Pay attention to white things with gifts and money:
1. Timing of giving money:
Usually, the funeral scene is more grand. It is not easy to find an office in the bustling crowd first.
Relatives and friends come to pay their respects, and most of them are arranged by the housekeeper. First, I simply said hello, and then the township head led relatives and friends to the accounting office with money. In other words, the first thing for relatives and friends to go to the funeral home is to pay the money first, and then pay tribute to the deceased under the arrangement of the steward.
Second, the amount is single:
Double happiness is different from the yes-man at the wedding. The amount of funeral expenses should be single, depending on the relationship between relatives and friends and the deceased or the distance from the children of the deceased. The reason why the money at the funeral is single is because people only die once, so most of the money at the funeral is single.
Third, money is irreplaceable:
There is a saying at the funeral that "the deceased is the biggest", and relatives and friends pay for the deceased, expressing not only a kind of mind, but also a kind of memory for the deceased. If someone else takes the money, it means that this person's mind is not in place and his heart is not sincere, which means disrespect for the deceased. Therefore, others can't put money on the funeral. It is better not to let others do it, which is good for people and themselves.
Four, after the money can't make up:
On the first day and the second day of the funeral, you should set up an account desk and ask someone to help you keep accounts. Most books are in black and white. A mourner cannot fall behind. A funeral usually takes three days. If he doesn't show up for three days because he doesn't know, he won't follow.
According to custom, there is no compensation for funeral expenses. Paying for someone's funeral with money will make undertaker think you are cursing him.
Five, money should slip away with the big:
No matter how rich you are, don't be too active at the funeral, let alone be an idiot. Communicate well with your brothers, sisters and cousins before joining the group, and pay attention to as many people as you want, so it looks like a group of people. This not only does not show how rich you are, but exposes how hypocritical and ignorant you are. Of course, there is no comparable money at the funeral. You can love as much as you want.
Does the funeral have to be accompanied by gifts?
Funeral also has the custom of following rites. Unlike red envelopes, funerals are accompanied by a white bag. Bai Bao is generally anonymous and gives a speech. Just give the red envelope to the relevant ceremony staff.
It is customary to give odd-numbered gifts instead of even-numbered red envelopes. Singular means that bad things only happen once. If it is an even number, it means that it never rains but it pours, and it will offend the host family.
At the funeral, the host family received a red envelope. In many places, the custom is to return the gift, that is, to give a small red envelope to the giver. This kind of red envelope is usually about one yuan, which symbolizes the good luck of the giver. This kind of red envelope is accepted by the giver and cannot be refused.
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The time to send white bags at funerals is also particular. After the death of a loved one, the host family usually sends someone to send a funeral report to relatives and friends, and usually sends a white red envelope when sending a funeral report.
For the death of some relatives and friends, some people even send flowers or couplets to the deceased because of special relationships. Generally, they also give the money to the messenger when he reports the funeral. Pay attention to explain the amount of money instead of goods and red envelopes clearly to avoid making a fool of the messenger.
Does the funeral have to be singular?
How much money is appropriate depends on the intimacy between relatives and the deceased. Immediate family members are often the highlight of followers, especially the daughter of the deceased. In their hometown, they are basically followers of 3000 or 5000. If the deceased has three or five daughters, the money for the daughters alone is enough for the whole funeral.
Non-lineal relatives are also particular about their followers, and their peers usually communicate with each other, especially in larger families. The amount of money usually depends on the number of bosses, such as 300 yuan and 500 yuan. As much as the big uncle follows, so as to avoid embarrassment caused by different gifts.
The amount of money is usually singular, which is just the opposite of the yes-man in life. It is said that in the underworld, singular numbers are called auspicious numbers. Therefore, after the death of the old man, not only the number of shroud worn is odd, but also the amount of money paid by relatives is odd.
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Matters needing attention in funeral gifts and funeral packages:
1, the amount of gifts for white things should be odd, and even gift packages cannot be sealed. Singular means that bad things only happen once. If it is an even number, it means that it never rains but it pours, and it will offend the host family. Many people are used to sealing a gift package with big integers, which may inadvertently upset them. General funeral packages have a mantissa, and the mantissa is often 1, such as 50 1, 5 1 1 and so on.
Some young people don't have the habit of writing packages now. Generally, you buy ready-made commercial packaging and give it directly as a gift. Therefore, it is easy for some young people to misuse parcels, especially those who don't understand the world and manners. Once they catch one, it's easy to offend people. White bags can't be used for happy events, only for good luck or white things.
3. White gift packages are generally delivered anonymously. Give it to the relevant ceremony staff. It can also be named for the busy situation in Li Si. The specific method is: the ready-made special package for white affairs does not need to be delivered, and only the name of "XXX Jing" is written in the lower left corner of the front of the package.
4. When a funeral is held, the host family receives a gift package. It is the custom in many places to return the gift, that is, to send a small gift package to the giver. This gift package is generally about one yuan, symbolizing the good fortune of the giver. The giver must accept this gift package and cannot refuse it.
5. The time of the funeral package is also very particular. After the death of a loved one, the host family usually sends someone to send a funeral to relatives and friends. The white gift package is usually sent out by the messenger at the funeral for the messenger to collect. This messenger is often a part-time clerk. After receiving the gift package, he will register it in his personal notebook and then return the gift.
6. For the death of some relatives and friends, some people may send wreaths or couplets to the deceased because of special relationships. Generally, it is also given to the host's family, and when the messenger reports the funeral, it is given to the messenger. Pay attention. It is necessary to account for the number of gifts and gift packages to avoid the messenger from making a fool of himself. Tokens don't need to go into the gift package.
Pay attention to white things and rituals.
Pay attention to white things and rituals.
The customs of every place are different, so when you get to a place, you need to do as the Romans do. In some places, white things have some taboos and taboos. So what is white matter and heavy ceremony? The following is what I brought to you, I hope it will help you!
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1. Timing of giving money:
When is the right time to pay for the funeral? Usually, the funeral scene is more grand. It is not easy to find an office in the bustling crowd first. Relatives and friends come to pay their respects, and most of them are arranged by the housekeeper. First, I simply said hello, and then the township head led relatives and friends to the accounting office with money. In other words, the first thing for relatives and friends to go to the funeral home is to pay the money first, and then pay tribute to the deceased under the arrangement of the steward.
Second, the amount is single:
Double happiness is different from the yes-man at the wedding. The amount of funeral expenses should be a single sum. When the funeral expenses actually come, the amount is mostly 100 yuan, ranging from 300 yuan to 500 yuan. It depends on the relationship between relatives and friends and the deceased or the relationship with the children of the deceased. The reason why the money at the funeral is single is because people only die once, so most of the money at the funeral is single.
Third, money is irreplaceable:
There is a saying at the funeral that "the deceased is the biggest", and relatives and friends pay for the deceased, expressing not only a kind of mind, but also a kind of memory for the deceased. If someone else takes the money, it means that this person's mind is not in place and his heart is not sincere, which means disrespect for the deceased. Therefore, others can't put money on the funeral. It is better not to let others do it, which is good for people and themselves.
Four, after the money can't make up:
On the first day and the second day of the funeral, you should set up an account desk and ask someone to help you keep accounts. Most books are in black and white. A mourner cannot fall behind. A funeral usually takes three days. If he doesn't show up for three days because he doesn't know, he won't follow. According to custom, there is no compensation for funeral expenses. Paying for someone's funeral with money will make undertaker think you are cursing him. Why is this happening? Because people's funeral is over, you still pay. Isn't it obvious to curse people that bad things will happen?
Five, money should slip away with the big:
No matter how rich you are, don't be too active at the funeral, let alone be an idiot. Communicate well with your brothers, sisters and cousins before joining the group, and pay attention to as many people as you want, so it looks like a group of people. Don't let others follow 300 yuan, you follow 1000 yuan, remember not to be an idiot. This not only does not show how rich you are, but exposes how hypocritical and ignorant you are. Of course, there is no comparable money at the funeral. You can love as much as you want.
Pay attention to white things and rituals 2
First, white things and taboos of members.
The head is facing outward, which means that the characters of RMB are facing outward and have been circulating all the time. Rules, but few people go out with cash now, but we'd better take cash with us when we attend the funeral, and then let the cash head face outward, which can show our respect and be conducive to funeral feng shui.
Second, most of them are singular
When holding a ceremony, the total amount of money should be odd, such as 300, 500, 700, etc. Besides, funerals should not be in pairs, so generally don't give even gifts, otherwise it will appear that you are cursing the other half of the deceased.
Third, avoid bringing funeral items back.
Some people may be more generous in bereavement. If you follow the ceremony, they will bring you something to eat home, but this is strictly forbidden in Feng Shui.
Fourth, what should I pay attention to when I come back?
Don't go straight into the house, don't go home immediately after attending the white event, or you will bring your bad luck home. So how can we get rid of it? You can go to the nearby temples and Taoist temples, or you can go to a large shopping mall with many people. In short, go around the crowded business district, dilute the bad luck with sun be the spirit, then go home to get rid of the bad luck caused by pollution at the funeral, and then go home.
Five, take clothes and shake your shoulders before entering the door.
Go home and enter the door, pat your clothes or shake your shoulders, shake off the soil on your body or feet, take off your coat and shoes before entering the door, then take a shower, wash your clothes, pants and shoes, or sprinkle salt at the door.
What's the name of the funeral money? What's the point?
In social life, especially in weddings and funerals, everyone is bound to socialize, even if people don't accept gifts, so money is really a big burden for some people who are not rich in economy. Of course, many young people now give gifts at happy events, and most of them don't know that white things also need gifts.
It is often said that one of relatives and friends has passed away, which is a very sad thing. There are not many opportunities for young people to attend funerals now. After all, for many young people, death is a distant thing, and most young people who go to funerals go with their elders, so they don't know much about some funeral customs. For example, the gift money is usually one for each family. So what is the gift money at the funeral?
Because of the different customs in different parts of the country, the names of funeral money are also different. For example, the most official name is silk gold, which is also used as a paper gift in some places, or directly called a gift with money. However, the most common folk saying is white bag, which corresponds to red envelope. Because the red thing is called a red envelope and the white thing is called a white bag. There are also some places called folding gifts and rituals. In short, although the names are different, the meanings they represent are the same. So, what is the emphasis on money in this ceremony?
Generally speaking, the money buried with him is odd, because the even numbers of "double" and "injury" are homophonic words with sad meaning, so they are generally odd, such as 100, 300, 500, etc. And adding one to the mantissa means "reluctant to part", and in some places, families will give one-yuan coins or candy to relatives and friends at funerals. So the mantissa of the gift will be increased by one. It should be noted that the gift money needs to be wrapped in white stationery or plain paper, and red or bright colors cannot be used to express condolences.
If you follow the crowd, what would you say?
When you meet people in white, you should express regret and comfort when you speak, and pay attention to taboos when you speak, otherwise it will cause the host's boredom. Details are as follows:
1, life is always about dealing with death. As long as we live well, his spirit in heaven will get better, and grief can't solve the problem. This is a gift. I'm sorry for your loss.
2, birth and death, natural law, people have passed away, don't be too sad, take care of yourself, please accept this intention.
People can't be resurrected after death. The strength of the living is the best comfort for the dead. I'm sorry for your loss. This is my little gift to the old man. Please keep it.
I feel sorry for your loss. I wish him a pleasant journey and rest in the grave. This is a token of my concern. Please keep it.
5, birth and death, everything is a natural phenomenon; No one has died in life since ancient times. Please keep my heart as long as you live in it.
I was shocked to learn the bad news. The dead rest in peace. Please be sorry for your loss. This is a token of my appreciation. Please keep it.