"Female blind date, bring a girlfriend, see the menu and order 10,000 yuan."

A male reader sent me a private letter asking for help. He said a very unpleasant thing happened on the first blind date. Later, when I remembered it, I realized: Did those two girls eat, drink and cheat?

Here's the thing.

Xiao Liu, a male reader, works in Nanjing and his hometown is in other cities in the province. When Xiao Liu just graduated from college to work, his parents paid Xiao Liu a down payment on the house.

As the only child in the family, the burden on Xiao Liu's shoulders is not heavy, but in the face of his parents' urging for marriage, he has to find a suitable marriage partner as soon as possible.

However, in the past few years after graduating from college, the circle of friends around me has been fixed. Seeing that all college students are married, and even some children are 2 years old, Xiao Liu feels more and more panic.

Xiao Liu, 26, is in good condition among his peers. His career has grown steadily, exceeding 65,438 438+ 10/00000 per month. The house is slowly paying off the mortgage, which is more than 4K a month. At that time, it was not expensive to buy an early house. Driving a car of more than 200 thousand, bought it in full.

Xiao Liu's parents have stable formal work units, so he doesn't need to worry too much about providing for the elderly, as long as he often goes home to see after marriage.

In the eyes of others, Xiao Liu is the kind of young man who has no pressure and can live a smooth life as long as he finds a suitable marriage partner.

What Xiao Liu didn't expect was that what happened on the first blind date made him feel afraid of the blind date.

A former colleague introduced a blind date to Xiao Liu. In the description of former colleagues, Xiao Liu really moved his heart: he was 8 points long, 8 points in figure and had a royal temperament.

This is in line with Xiao Liu's appearance standard for future partners.

So after adding the contact information, Xiao Liu booked a good local restaurant early and agreed to eat on Friday night.

Xiao Liu arrived at the restaurant half an hour early and waited. The blind date girl is late. I didn't expect to bring a girl. She said that she was her female best friend, so she was afraid to find a best friend to accompany her.

Xiao Liu thought: it doesn't matter, it's excusable.

But when ordering food, Xiao Liu opened his eyes and gradually panicked.

I saw that woman and her female best friend saw the menu and only picked the most expensive point. Each crab costs several hundred dollars, and the game is more expensive. Unexpectedly, the last two people also opened a bottle of red wine, and the price of this bottle of red wine was more than 4 K.

Although Xiao Liu is calm on the surface, he is already thinking in his heart: you killed me the first time we met, and this blind date can't continue.

So in the middle of the meal, little Liu Qu went to the bathroom and sneaked away.

I went to the front desk and asked about the consumption. It's nearly 9K, and this meal cost him nearly 1 month's salary.

After leaving, Xiao Liu sent a message to the blind date:

"I didn't drink a mouthful of red wine and ate two dishes. Now I can only give you 3K yuan, and the rest will be paid by you two. This kind of blind date is not appropriate. I don't deserve you. Please learn what respect is and come out on a blind date! "

After receiving Yuan, the blind date girl ridiculed Xiao Liu: What are you going to kiss if you have no money? You don't even want to invite dinner. You should be single.

The first blind date in my life left a deep shadow on Xiao Liu.

-02

Blind date is risky and needs to be cautious.

I think AA system is the best situation for the first blind date. Because when two people meet for the first time, they don't know each other, and they are not sure what the next emotional trend will be. Don't owe each other feelings.

AA blind date, there are many possibilities for your next development; If you can't be lovers and friends, at least you don't have to be told that you owe a meal.

Therefore, what I don't like most is that some girls say: Isn't it natural for men to invite you to dinner?

Excuse me, why?

Inviting you to dinner is a gentleman's performance, which shows that he has a good impression on you; However, like the experience of male reader Xiao Liu, it is too much to order tens of thousands of meals on the first blind date and bring a female girlfriend without prior notice.

A meal is close to 1000 yuan, and such a blind date ceremony is really not affordable for everyone; Maybe this 1000 yuan is a meal in the eyes of women, but it is two months' salary in the eyes of some boys.

No matter from which angle, Xiao Liu's blind date is a failure. This blind date girl is even more unreliable. It's a good thing she's not together, otherwise she might end up being cheated more.

But I also admire Xiao Liu's personality and take the initiative to bear yuan, which is also a man's responsibility.

I think that in the process of getting along with men and women, the first basic qualities to be achieved are: respect, frankness and empathy.