After Rene Liu got married, she didn't go into her husband's bedroom or eat together. It is no secret that Rene Liu separated from her husband after she got married. What is painted in the bedroom often reveals the most important part of a person. We will have a wish to put our most important people and things in the bedroom, because this is our most comfortable space. In the bedroom picture created by Rene Liu, the baby sleeps in the middle of the bed. She sleeps on the right side of the bed. Peggy the pig on the chair should be the baby's favorite toy. There are mobile phones, headphones and computers at the end of the bed. Is there something missing? Yes, without her husband Zhong Xiaojiang.
She called this picture "ideal life", and I think this is also her most comfortable state in real life. She said that marriage is not about two people becoming one person, but two "one person" living together.
Rene Liu separated from her husband for 10 years, which realized the ultimate embodiment and the highest realm of mutual trust in marriage. In her book, she talked about her marriage with her husband. They go out together, go to different cinemas and watch different movies, and then go home together. When they enter the door, one turns left and the other turns right. Because both husband and wife have separate bedrooms and study rooms, sharing the living room, kitchen and other room areas. Looks more like roommates than lovers.
What does she want? Some people say that she and her husband have no love. But I think the most comfortable state for lovers is to be able to attract each other and be independent. Everyone who has been in love knows that only passionate periods are inseparable, but after a long time, there will be relatively silent moments. This is a truly mature relationship. It doesn't matter if two people have nothing to say face to face. Just quietly lean on each other's shoulders and slowly spend a comfortable and not embarrassing time. No problem. Just like Gu Cheng's poem: The wind is shaking his leaves, the grass is bearing his seeds, and it is beautiful when we stand without talking.
I envy Rene Liu's married life. Maybe it will be incredible in your eyes, but I really appreciate her freedom and self-preservation in marriage. After marriage, milk tea still loves singing and writing, and even made a breakthrough and made a movie. Without constraints and grievances, we have more freedom and possibilities, choose to be ourselves and enjoy ourselves. Well, that's great! Whether in love or marriage, we women should face our lover in an independent and mature way. Take dreams seriously, love must be rational, don't love each other too much, and don't lose yourself for each other.
Falling in love with a person should be because he leads us to see a wider world, makes us know ourselves better, knows others better, and makes our minds mature, instead of my world only revolves around you. In love, only when two people are full of confidence and sunshine will they be happy and comfortable together, and this relationship will be more fresh, lasting and nutritious.
Yes, the most important thing in a relationship is comfort, not only for the comfort of two people, but also for themselves. Dare to express their opinions, dare to ask men, dare to be more decisive, stronger and better than men, and dare to say "no". Don't cater to men, wear clothes that don't suit you, put on makeup that doesn't suit you, do jobs that don't suit you, and go to places that don't suit you. Don't lower your self-esteem and lose confidence in them. Because love is freedom, not bondage. Love is happiness, not injustice.