People all say that raising children to prevent old age, so in their sixties, people can't wait to get pregnant and have children, expecting someone to take care of them when they are old.

However, I think this idea is wrong. The times are developing, so should our thinking. Don't dwell on the old idea of raising children to prevent old age.

Raising children for old age may be out of date. With the improvement of human life span, he is old, his children are old, and his family has his burden.

If children are filial, maybe their own financial pressure is enough for them. How can they care about you?

If you meet another unfilial person, even if you are old, it is likely to be a person.

If so, it's sad to think about it.

I had hoped that he would support you when you were old, but I didn't expect them to be unfilial and even ignore your comfort when you were old. If this is such a son, something is better than nothing.

In this case, our ideas should also change. It is our nature to raise our son, but whether our son will raise us when he grows up depends on his own situation.

It is said that there is no dutiful son in front of the long bed. A person has been ill for a long time, even if his children are filial, they will complain.

Sometimes we should do some old-age security ourselves.

02

When I went home on National Day this year, there was a 70-year-old man in the hospital next door to me. His wife left him when he was 50 years old, leaving him alone.

The wife is here, and the children are diligent. Mother is here and home is there.

The old man has four children, one son and three daughters, and all the families are doing well.

He didn't feel any different when his wife was around, and all four children were very filial.

After mother left, the difference came out.

At first, his three daughters would visit him from time to time and take him to live in their own home.

However, later, I may dislike his uncleanness and smell, and then I will send it back to him for his only son to raise.

His son has a rather grumpy temper. When he was young, he often quarreled with his father. Now that the old man is old, he is a little afraid of his son.

So he never comes out when his son is around. Only when the son goes out to work will the old man come out for a walk in the yard.

These are still under the condition that the elderly are in good health. Later, with the growth of age, their physical condition is getting worse every day, and even some Alzheimer's patients can't do things neatly.

When the old man saw this situation, the attitude of his four children changed immediately.

The three daughters never visited their old father, and never thought that his father provided them with education and marriage.

But I didn't expect that now that they have a good life, they will never care about their old parents again.

So is his son. Fortunately, the old man has a good wife.

No matter his son or daughter, his daughter-in-law takes care of him. Every day after cooking, she will bring it to him. After eating, she will bring it to him again.

The daughter-in-law is kind to him, but she knows it herself. Although she didn't say it, she was grateful to her.

The three children educated by the daughter-in-law are also very filial. The old man's children are not filial to him, but his grandchildren are still filial to him.

Therefore, in a family, family style is very important, because the daughter-in-law has a good personality and is very kind, so the children raised are also very kind.

03

The old man used to be a soldier, but now he has some pensions, so he usually gives money to some of his grandchildren, and his son and daughter have no money.

Everyone is not stupid and knows how others treat themselves, which can be seen from the money left by the old man to his grandchildren.

Later, the old man was seriously ill and his children didn't come to take care of him. They are all daughters-in-law.

The old man left all his money to his daughter-in-law and grandchildren when he died. I know his daughter-in-law very well and have a good relationship with our family.

Usually, if there is something delicious, it will be sent to us. We have played with their children since childhood and have deep feelings.

But for his son and his three daughters, I have never been used to it.

No matter how old people are, crows also have the grace to feed back, and sheep also have the meaning of kneeling and milking. It is not easy for parents to raise us, so we must honor them if we have the ability.

Parents are the best people in the world for us, and they also pay for nothing in return.

In this case, you must not be ruthless. When you do things without conscience, you will be punished.

You must treat your parents like this, so what should you do if one day you are old and your son treats you like this?

Not too perfect. You leave space for others, and others will leave space for you. If you honor your parents, they will treat you well.

If you can't stand what you have done and even feel guilty about your conscience, how can you explain it to your parents?

04

As the saying goes, "raising children to guard against old age", however, many people are under pressure to support their parents when they should be "thirty".

According to the survey, 90% of the post-80s generation decided that they could not support their parents, and more than half of them still needed their parents' support. At that time, it was a joke to say that "supporting the elderly and preventing children".

The reason why raising children to prevent old age is deceptive is that on the one hand, the economic pressure is too great, on the other hand, it is a personality problem.

Sometimes, filial piety tests people's hearts, and parents' support for the elderly can better reflect your character.

If you are not filial to your biological parents, then no matter how much you have achieved and how much money you have earned, there will always be some problems in this person's personality.

It is very dangerous to get along with people who are moral-oriented, but talented without virtue.

Being a child, filial piety is the foundation. If you can't even do basic filial piety, you are a failure after all. ?