Some people say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies A good mother-in-law is hard to meet.
In fact, a good wife can also be a good mother-in-law.
A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, just like love and marriage, requires knowing yourself and yourself, and working hard to be harmonious.
Needless to say, a good mother-in-law naturally. So, how to get along with the "bad" mother-in-law?
Of course, the "bad" here does not mean that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really bad, but that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious, which makes the relationship between family and husband and wife incompatible.
Mother-in-law's character and the way of dealing with people all come from her family background and growing environment.
We should not try to change our mother-in-law, nor ask her to be changed in a short time, just as we are not easily changed ourselves.
But the mode of getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be adjusted. Knowing the advantages and disadvantages of mother-in-law is the first step to peaceful coexistence.
No matter when and where, the daughter-in-law should make her mother-in-law feel respected.
If there are differences, don't directly contradict your mother-in-law, listen to her thoughts and opinions patiently and allow different opinions to exist.
The mother-in-law is faced with a brand-new learning process of new ideas and new things.
On the one hand, don't rush to deny your mother-in-law's old practice, which was useful at that time, and now you can have a better substitute. On the other hand, it takes some time to establish a sense of renewal, and the daughter-in-law needs to lead her mother-in-law to grow up.
For example: scientific parenting concepts, daily eating habits, etc. Mother-in-law needs to digest and absorb and change herself slowly.
Daughter-in-law can show news videos, articles and other cases to her mother-in-law through her husband, thus subtly affecting the negative impact of old ideas in today's society.
Of course, if the mother-in-law has unreasonable beliefs or events that violate human nature, that is another matter.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began not after marriage, but before marriage.
Before you meet your mother-in-law, you can know her preferences in many ways and pay attention to her expectations for her daughter-in-law.
When we meet for the first time, we should establish a good impression, give priority to listening, take the initiative to put ourselves in other's shoes, and carefully prepare thoughtful gifts for our mother-in-law.
Mother-in-law wants a daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law must go all out to help her mother-in-law fulfill her wish and add points to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Every special festival, such as mother-in-law's birthday, Mother's Day, Double Ninth Festival, etc. We should keep it in mind and take the initiative to remind our husband to celebrate with his mother-in-law.
For example, invite your mother-in-law to eat and go shopping to buy gifts, or go to her mother-in-law's house to cook a hearty meal for her mother-in-law, or give her a gift with a sense of ceremony. Gifts must be given to your favorite, which can be a performance, a trip, beaded jewelry, clothes bags, skin care products, health care products, fruits and flowers.
Work hard before marriage and get the blessing of my mother-in-law after marriage. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious and satisfactory.
Mother-daughter relationship can follow one's inclinations, talk about everything, and be willful and coquettish.
Daughter-in-law should have some bad feelings in front of her mother-in-law and keep a sense of distance. Even if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, you can't dump it at will.
On the good side of your husband, you can praise her in front of your mother-in-law and thank her for raising a good son.
But when the husband is not doing well, the daughter-in-law can tell her mother at will, but she can't complain about her husband's shortcomings in front of her mother-in-law.
Because no mother-in-law wants to hear that her son is bad, even if his son is wrong, she doesn't mind. After all, she is her son.
Special reminder: When you live with your mother-in-law, when your husband and wife have conflicts, your daughter-in-law should control her emotions, manage her words and deeds, try to stay away from her mother-in-law, don't quarrel in front of her mother-in-law, insult her husband, and don't let the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law add fuel to the fire.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, and the daughter-in-law is often reluctant to have too much contact with her mother-in-law and asks to live separately.
The more you avoid it, the less you can solve the problem. The correct posture is to face it bravely.
For example, after marriage, there is always a mother-in-law complaining that "I forget my mother when I have a daughter-in-law". My son is busy with his own career and small family, and often rarely calls his parents. My mother-in-law feels neglected. Especially the mother-in-law who lacks emotion between her mother-in-law and her father-in-law, or the mother-in-law who is widowed and lives alone and puts all her feelings on her son, often can't help but envy and attack her daughter-in-law.
At this time, the daughter-in-law should have the ability to "empathize", go deep into each other's hearts and understand her mother-in-law's feelings and thoughts. The next day, instead of her husband, she called her mother-in-law, caring about her recent situation, seeing what her mother-in-law needed, and giving her emotional comfort instead of blaming her mother-in-law. (Especially the sick old people need active attention. )
Every weekend, no matter how busy you are, you should take time to spend with your husband, take your children and bring gifts to visit your mother-in-law, so that she can enjoy her family.
When the daughter-in-law understands her mother-in-law's difficulties and really loves her mother-in-law, even if her mother-in-law is a knife mouth, over time, her heart will be moved to become soft and she will no longer be picky about her daughter-in-law.
No matter what kind of "bad" mother-in-law you meet, you should first respect each other, secondly be positive, have empathy, and thirdly be self-centered.
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