as the saying goes, "one side has soil and water, and the other side has affection." Different nationalities and regions have different customs and habits, some of which are fine traditions left over from history; Another small part is a custom that has been formed by the people one by one with the development of social economy, and is acquiesced by people and local government. General customs and habits include marriage, funeral, marriage, marriage, having children, celebrating one's birthday, and picking houses and building houses. Excellent traditional customs and habits are admired by people and passed down from generation to generation, but they are also respected by people after being polluted by unhealthy trends in society. Taking the opportunity to show off your wealth or take the opportunity to collect money is simply a waste of effort and money, not worth the candle. They think that the general banquet is too stingy to entertain visitors, so people begin to ponder how to show their sincerity and wealth, and a lot of "rules" arise. There should be four dishes of dried fruit, six dishes of cold dishes, eight dishes of soup and ten dishes of stir-fry (some 16 dishes) at the banquet, and the patterns are changeable and varied. In some villages, the atmosphere is bad, and all the people in the village eat and drink for free (except for helping). The main family is embarrassed to say it, and they dare not say it. The general banquet is at forty or fifty tables, and there are hundreds of tables (ten people at each table). People die like lights. When people are alive, their children are not filial. After death, they hold a strong worship ceremony (May 7th, anniversary, three years, etc.) and cry in front of people, giving "tear gas" to win people's sympathy and pity. In addition, a banquet was held to cover up their past "ugliness" and wash away their sins. If the countryside is poor, they are afraid of getting sick. Once they get seriously ill, they will basically declare "death penalty". Because there is no money to see a doctor, you can carry a minor illness, and you can live for a few days if you have a major illness or incurable disease. It's not a pain to die happily. If you can't die in three or five years and can't move in bed, that's a pain. It's worse than death. My son and daughter-in-law can still serve at first, but after a long time, they lose patience. It's good not to let you go hungry every day. I want to wash clothes and bedding for you, but I'm too lazy to change them for you if I don't want to wash them for a month. When he died, his body was rotted by excrement and urine, covered with lice and maggots. Whenever I see this side, I can't calm down for a long time, lamenting where people's conscience lies, where ethics and morality lie, what's the use of raising children, what is raising children to prevent old age, and pity inherit the wind. Marriage is a happy event in life, but in order to get his son a daughter-in-law, farmers almost lost everything, and some people were forced to hang themselves because they had no money to pay their debts. If you have more sons, you will suffer even more. In rural areas, the betrothal is relatively early, starting at the age of seventeen or eight, and getting married at the legal age, with an interval of four or five years. During this period, if the man proposes to break off the marriage, the woman will not refund the bride price money at all, and if the woman proposes to break off the marriage, the bride price money will be returned in full. This has become an unwritten "rule". There are many procedures for betrothal. To put it bluntly, it is to collect money. Generally, we have to go through the process of meeting, betrothal, housekeeping, engagement, ceremony, marriage, etc. In each process, we have to send cash and eight kinds of gifts, and her close relatives have to send the same gifts. If there are many relatives in her family, the cost is not small. On holidays, please ask the woman to send one or two hundred to the man for the holiday. When you get married, the general cost is 3, to 4,, excluding building a house, giving gifts and buying furniture. The deposit for meeting is 1 yuan, 2, yuan for engagement, 2,-4, yuan for housekeeping, 4,-6, yuan for engagement, 1,-2, yuan for gifts, 2, yuan for marriage (the hard work of the woman's parents), about 2, yuan for building a house (bungalow), and about 4, yuan for usual gifts. Such a high cost is a thousand figures for ordinary people without income. In rural areas, the ceremony is very casual, and the friendship of a few faces is also sent. This custom is generally accompanied by 2 yuan, and the closer relationship varies from 5 to 5 yuan. If a family has something to do, people from Shili village will join in the fun. A family spends thousands of dollars a year with gifts, which is an astronomical figure for ordinary people without income. Although the state reduced the burden on farmers, on the contrary, this unhealthy trend took the opportunity to rise and made farmers miserable. In fact, people are not rich. They just pretend to be fat in order to keep up with the fashion. Farmers' income other than farming is very limited. If you don't do this, you won't be able to look up in front of others, and you will be despised and ridiculed by others. The poorer a person is, the more he loves face and shows off, for fear that others will look down on him. Vanity really kills people. It is understood that this phenomenon exists in rural areas all over the country to varying degrees, and some are much more serious.