kitchen to help. If the old man wants, his sons can bring more things when they come home so that they can show off. If the elderly have worked very hard throughout the year and cannot save much money, they cannot give their children a lot of lucky money.

What should we do as children? What should I do if my mother-in-law makes such a request?

During the Chinese New Year, the ideal situation is for one person to watch all the children, and then the adults start cooking together. After all, there are more people, more strength, and it will not be too tiring.

If my mother-in-law asks us daughters-in-law to help in the kitchen, we all go. We didn't go because my mother-in-law preferred to be in the kitchen with her sons.

In fact, in the final analysis, it depends on the man to help with cooking during the New Year.

I have studied the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in my family many times. I found that men play a big role. For example, my husband will always stay with my mother-in-law during the Chinese New Year. He will follow her when she cooks, and he will follow her when she serves the dishes. Anyway, it was my mother-in-law who was working around her three brothers.

It was their last reunion in a year, and they didn’t want to be disturbed by us daughters-in-law.

We never felt that we became outsiders because of this. After all, they were working and we were chatting. We reached some kind of agreement tacitly. My mother-in-law cooks, all her sons help, and we chat and give them some alone time.

Once a family reaches a certain level of balance, it is easy to be harmonious.

I often think about the Chinese New Year at Yi Zhihua’s family. The Chinese New Year should be festive, but there is too much resentment. But what if the old man asks his son to help in the kitchen instead of his daughter-in-law?

Since the old man feels tired and resentful, why don’t her husband and sons help? Why must all the daughters-in-law be required to help?

In fact, this is the root of all conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the reason why too many daughters-in-law don’t want to go back to their mother-in-law’s house to celebrate the New Year.

The parents-in-law understood that the sons had been tired for a year, but they forgot to understand that the daughters-in-law had also been tired for a year. The parents-in-law think that the daughter-in-law should work more, while the daughters-in-law think that the parents-in-law should treat them warmly if they don’t come back more than a few times a year.

Men are unwilling to reach out and understand each other, so there is such a "disastrous" New Year.

It’s really not easy for our parents to work hard to support us, so don’t be a wolf.

What I don’t understand the most is the three sons of Yi Zhihua’s family. Shouldn't they buy gifts for their parents when they go back to their parents' house for the New Year and honor their parents?

Since the mother is so tired and the daughters-in-law don’t want to work, shouldn’t sons help their mothers?

My parents are already dissatisfied. As a son, shouldn’t he coordinate this matter and discuss with his wives how to celebrate the New Year harmoniously? After all, not going home during the Chinese New Year is a blow to the elderly.

However, they acquiesced to the mother's tiredness and the wives' uprising. They are completely inactive.

Whether we go home to celebrate the New Year or not, no matter who is sad or sad, it has nothing to do with us. We just find the most comfortable way of life for ourselves.

My mother-in-law said: "If my three sons don't go home during the Chinese New Year, they will be laughed at when the New Year greetings come. Yi Zhihua always says that daughters-in-law are not honest, but I think her three sons are the real ones." It’s very unfilial. The daughters-in-law don’t want to help, and the sons are helpless?”

In this matter, instead of condemning women for being unkind and unvirtuous, it is better to condemn men in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. of inaction.