First, the principle of harmonious coexistence between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 1, respecting mother-in-law's thoughts. There is friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. No matter right or wrong, the daughter-in-law must be patient first, and never be tit for tat. Just listen to her mother-in-law, and then the two sides will discuss the causes and solutions of the contradiction calmly. 2. The husband actively coordinates the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is originally a new family interpersonal relationship formed by the extension of parent-child relationship and husband-wife relationship, and the son plays an intermediary role in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, the husband took the initiative to help her mother-in-law communicate psychologically. 3. Active emotional communication The elderly are relatively fragile and afraid of loneliness and nagging. As a daughter-in-law, you can chat with your mother-in-law, do more housework and comfort the elderly. Pay attention to emotional communication with mother-in-law and eliminate psychological barriers. The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that a man is sandwiched between his mother and his wife, and he must have enough wisdom to resolve disputes. Second, improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But let your mother-in-law know that you love her like your husband. Say nice things about your husband in front of your mother-in-law. Every mother doesn't like others to speak ill of her son. 2, to resolve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, don't complain about her husband if her mother-in-law has problems, it will only increase her husband's distress and make the relationship more complicated. Try to communicate with your mother-in-law and tell more happy things, and your husband will trust your ability to do things more and cherish you more. Don't compete with your mother-in-law. Be generous with your mother-in-law. Because your mother worked hard to raise her son, and you got it, you will definitely feel robbed in your heart. Fully embodying her importance will make her mother-in-law feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfy her love for her son. 4. Stand in front of your mother-in-law and always stand on her side. If there is a contradiction between husband and mother-in-law, we must criticize the husband and comfort her. Many mothers-in-law will think that the son's change is due to his daughter-in-law, so be sure to let her know that you are on the same side. Three, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with four taboos 1. It is not necessarily a good thing for parents to meet. When you get familiar with each other, you will gradually misunderstand each other because of different living habits. If it is more serious, no one will like anyone, and the last thing to do is to be yourself. 2, especially partial parents can not love to buy things for their in-laws, but do not require their husbands and biological parents to be equal. For a long time, the concept that a girl should give priority to her husband's family when getting married has been formed. It is suggested that both parties buy gifts on holidays to form a habit. 3, enthusiastic about housework, do not take the initiative to cook, wash clothes, wash clothes, etc. for your husband. Before getting married, girls should be reserved, or they will make their mother-in-law feel that you care about their sons or that you care about them! Do something appropriate, but don't be too involved! 4. Talk too much about your mother's family. Don't tell your mother-in-law about your mother's family. When you are bored, talk about TV dramas and current events. The less you know about your family, the better Especially parents who help buy a house and a car! In the future, my mother-in-law will pay attention to whether she is sponsored by her parents! How can a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in harmony? First of all, mutual respect and understanding between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires both parties and the whole family to discuss things together, such as economic expenses and how to raise the third generation, so as to cultivate a democratic family style; Personal affairs should not interfere with each other, and individuals should enjoy "autonomy". As a daughter-in-law, you should respect your mother-in-law, because her mother-in-law is old and has rich experience in housekeeping or teaching children. A mother-in-law should not always put on airs in front of her daughter-in-law, but should see the advantages of her daughter-in-law and listen to her opinions, especially the problem of raising children. In other words, the two sides should cooperate and respect each other. After living together for many years, it is inevitable that some uncoordinated things will happen. At this time, it is even more necessary for both sides to understand each other. The principles of "put yourself in the other's shoes" and "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" advocated by our ancestors in dealing with interpersonal relationships all contain the idea of understanding, which is the "golden rule" in dealing with interpersonal relationships and is completely applicable to dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Secondly, when there are differences, avoid contradictions and comity is the first. Once there is friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, no matter whether it is right or wrong, the daughter-in-law must endure first and never be tit for tat. Listen to her mother-in-law first, and then discuss the causes and solutions of the contradiction when both sides are calm afterwards. In this way, my mother-in-law has great face and will try to make up for her mistakes in the future. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, you are a good daughter-in-law. In addition, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have opinions on weekdays, and it is forbidden to talk with neighbors, colleagues or friends. There is a folk proverb in our country: "The less you take, the more you talk." . I'm talking about the bad influence of "passing words" in interpersonal relationships. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not in harmony, telling relatives and neighbors will spread beyond recognition, which will only aggravate the contradiction. As a mother-in-law, you should take a warning. Finally, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a new family interpersonal relationship formed by the extension of parent-child relationship and husband-wife relationship, and the son plays the role of "intermediary" in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Sons can help mother-in-law and daughter-in-law communicate psychologically. For example, if there are any good things about her mother-in-law at home on weekdays, her son can invite his wife to come forward more, and her mother can buy something for her birthday and ask her to come forward and give it to the elderly. These strategies are conducive to emotional communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict, the son can play a role of counseling. Because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lack the kindness between mother and son. There is no sense of closeness between husband and wife, so it is often difficult to bridge the gap. Through the interaction of sons, psychological barriers can be eliminated and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be reconciled. As the saying goes, "everything depends on human effort." If you don't communicate to solve contradictions, then contradictions and misunderstandings will only increase, and daughters-in-law should not be afraid of her mother-in-law's nagging. She has experienced it and has many experiences worth learning.