Finally, Xiaoru went to primary school.
After entering the school, I tried my best to delay enrolling him in the cram school until I couldn't put it off any longer, until more than one "experienced person" told me that I had to enroll in the class, or I would delay my child's junior high school choice!
In the end, I still can't escape. Laughing Confucianism has also become one of countless children who shuttle through various cram schools in their spare time, and I have also become one of the parents who accompany them.
Before, a relative of mine accompanied my mother and her daughter in English class every weekend. From primary school to junior high school, rain or shine, mother and daughter have never missed class. I admire this mother in my heart and wonder how she did it. How to make her completely ignore those beautiful spring days, sunny days or crisp autumn days and concentrate on accompanying her children to class?
It was not until I became an accompanying mother that I found that everything was not as difficult as I thought.
Because I am worried about my children's grades, I am even more afraid of delaying my children-so many children are in cram schools. If not, what should I do? So many excellent children ... whose parents are still working hard, what should I do if I don't work hard?
Gradually, it has become a habit to accompany students on weekends. When all actions come from an inertia, I can also ignore those weekends when the spring is bright or the autumn is crisp and the golden wind is blowing.
I'm an accompanying mother, so I can barely qualify if I get a score.
The attendance rate is very high, almost full.
I can also write down the content that the teacher asked me to accompany my parents in class.
However, I will peek at my mobile phone or books unrelated to the course in class. I only pay attention to what interests me, so I often concentrate on two things.
I have met excellent accompanying parents, and I am ashamed of their concentration in class and the notes they copied.
I have also heard of such a pair of accompanying parents-the son goes to cram school, the parents accompany him and take notes carefully at the same time, and the three go home to take notes!
Everything comes to him who waits. Their son studies in the best middle school in this city.
Accompanying reading can accompany you to this state, I can only offer two words: convinced!
In the past two years, when I was studying with Xiaoru, I met some parents who came from all walks of life and different families and came together for a common goal.
In the matter of accompanying students, mothers account for the absolute majority, followed by fathers, and occasionally grandparents accompany students.
I know a mother who accompanied her son when he was in a math cram school in the fourth and fifth grades of primary school. After her son was promoted to the sixth grade, she couldn't tutor the content of the math class, and the child's grandfather would make up for it in time!
Speaking of which, I think I have a classmate. Every weekend, my parents-in-law will take the subway to her house, not for anything else, just to help her son in junior high school with his math. Her mother-in-law was a high school math teacher in the best middle school in the city before she retired!
The majority of female students in our class have expressed: I really envy her for having such a mother-in-law! It is impossible for a child to have such a grandmother!
This is really-not only "other people's children", but also "other people's grandparents" ...
In Xiaoru's English cram school, it is common for the little girl's grandmother to accompany her.
The old woman is over 60 years old, well dressed, elegant and serene, and speaks softly. She must have been beautiful when she was young.
I talked to her several times, and at first she took the initiative to talk to me.
As soon as I speak, I feel that the old lady is very unusual. There are no obstacles to communication. She just chatted at home, and what she said made people feel so kind.
I have observed her granddaughter, a small, quiet little girl, and I can't see anything extraordinary, but just because she has such a grandmother, it is conceivable that she is not an ordinary family, but she is a very low-key and introverted person.
Later, I don't know why, this beautiful grandmother didn't come to accompany her. It was the little girl's mother who drove her here, and the girl went to class alone. Occasionally, my beautiful grandmother will come. She always greets me warmly when we meet.
I am curious about her and want to know the story about her.
Of course, this is just an idea.
In this cram school, there is also a grandmother to accompany her.
If that beautiful grandmother is an elegant lady, then this grandmother is a very thrifty working people.
I first noticed her because she and her granddaughter came early every time. She always sits in a fixed position and takes notes carefully.
Once, I was sitting next to this old woman, and I happened to find that the book she used to take notes was actually bound by her own paper. That kind of paper is hard to see now. It was common when I was a child. This is a very thin piece of paper, with a smooth side and a astringent side. When I was in primary school, my teacher often used this paper to make mimeographed paper for us.
Grandma copied notes meticulously, but occasionally there was Lian Bi's place on the teacher's blackboard. She didn't recognize it and needed to ask someone else.
I admire her for taking notes at her age. It's English after all!
Later, I discovered that the clothes of their grandparents and grandchildren were different from others. Grandma means that no matter how old you dress, it's not obvious when you get old.
However, the little girl's dress is obviously incompatible with the children around her. She has a dark, chubby and red face, her hair is tied into a ponytail at will, and her clothes are always faded and old. The style has been unclear for several years.
In the city, it is really rare for children to dress like this now. I think their family's economic conditions are very bad.
One day after class, Xiaoru walked slowly, and I waited for him beside him before I packed my schoolbag.
There are few people in the classroom. I saw the fat girl's grandmother walk up to the teacher who was leaving and said, "The headmaster (the teacher is the vice principal), you didn't ask XXX (the name of the fat girl) this time. You didn't ask her last class. I remember it all! "
The teacher explained, "There are many children in this class who are not asked questions!"
Grandma said, "but all the children have asked twice!" " I remember everything, principal! "
The smile on the teacher's face disappeared and I turned my head to meet my eyes.
I quickly beat around the bush and said, "The main reason is that there are many children, few problems and insufficient points."
The teacher said, "Yes, the higher the grade, the fewer questions the teacher asks in class."
Grandma didn't say anything. ...
Xiaoru next to her looked surprised. He probably can't understand that not being asked questions in class can also be a reason to give advice to teachers. If this reason holds, I should go to the teacher many times.
Yes, how could he notice that girl and her grandmother?
He won't understand how different these children sitting in the same classroom will be from each other.
He doesn't know: every night in class, during recess, the beautiful grandmother will go downstairs to get the soup just cooked by the nanny, while her granddaughter, the thin little girl, has a fixed menu every day and never buys anything to eat outside; In the summer vacation, she just went to America to study. ...
He doesn't understand either: because for some people, the price of this cram school is not cheap, so we cherish every minute of class; So that fat girl's grandmother even haggles over every question the teacher asks in class. ...
All this is invisible to him at the age of ten.
Through two years of weekend accompanying reading, I found that accompanying reading can help children improve their academic performance; Accompanying reading can also promote parent-child relationship and help parents and even grandparents grow up together with their children; Accompanying reading can also make me understand life.
Accompanying students is a kind of surprise, and it is a kind of harvest after the helpless move.