Rural people are simple and kind.

But there is also a sense of inferiority in the bones.

Especially for city people.

I am always afraid that others will look down on me and dislike that I am from the countryside.

The biggest gap is the face gap.

Compared with rural people of the same age, there seems to be a gap of about 5 years old, and some will be bigger.

Of course, there are also many rural people who don't do farm work and are pampered and well maintained.

If relatives come, my parents will cook everything that can be taken out of the house. Many times, guests often eat leftovers for a week after they leave.

So this is a deep-rooted idea.

Let's go back to the question of following the ceremony.

In fact, following the ceremony is stressful.

If there are several wine bowls to eat this month.

Parents will sigh and talk to their neighbors about the gift money.

Praise is also a standard.

Relatives of the same age usually have one person to set the standard.

Generally, people who set standards are the best.

If you mix well, you will feel humiliated if you give less money.

These followers

There is no sense of existence in itself. If there is no difference in this matter, it may also be self-esteem, and you will feel that you have no face and no right to speak.

So many times, we have to bite the bullet and do it.

Hello, everyone, in the countryside, this is a ritual exchange. When you were busy, all your relatives and neighbors came to give you presents. When you are busy, you have to give gifts to others, especially the grandmothers, grandfathers, parents and brothers and sisters of Bayern Brothers and Yan Brothers. The ceremony is particularly heavy, especially in rural areas. After your own career is completed, you should give gifts to others no matter how busy you are, even if you have no money.

This question is actually very simple. This is determined by the national character of China people, whether in rural areas or cities. There is a saying in our countryside called "being the eldest son", which means that people can't live short. Although I am not as rich as you, I can't let you look down on me. This may also be caused by social contradictions in the development of China for thousands of years. If you are too poor, most people will look down on you. It is estimated that this concept will change for some time. However, with the progress of the times, it is possible to change this practice, or it may become a reality that you no longer compare with others according to your own economic ability. As long as you feel reasonable, you don't care what others think. Isn't there a very realistic joke: if you don't have money, you will wear a suit with 1000 yuan, and others will think that at most 100 yuan, and others will not believe it if you have money? So as long as we live well and feel right, why care about other people's eyes?

Seeing this question really asked many people's hearts. This is the case in the countryside now, no matter what it is, whether it is a red and white ceremony or a rice and flour delivery next month, and so on!

Relatives and friends range from 200- 1000 yuan, and better neighbors range from 200- 1000 yuan! Generally speaking, the relationship is 200 yuan, and at least one that doesn't matter is 100 yuan, so there are not many things in general, especially around holidays and years ago, and during the summer vacation, they were also nominated by the gold list. In order to celebrate, banquets will be held, especially in the countryside! There are really many things at ordinary times. Don't look short of money. The less money, the more things. Neighbors, relatives and friends really get married every year!

I can't help it We rural people are poor and generous! As long as the whole village is mobilized, our life will be hard, and if our neighbors have something to do, we will join in. Everything will be fine in the countryside, but as long as you know that life is hard, you have to join in. That's how rural people like things and are enthusiastic.

Hello, I'm Xiao Duoduo from the countryside, and I'm glad to answer your question. First of all, I am from the countryside. I want to say that some people in rural areas have a hard life, but they give gifts generously. What I want to say is that some things can't be controlled by spending more and less. Why do you say that?

In our rural areas, this is completely mutually beneficial. In the past few years, the money given as gifts will go up with the price. For example, three years ago, your family had a happy event, and others took money with them. Three years later, others had a happy event. You usually have to go to the ceremony to go up.

Of course, some people don't go up. What about those who don't? For those who have few family members, they may follow as many gifts as they want, and they may or may not be promoted. For those with many family members and many brothers and sisters, they may go to relatives' homes and sit together to discuss this issue. In the end, most people feel that they can spend whatever they want, and those who want to spend less will definitely follow. According to the discussion, flowers are also a good face Is this more common in rural areas? So about what you said, it is difficult to live alone in the countryside, but the gift money should be generous. No way, form!

That's my answer. I hope you like my answer.

With the development of society, it is getting better and better. There are more and more items accompanying ceremonies in rural areas, such as weddings, funerals, full moon wine, haircuts, school banquets, birthday banquets, recognizing relatives, buying houses and cars, etc. This annoys many rural families, but they have to act according to the etiquette, because now people think this is a good relationship.

Then again, why are gifts so generous now? Personal understanding has the following points:

One. Everyone else takes a lot. If you don't follow the trend, you will stand out. You are stingy and have no face. This is also called driving ducks to the shelves and being forced to do so.

Two. I'm also afraid that if I don't send so many gifts, no one will come when I'm in trouble. Lost the scene, lost the copy.

Three. "Human feelings are greater than debts, and the pot is sold overhead." The countryside is a society of personal feelings, and the communication between neighbors is also indispensable, and it is also a respect for each other.

The above views only represent personal views, please correct the shortcomings.

I can't help it Life is hard. In rural areas, the circle is very small.

Let me talk about rural life. Just like city people look at cars, watches and bags, rural people look at houses, houses and presents.

A mill abandoned in the country

I don't know how the phenomenon of southern rural friends following gifts is, is it serious or not? I'm from the northeast, and ritual is too common. It is normal to get married, have children and receive gifts. Many even have trumped-up reasons, such as working on a pigsty beam and inviting people to dinner.

Let me talk about some of my comparisons here:

First, the contrast ceremony.

The economic conditions in rural areas have improved in the past two years. The villagers planted mushrooms day and night and made some money. With more and more gifts, you charge me 100 yuan, and I go back to 200 yuan. Anyway, it is getting bigger and bigger, and more and more. Although families complain, they still have to slap their faces and be fat, especially poor households. There are really many people who can't afford to buy rice and flour oil and even borrow money to catch the gifts.

Poor family

Second, compare building a house.

As I said before, when rural people look at houses, whoever builds a big house will walk with his back straight and his head held high in the village. There is also a folk agreement in rural areas that buildings should not be smaller than before, so when rebuilding houses, they have to build a big one with luxurious decoration and spend a lot of money to save face and not be worse than others. To tell the truth, I don't like it very much, but I can understand that sometimes rural people spend their whole lives just to have a good house. When you pass by a big house, you should also comment on whose house this is. There are also some rich people in the city, and the big villas built are second to none in the countryside.

New and old houses in rural areas

Third, compare the bride price.

Girls in this country are married, and now a rising tide lifts all boats. I wonder if there is much south. I'm going to build a new house here, and excluding the three gold, it's 6.5438+ten thousand yuan. Anyway, it's hard for a country guy like this to marry a wife and have no money at home. There are still so many rural bachelors left.

Fourth, compare cars.

The dream of owning a car for every family is coming true. My neighbors in the countryside are basically family. Anyway, every family has a variety of brands. The important thing is to have them.

The car is real and convenient.

In short, the circle of rural people is not large, with parents in the east and short families in the west. The next day, the whole village knew what their children had achieved in the city.

In recent years, the progress in rural areas is obvious to all. The house is brand-new, East Street and West Street are getting cleaner and cleaner, there are fitness squares in the village, and there are more and more cultural activities, such as square dance and basketball games. People's minds are more and more liberated, and bad habits are also decreasing. In rural areas, traditions should be observed, what old people say should be respected, and development and progress are accelerating!

What is the gift? This is a kind of interpersonal relationship.

Many people in the countryside are relatives. Shouldn't everyone get together and entertain with gifts when they get married and have children? Last time someone gave you 200 yuan, you didn't pay back at least 200 yuan, did you? Generally speaking, it is just a lot more.

Custom question

Gifts are everywhere, but the amount given varies from place to place. Some places give more, while others give less. As far as I know, 600 rural areas in Hangzhou started, and the number of places is not capped (600 is a minority). My hometown is generally 200, and the relationship is 600, all of which are local customs. It's not the same as the local area, will it be supercilious?

Honor point

I won't say much about this.

In addition, there are a few rich people in rural areas, most of whom live in poverty. However, they are more generous when it comes to accompanying gifts. There is another kind: if you only accompany gifts once for a long time, the more the better, and take them back when you get home. Gifts don't usually get married and have children. Speaking of weddings, funerals and weddings, who still receives gifts every day?

Don't be nervous about the ceremony. You can have as many gifts as you want. You live alone anyway.

In rural areas, some people also bear the burden of humiliation, some people are helpless, and some people are more polite and more money, and less will lose face!

In fact, it is better to look down on people!

Well, it's all a matter of face.

I'm glad to answer your question. In fact, this is also a way of communication. There is no need to criticize too much. From a certain point of view, it is true that people who grow up in this environment have to violate this rule, and sometimes they are really helpless.

In fact, this problem raised by the subject is very common in rural areas. I don't have much money myself, but I take it generously. There's nothing I can do. Most of my contacts are with the party that received the money, and I used to give more land. Therefore, when returning gifts, you can't be less than others. If you get fewer people, it is impolite and you can only get more than others.

Why pay more? This is to save face. Moreover, most of the previous exchanges took a long time. With the development of society, prices have risen sharply. For example, when people give you shares, they give you ten dollars. Many years later, when they have something to do, when you return the gift, ten dollars won't do. You have to follow the current price and market.

Then there is the interest relationship. Many gifts are for the benefit, and there is no relationship between relatives and friends. It depends on the size of the interests, not whether there is money. Sometimes you have to borrow money.

As time goes by, the old relatives of the girl's aunt and uncle are out of date, but they will never be less, and relatives and friends will come again. If we live in society, we will make some new friends. When we love each other deeply, we will have communication, and communication will be accompanied by gifts. Therefore, many people oppose this custom, but opposition means opposition, and no one can do without anyone. Who can not visit that girl's aunt and uncle? You went to see the girl's aunt and uncle, and so did your cousins. They must also come to see your parents. This is communication, this is etiquette and courtesy.

Sometimes this custom is a kind of pressure. In rural areas, for example, everyone has something to do. If something happens, they all hope to have more visitors at home to make others look good. If there are comments, there will always be a few comments. So-and-so is busy, and it is also a matter of face to see how beautiful he is. The parties will feel very honored to hear these comments.

In fact, only the client knows the taste inside.