It is rare to have free time. I picked up my mobile phone and brushed my circle of friends. Just pulled it twice, and I saw the indignant complaints. Dissatisfaction and unwillingness between the lines seem to break out. Feel it:

Why can others go to work and I can only take care of the children at home? The children are watched by three or four adults. Why should I be busy every day? Why can you ask me regardless of the child?

Cooking hard, you don't eat a bite, I'm too tired to eat any more. Who cares about me? Get married. Why? What are the reasons for having children? It's tiring to be alive!

I don't need to introduce myself. From this passage, we can see the anger of a stay-at-home mother. Her efforts were not understood and supported by her family, and the long-standing backlog of emotions finally broke out, fierce and powerful.

From the hardships and tiredness of taking care of children to the tedious housework, it is really easy for full-time mothers to break down after work for 24 hours.

Every married woman has to face the reality of getting married and having children, supporting her family and raising children, but the severe criticism and indifference of her family make them deeply doubt that their efforts have not been respected.

As wives and mothers, they all want to do their part, but first of all, they are women, and it is most important to be what they want to be.

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Ruby Lin has always been my favorite actress. She finally married Wallace Huo, gave birth to her daughter, a little dolphin, and became an enviable winner in life.

Recently, Ruby Lin took a selfie on his personal social networking site with the caption: Thank you for loving yourself so selflessly.

Ruby Lin in a white shirt in the photo looks very energetic. Where can I tell that this is a woman in her forties?

Reading between her lines, we can read that although she got married and had children, she didn't forget to love herself or be the best herself.

Some people may say that Ruby Lin is a star after all. She is not short of money or love, and her children are taken care of. How can we ordinary women have such a good life? Isn't it too tiring to live with children all day?

Everyone lives by himself. The key is to see what you think. If you like, you can live as comfortably as Ruby Lin, even if we don't have as much money as her.

Sun Dan is the wife of one of my husband's cousins. Her husband works in southern Jiangsu. She took her five-year-old son to rent a house in the county and go to kindergarten. She is happy all day. Everyone likes to chat with her.

She said it is not easy for my husband to earn money to support his family alone. When I am depressed with my children, I will buy a few pots of meat and take pictures from various angles. It is quite fun.

When her son was in kindergarten, she learned recipes and cooked her favorite hometown dishes. She said that her favorite thing was to stay in the kitchen and toss all kinds of delicious food. That was the happiest time.

No matter how complicated the housework is and how difficult the children are, women should not forget themselves and find something they like to do to make their mood more cheerful. This is the responsibility for themselves.

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I am the mother of an eight-year-old boy. When my son was young a few years ago, I was so busy that I didn't even have time to catch my breath, because I had to take care of my children and go to work.

My husband has been on a long business trip because of his work. I watched my baby pestering me every day and thought about many things at work. I really can't even cry.

The mood is getting worse and worse. When I couldn't control my temper, I was angry with my son. My son is crying, and crying makes me upset. I just want to close my eyes, cover my ears and pretend I don't exist.

Seeing my timid son glaring at himself in the mirror, I suddenly realized that I couldn't do this anymore. Before I can take care of my children and do my job well, I must do myself well.

So, when I didn't go to work on weekends, I entrusted my son to my grandmother. I turned out the books I always wanted to read but didn't have time to read, then made myself a cup of scented tea and slowly entered the reading state.

I couldn't read two pages at first, and then I wondered what my son was doing at the moment. I will consider where to start the work tomorrow.

My mind is full of chores. I forced myself to read word by word, and finally immersed myself in the book to find the hearty reading feeling before marriage.

From parenting books to psychology books, I read one book after another, which not only made me feel more and more at ease with my son, but also helped me find my favorite state, that is, to believe in myself and be myself.

When I can find myself from the bottom of my heart and try to be a better self, I am more confident to be a wife and mother.

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Psychologist Wu Zhihong said that everyone is the most powerful only when he lives for himself.

We all have many social identities, but we should always remember that I am myself. Although I shoulder a lot of responsibilities and responsibilities, I am always myself. I must be myself first.

Learn to listen to your inner voice and understand your needs.

Many women live in a muddle, busy with work, housework and children, but they are too busy to be understood by their families. The more they complain and accuse, the more they want to escape.

We might as well slow down our busy pace. In the dead of night, we should ask ourselves, what kind of life do we want to live and what do we want to do most?

When you can find what you have always wanted to do subconsciously, but have never done it, I believe you will understand that you are also a person with needs, and you don't have to always think about others and forget yourself.

Do what you want to do at once and face yourself bravely.

If you want to know what you want to do, you should do it at once. Don't prevaricate yourself by not having time or worrying about children. You have wronged yourself enough.

If you want to travel, you should start packing. If you want to learn how to arrange flowers, sign up for a class. If you want to go shopping alone, you should give the children to your father. A person wandering aimlessly is also a kind of relaxation.

When you really do what you have always wanted to do, you truly belong to yourself, you can understand your own needs, and you should satisfy yourself in time.

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Some people say that no matter how good others are, they are also others; No matter how miserable you are, you are yourself, your unique self. As long as you try to be yourself, life is enough.

Although we are wives and mothers, we are ourselves. When others don't think of you, please think of yourself. This is a sign of being responsible for yourself.

No matter how hard life is, no matter how bumpy the road ahead is, women in marriage must remember that you are the person they should pay most attention to, and only by being yourself can they live comfortably.