When we were young, many parents, under the guidance of the idea that "everything is inferior, only reading is high", resolutely adhered to: children don't have to do any housework as long as they study well.
My parents think that children's "bounden duty" is reading and doing housework is a waste of time.
From primary school to college, my grades have been among the best, and I was sent to college all the way. But I didn't get any exercise at home. Therefore, when I grow up, I don't like doing housework, and I prefer to spend my time on work or hobbies.
After having children, we lived with our parents for another seven years. They still follow the old idea that I am not allowed to do housework, as long as I go to work well and come back to take care of the children.
After my daughter went to primary school, we began to live alone. First of all, we use hourly workers to cook and clean. Later, my husband and I took turns doing housework, but they were not very enthusiastic.
Being bad at housework is actually quite harmful. Not only are things at home in a mess, but even three meals a day feel that it is good to have enough to eat, and they are not interested in exploring novel foods. It is also easy to ignore family and children in life. Every time I see other children grow white and tender, and my daughter grows tall, but her face is not very good, I feel a little guilty.
Because I didn't form the habit of loving housework and suffered a lot, I think it is very important to cultivate children to love labor from an early age.
After all, studying at school is only a stage of life, and the ability to live a good life is the prerequisite for determining a person's happiness in life. Being good at housework can not only take care of yourself, but also have the ability to take care of and help others.
Let children do housework from an early age, and it is easy to form a good habit of lifelong benefit. Moreover, there is also great wisdom in housework-how to do housework quickly and well and how to arrange time effectively requires hands and brains, which is conducive to the growth of intelligence.
Moreover, everyone is an important member of the family and needs to bear the responsibilities within his power. Doing housework is a good way to cultivate children's sense of responsibility.
Therefore, when my daughter was in the third and fourth grades of elementary school, she began to cook; On weekends or holidays in the fifth and sixth grades, she contracted breakfast, usually simple meals such as steamed bread and steamed buns; On weekends and summer vacations in grades 7 and 8, we sometimes teach her to cook several dishes.
Now, she can cook many home-cooked dishes, and sometimes she can cook delicious food according to recipes, such as mashed potatoes, scrambled eggs with potatoes, beef celery, bacon omelet and so on. Every time I eat delicious food, I am full of praise: "The baby's cooking is much better than mine!" "
The daughter smiled faintly and said confidently, "Of course!"
On Mother's Day this year, she specially cooked a pot of delicious rice with bacon and diced potatoes. She repeatedly said to me, "Mom, remember to open the rice cooker first."
Rice is delicious, soft and waxy. In retrospect, there is still a aftertaste between lips and teeth. I said to her, "This is the best meal I have ever eaten. It smells of happiness!" "
In cleaning up the room, my daughter was greatly influenced by me, and things piled up everywhere. I used to help her manage it, but then I left it alone, because it didn't take long for it to be chaotic.
This year, she watched a short video of "breaking up" and decided to tidy up her room during the summer vacation. At the end of July, my daughter began to tidy up the room with great interest, which lasted for more than a week. Finally, she made her room warm and tidy.
After school started, my daughter was going to study far away from home, so we rented a house near the new school. My husband and I went to clean for six hours today.
Originally, I wanted to make an appointment for hourly workers online, but I also wanted to exercise myself in consideration of the safety during the epidemic. So, my husband Qi Xin and I worked together and cooperated tacitly, basically cleaning up the house.
After packing for six hours and driving for two hours, I didn't feel tired at all, but I felt quite fulfilled and relieved. My husband and I agree that starting from tomorrow, we should make our home more like a home: spacious, clean, warm and full of fragrance. ...
It used to feel so good to work hard. I feel like a snail girl, full of heart and very happy.
Create a clean and tidy environment for the whole family to enjoy; Knowing that you are capable by doing housework can also gain self-confidence and believe that you can do more and more important things. And your efforts and dedication also reflect your responsibility and love for your family.
So, how can we cultivate children's habit of loving labor and being willing to undertake housework?
First of all, parents should set an example and become hardworking parents.
Parents are the best role models for children. Your every move, children see in their eyes, remember in their hearts, and silently learn from their parents' personality and habits.
Therefore, I hope that the child is diligent, please become that person first.
Secondly, step by step, let the children do what they can.
Children of different ages have different growth and development characteristics. Don't be impatient, let go a little, and let the children try housework suitable for their age.
In fact, there are not many kinds of housework and it is not complicated. Let children start from small things, let them feel that they can control and gain a certain sense of accomplishment.
Furthermore, parents can create a cheerful atmosphere when doing housework. Not only do you enjoy it, but children also feel happy to do housework.
When I wash clothes or cook now, I sometimes listen to Xinjiang dance music and jump a few steps on the rhythm; Sometimes, I will listen to the lectures of teacher Wei or metacognition; Sometimes, I can sing and feel full and happy.
My daughter will also listen to music or stories while sitting around and then study her recipes.
Finally, remember to praise in time.
No matter what kind of housework children have done, especially when they just learn to do a certain kind of housework, they must be encouraged, praised and thanked in time, so that they will have a positive emotional experience in undertaking housework and be more willing to do things and do more.
Every time my daughter cooks food, her father and I will praise her and praise her in front of my parents. My mother often sighs: hey, you have raised a good daughter!
Teacher Wei Shusheng, an educator, particularly emphasized that parents should cultivate their children's habit of doing housework and insist on doing it every day. When time is tight, even if it is only one minute, it is conducive to cultivating children's sense of responsibility.
Children are used to doing housework at home, so they can work for the group at school. After joining the work, they must be a responsible person.
No wonder the ancients said: if you don't sweep a house, why sweep the world?