You like watching plays, so you drag him to accompany you, let alone let the boys watch them. After watching it for 30 minutes, he will feel bored.

Like playing games, he drags you to the Internet cafe. You don't know anything about games, so you can only play Lianliankan in the end. You don't understand how excited a group of old men are to play LOL and eat chicken. "

Mom, it is very realistic to say that falling in love does not have the same hobbies. Not only you, but also more than half of men and women.

What you like to do, the other person may not like it. He may be patient and accompany you once or twice, but after three things, he will always complain and even have a big fight because he can't accept them.

Why is this happening?

Because many times, when we are under the banner of "cultivating the same hobby", in fact, our hearts are often selfish. The same hobby, which is euphemistically called * * *, is actually "I want the other person to accompany me to do what I like."

One day, he couldn't accept such a hobby, so he chose to quit. You may also understand that it may be really difficult for him to force him to do these things.

So you found a compromise-you do what you like and he does what you like, and the two don't interfere with each other. And the result? When you watched the play, you forgot yourself. He plays games until dark, making you seem to forget "falling in love".

The lives of two people gradually lost their intersection. In the past, they tried to find a topic to talk about. Now even if they are trying to find a topic, they naturally have nothing to say.

Aren't two like-minded people doomed to break up because they have nothing to say?

I didn't hesitate to say that my wife and I are "completely different hobbies, and even when we first got together, we had nothing to talk about."

I study liberal arts and he studies engineering;

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I like to watch literary films in the 1990s. He likes suspense movies,

He never likes dessert, and he can't accept coriander, but I eat cupcakes every day and put coriander in my noodles.

I like to stay at home for two people during holidays. She likes shopping and socializing in short holidays and traveling and shopping in long holidays. It is no exaggeration to say that she is two people with completely different interests.

We also try to let our partners learn their hobbies, but their values, interests and preferences are different, and finally they return in vain like ordinary couples.

Finally, we gradually reached a tacit understanding-since we don't have the same hobbies, let's talk about "falling in love". As a * * * who has a hobby to cultivate.

To tell the truth, there are many seemingly boring things in love. In fact, it is very interesting for two people to do it together.

For example, under normal circumstances, she sweeps the floor; I helped her while she was cooking, and neither of them looked at the menu. They just put ingredients and spices by feeling. Tasting every dish is like opening a gift. When it tastes good, they take credit for each other. When the taste is bad, they will jokingly mix two words.

When I was playing games, she sat next to me and watched the play. Occasionally, between games, I will feed her some fruit. Occasionally, during the advertising time, she will glance at my screen and say contemptuously, "What a dish!" "

Wait, there are really too many interesting elements to explore in love.

When we cultivate "falling in love" into a lifelong love, we will gradually find that "falling in love is too interesting", thus producing "the same hobby" that we never thought of.

In the second year of communication, I found that "both sides like small animals", so I raised a puppet;

In the third year of dating, we found that "she is very talented in fp games", so we played Watch Pioneer from scratch; In the fourth year of our relationship, we found that "some Korean dramas and American dramas are actually quite interesting", so I accompanied her to watch dozens of dramas such as Please Answer 1988 and Signal.

Why can two people cultivate * * * with their hobbies without deliberately cultivating them?

To tell the truth, when you force your partner to accept something unacceptable in the name of love, his initial mentality is contradictory. He has no interest at all and can only treat you like a task.

And when you can regard love as a hobby, there are many things that seem boring. As long as two people do it together, it will be full of unexpected fun. In this process, two people get to know each other and satisfy each other before they are willing to enter each other's world. "Take love as a hobby first, then cultivate the same hobby" is effective in any intimate relationship.

Why are you so tired and speechless when you are in love?

In essence, you are all wholeheartedly in your own world, and no one wants to step out. Always thinking about pulling the other person in, always expecting the satisfaction of your partner, but in fact this is a very selfish embodiment.

Similarly, falling in love is like completing a mechanical task for you. He invited you to dinner and you bought him a present. They are all coping and perfunctory, so the little beauty and luck that should be in love have long been ignored by you. Is this relationship unhappy?

No, it's the little things that could have been happy. You're not doing well. You always want to "eat a fat man in one bite" You don't want to cultivate each other into your own spiritual partner through running-in and tolerance. To tell the truth, this will be unrealistic.

Couples made in heaven are few and far between. Couples who really envy others are often tacit understandings cultivated by small things in love. In this process, you may become interested in your partner's hobbies without realizing where you started, and your partner doesn't realize that your world is actually quite interesting.

Forcibly cultivating * * * with hobbies is actually nonsense. Originally, when two people grew up in different environments, it was often necessary to knead them into a whole, which often backfired.

You can come together, which means at least one thing can be achieved:

"For you, love is at least comfortable and can make you happy, so why not cultivate love into a hobby? Why not? "

Many times, we have nothing to say, not because we don't love, but because we don't know how to love from the beginning. In the endless persecution and internal friction, the two gradually became strangers.

Remember one sentence: taking love as a hobby is the beginning of romance for two people.