1. Marriage customs in Shandong. Choose the right day
In Shandong, the good day of the wedding day is called "positive day", which is generally chosen by the groom's family, and the non-positive day is also called "hospitality day", which is generally three or four days earlier than the positive day. On the reception day, the groom-to-be will stay at the bride's house all day to entertain her relatives and friends. The woman's parents will have a big banquet in the hotel that day, and there will be guests in the guest house. The bride and groom put on their dresses, and the host and guest representatives gave speeches on the stage, which was regarded as their first marriage. The couple also need to propose a toast to each guest and accept gifts from her relatives and friends. After the banquet, the groom will go back to his home and wait until the wedding day to see the bride.
2. Shandong marriage customs. wedding ceremony
According to Shandong people's custom of getting married, the sooner the better, because there is a saying that the time for the groom to get married is also a good time to find someone to divine. Generally, there are two numbers, 8 and 9, which stand for getting rich and lasting. Moreover, the number of bridegrooms who come to pick up relatives must be odd, because when he marries his wife, he makes up a double number, and it is best to control the number to more than a dozen people, including a pair of boys and girls.
The groom needs to bring tenderloin to his mother-in-law, which means "leaving the mother's meat", as well as green onions tied with red lines (meaning a complete life) and a "cornucopia" (actually a red washbasin full of daily necessities).
The bride should sit on the new quilt of her parents' house, commonly known as "sitting on the blessing". When the groom arrives at the bride's house, the woman's house will block the door and wait until the red envelope is changed to "parents open the door" before giving it in.
Marriage is the most interesting part of the whole Shandong wedding custom. The day before the old-fashioned wedding, the groom wears new clothes and salutes from house to house with drums and music. This is called expert ceremony, which means asking relatives and neighbors for more help on the wedding day. In some places, people only salute their families, which is called performing family rituals. A man in Dongping county saluted his relatives and friends the day before he married the bride, expressing his coronation. The gifts from relatives and friends are also called crown respect. Emperor Wu is getting married in the evening, and my husband is dressing up in the temple; Lingxian county will get married, adults will be crowned, and parents, brothers and sisters will be worshipped; When Huantai wants to get married, she should wear an adult crown, sue the temple, worship her parents, uncles, brothers, aunts, clan elders and Mr. Xiang; Both Tai 'an and Dong 'e take wedding as the crown ceremony, that is, adults get married and boys are unmarried. Next, we are going to get ready to marry the bride home. The groom must dress the bride in red shoes. Of course, this is not an easy task, because the bridesmaids will hide the red shoes. If the groom can't find it himself, the bridesmaid will tell you where the red shoes are.
3. Shandong marriage customs. Send away relatives
The number of people going to see the bride off in Shandong is not particular, but the bride's younger brother must go, sit in the wedding car and call it "pressing the car", and the couple will also give big red envelopes. According to the marriage custom in Northeast China, a mother can't send off her married daughter, but the father of the bride can go, and the mother will cry when she sends her daughter away. If her daughter cries, it will make her family rich. This is called "throwing golden beans".
4. Marriage customs in Shandong. marry
According to the wedding custom in Shandong, the bride must put flowers on her mother-in-law's head and rename her parents. Of course, there is also a big red envelope when changing the name, which is generally 100 1 yuan, indicating that the bride is "one in a thousand". When the bride enters the new house, she will start eating peanuts and red dates, which means having a baby early. And all the boxes and cabinets in the new house will be piled with coins, which means wealth. Next, we will flirt with the couple in the wedding room and take photos to leave good memories, and then go to the hotel to attend the wedding as scheduled.
Hotel weddings are held in much the same way as weddings in other parts of the country. After the ceremony was presided over by the host, the couple took turns toasting and seeing off the guests. According to the custom in Northeast Heilongjiang, people who send their families away must leave before 12. In the evening, the couple must have a reunion dinner together.
Five. Shandong marriage customs. Huimen
Like other customs, the wedding custom in Shandong is that the groom will accompany the bride back to her mother's house three days later, but she must return to the man's house before sunset. If the bride's house is far from home, it will take nine days to return.
Shandong traditional marriage customs:
The traditional wedding process in Shandong: discussing marriage (age, conditions, discussion and discussion) → engagement (small news, big news) → preparing for the wedding (sending date, bridal chamber, dowry, wedding dress, wedding gift, filling box, inviting general manager, ordering big guests, urging makeup, sending dowry, attending the head, opening face, moving guests, etc.
First, discuss marriage.
When a man is fifteen or sixteen and a woman is seventeen or eighteen, there is a matchmaker to propose marriage. Generally, the man's family invites the matchmaker to the woman's house to "propose marriage". Intermarriage between men and women emphasizes "the right match and the matching of eight characters", and both sides attach great importance to each other's appearance and appearance. The woman's age is much more expensive, so as to avoid her being one year older. Women are two, gold is long; Girl, take the gold brick. After matchmaking (commonly known as "matchmaking"), both parents are interested in exchanging Geng Tie, also known as "exchanging Cambodia". The post reads the birthdays of both men and women (the year, month, day and hour of cadre discipline), and both families ask fortune tellers to "match". If so, the marriage is basically settled. Some even go on blind dates before changing to Cambodia, that is, the woman's parents look at the man first, the man's parents look at the woman again, and both parents like it before changing to Cambodia. In the old society, there were many animal taboos for men and women, such as the feudal superstition that "white horses are afraid of green cows, chickens and monkeys are not yet finished, snakes and mice are like knives and files, and once tigers and sheep are retired, dragons and pigs are hard to match, and they are most afraid of being rabbits and dogs".
Second, engagement.
After the men and women agreed to get married, they went to Cambodia for a ceremony and a grand engagement ceremony. The red book post printed with golden dragon and phoenix and double happiness used in Cambodia is called Dragon and Phoenix Cambodia. In the book post, the man wrote four auspicious words, such as "Stay at a respectful distance from others, keep your word", "A perfect match made in heaven, a perfect match for a hundred years". The bride's family wrote "obedient jade sound" and four good words on her permission to get married when she returned to Cambodia. The man accompanied Long Feng Cambodia to attend the ceremony, also known as "bride price". Wedding gifts include jewelry, clothes, festive spots and so on. There are 4-color gifts or 8-color gifts. Usually a gift list is prepared, packed in a box and sent to the woman's home by the matchmaker. A few rich officials and businessmen sent 12 to 48 sets of various wedding gifts. In return, the woman's family has boots, hats, materials and Four Treasures of the Study. After the exchange of Cambodia, their marriage was formally concluded, and neither party could break the contract.
Third, get married.
After the wedding, choose an auspicious day, commonly known as "seeing the sun", and prepare to get married. Before the wedding, the man's parents send greetings to the woman's parents and relatives. Relatives and friends who receive greetings from Cambodia should bring gifts to congratulate them. The day before the wedding, the woman's parents hired someone to deliver the dowry to the man's house. According to the wealth of the family, there are 4 elevators, 8 elevators and 16 elevators. There are 32 elevators and 64 elevators in the families of wealthy officials and businessmen. Most people send clothes, bedding and household appliances, while wealthy official and business families send brocade, gold and silver jewelry, carved screen color bottles and other valuables. On the wedding day, the man posted happy characters, couplets and colored silk at the gate, and put a pair of bricks wrapped in red paper with chopsticks on the top of the gate. Wealthy official and business families will also set up colorful sheds in the yard to entertain relatives and friends. There is a flower room in the yard, which is dedicated to the god of heaven and earth, the three-star porcelain statue of Fu Lushou, vases and candles on the table, and the table is covered with a red carpet. The woman's home is also decorated with lanterns to entertain relatives and friends. The man should invite the bride-to-be, and the woman should invite the bride-to-be. Both the bride-to-be and the bride-to-be should choose a "plump person" with parents, in-laws and children. In the morning 10, the groom wears a coat and crosses HongLing, riding a horse or sedan chair to guide the drum band and sedan chair to the woman's house to get married. The woman should close the door before the sedan chair arrives and wait for the sedan chair to arrive. Accompanied by the drum music of the band, the groom got out of the sedan chair, knocked on the door and handed in a business card (the business card was written in block letters on red paper "My nephew from the Royal Wheel"), and then opened the door to lead the groom into the house. The groom should kneel and kowtow to the woman's ancestral temple, and then kneel and kowtow to his parents-in-law, who will stand beside him and bow in return. The concierge then led the groom to the bride's door, and the groom bowed to the door.
Fourth, worship
On the second day after marriage, the bride should bow down to the ancestral temple, and then bow down to her parents-in-law, uncle, uncle and other elders, which is called "visiting the church", commonly known as "worship". In-laws and relatives of elders should give gifts to the bride, such as coins, jewelry or clothes. There is a saying that "newcomers don't knock short".
Five, send a small meal
On the morning after marriage, the woman's parents send the bride's brother or nephew to bring rice to the man's house, congratulate the man's parents first, and then send the rice to the bride's room, which is called "sending a small meal". The purpose is that after marriage, the bride's family will visit the bride.
Six, go back to the door.
On the morning of the third day after marriage, the bride went to the kitchen to worship the stove and cook to serve her in-laws. Then, the bride and groom go to their parents' home together. The groom is called a "distinguished guest" in the Yue family. The groom will kowtow to the ancestral temple of Yue family, and then salute the elders of Yue family. The Yue family will host a banquet. Going back before sunset is called "hiding to sleep". This is called "returning in three days". On the sixth day after marriage, the bride and groom went to Yuejia together, commonly known as "walking for six days". On the ninth and twelfth days, we went to Yue's home. 1 bride can stay at her parents' home for 1 night, and some families have to wait 1 month before the bride can go back to her parents' home to "live on the moon". There is a saying that "there is no room available in January". On the seventh day after marriage, the bride began to sew clothes, shoes and socks. When you live in the right month, take the cut cloth back to your mother's house and make 1 pair of pants for the groom. On the fourth and fifth day after marriage, the bride, led by her mother-in-law, went to the home of relatives and friends who came to congratulate her, thanked her and recognized her relatives. Relatives and friends give gifts to the bride, which is called "paying tribute to her relatives". It's another sunny day, taking the bride to the ancestral grave of her husband's family to pay homage to her ancestors, and putting pink tomb paper on the grave, which is called "Shangxi Tomb".
Seven, uxorilocal
In the old society, wealthy families with or without children had the custom of recruiting sons-in-law to marry their daughters' families in order to provide for the elderly and carry on the family line, which was called "uxorilocal", commonly known as "recruiting sons-in-law to provide for the elderly" and "inserting the door backwards". Most rural families practice this custom. Most of the recruits are men from poor families. If a man wants to change his surname to a woman after marriage, he must have a written certificate of his adopted wife.
Eight, child bride
In the old society, underage daughters from poor families were sent to their in-laws by their parents and often abused, commonly known as "reunion daughters-in-law". "consummation" in adulthood is marriage.
Nine, ghost marriage
Commonly known as "recruiting yin relatives." In the old society, after the death of unmarried young men and women, their parents wanted to find a dead unmarried young man of the opposite sex to marry him and hold a ceremony to tie the knot. Each family set up a spirit tablet, covered with HongLing, carried the woman's spirit tablet to the man's house in a sedan chair, burned it three days later, and buried the woman's coffin with the man's coffin in a broken grave. From now on, the two families are in-laws