My family.
As long as I can remember, whenever my mother spoke to my father, my father would look disgusted and impatient. Forget it, his mouth would not forgive me, and he would yell at her as soon as he spoke. Actually, objectively speaking, at that time, I didn't think my mother said much, just a little petty and wordy. When I grow up, I really understand that when I hate someone in my heart, she doesn't need to do anything. Just appeared, I can't stand it.
When my father growled at my mother, my mother kept silent. She hardly talks back, so she never quarrels. When my father opened his mouth, he had already held my mother down. From beginning to end, it was just my father's stage. Such a cultured and graceful person outside growled at my mother like a tyrant. Why didn't we three brothers and sisters dare to make any noise at home when we were young? They were all frightened by the battle. A family may spend one night together without ten words. Therefore, the picture of other people's families sitting together, children talking about school and parents smiling and listening is a luxury we will never get.
When I was young, my father would smile at our three brothers and sisters. But since I was eight years old, and since he became impatient with my mother, I haven't seen him smile at our three brothers and sisters. No one will deny that my father loves our three brothers and sisters very much. Maybe he feels bad, maybe he can't stop being mean to my mother here, and then he will smile at us three brothers and sisters. How terrible, in this family, my father has automatically put on a mask of unsmiling.
However, he obviously smiled. I saw him with his friends. His face was usually tight and he gave out bursts of hearty laughter. This smiling father makes me feel very strange. I haven't seen him smile a few times a year. He is so happy only in front of his friends.
I still remember clearly that I was in the fourth grade that year. Several nights, I was so sad that I hid under the covers and cried silently, listening to my father abusing my mother hysterically in their room. Today, when I think of this scene, I still feel heartache for that little self.
As a junior high school student, I wrote many letters to my father. Once in a letter, I said that I didn't expect anything from your relationship. I don't want you to treat each other like guests. I just want you to "bury the hatchet" and stop talking. Even in the letter, I hope they can get a divorce for their own happiness.
My father wrote back to me saying that he would not divorce his mother because we are still young, which is not good for our growth. I am a junior high school student, and I already know my dad's hypocrisy. He is not really good to us, he is just afraid that divorce will affect his reputation. The stuffing in the marriage is gone, but we still have to pretend to be intact.
A female colleague of mine said that her family was extremely cold. For narrative convenience, I told the story of her family in the first person.
We are six brothers and sisters, and my parents have been fighting since childhood. My father is good-looking and personable. He is the principal of a primary school. My mother is a housewife and cooks at home. My mother didn't know who to listen to, and she always suspected that my father was following someone else. He quarreled with my father when he got home. They never seem to have a good talk. My father is not warm at home. He is bored. Sometimes he goes to school and stays for more than ten days. When we were young, my mother waited on us. Alas, I'm tired enough. She took it out on us. My mother despises my second sister the most, because she beats her at the slightest thing. The worst part of the fight was that the second sister forgot to feed the pigs. My mother picked up the rotary hammer and threw it over. My second sister's hand and neck bulged a big bag at that time. It took more than 10 days for this big bag to disappear.
My mother is not good to us, either hitting this or scolding that. Now my mother is over 80 and paralyzed in bed. I have found two nannies for her these days and told her to scold her. Well, I can't help it. It's my mother, or we'll leave her alone.
Female colleagues also wiped their tears while talking. I know she was born in such a cold family, and it's really hard.
The coldest family relationship I have ever seen is the neighbor's house. Our neighbor is a highly educated university teacher who lives next door to us. He is in his thirties. He looks short, ugly and rustic. Although his wife also wears rustic clothes, she is more beautiful than her husband. I heard that they used to be private teachers in a primary school, and later they came together. Later, after the reform of the college entrance examination system, the man was admitted to the university and later went to graduate school. While he was at school, the woman was in charge of the man's living expenses. But this man's identity has changed now, and he always thinks his wife is ugly, unfashionable and uneducated. In short, he openly despises his wife. At home and abroad, men don't even look at their wives and children. At that time, young workers and staff lived in two adjacent towers, which were usually quite good. Young parents like to gather on the concrete floor between two floors, take their babies for a walk and talk casually. They always hear it from his house (he lives on the first floor and has a window). Whether it is an adult or a child, this man scolded his wife and children. Some people tried to mediate, but they were scolded by that man, and the leaders also came forward to do the work. But the man didn't listen, but thought it was the woman outside, so he tortured her even more ... until one day, the man hooked up with a student and asked the woman for a divorce directly, but the woman didn't agree. The poor woman hanged herself in the bathroom in extreme despair ... At that time, some people suspected that this man had killed her, but there was no evidence. There was no monitoring or anything at that time. The most important thing is that there is no one at home. Although some people complain, no one will rashly offend a rising star for the sake of a poor man with no evidence. However, this matter has always been in my heart, and it has been emerging in front of my eyes for nearly 30 years. Later, the man married a female student and gave birth to a little boy, who was blind in the sky. The man's career is still thriving, and their daughter lives with them. The girl became a little babysitter of their family of three, a typical modern version of Cinderella, and often did housework that was out of proportion to her age. Stepmother also forgot. Father didn't feel any regret, because his own daughter lost relatives, even. It seems that only the son is his own, fighting to the death. When other children of the same age are laughing and playing outside, we often hear the girl crying sadly. Although we don't like it, it's also someone else's business, and we dare not care. Alas, colleagues can only sigh that there are such cruel men in the world ... There are two things I still don't understand, 1, and the good cause and effect. Why is it that the bad guys have not been punished at all, but have risen to the highest level, and now they are both directors and professors, with many titles and reputations and a good life? 2. How cruel a man is, forcing him to die and be a rotten sugar wife for seven years, and ignoring his own flesh and blood. When even a bystander can't stand it, he feels at ease. I remember that this girl used to wash her brother's clothes with cold water in winter when she was only seven or eight years old. Her hands were chapped and covered with chilblains. We girls looked around at her hand, just as one of them went home to get her chilblain cream. The girl watched her father coming from a distance and tried to break away from us and run home ... because she was afraid that her father would blame her for what she said to us, it was inevitable that she would be beaten up ... Later, the girl grew up and was arranged to be a librarian in the unit. Since then, the girl seems to have nothing to do with that family, and there is no place for her at home. She sleeps on the camp bed in the corner of the reference room every day and occasionally meets her father on campus. The daughter called her father, and the father didn't look. Until the wedding, those of us who watched her grow up, in order to make this poor girl popular, even those who don't usually want to participate in such activities, went to see her, but her parents didn't show up, without any warning ... So far, human nature is indifferent, and I have only seen this person in TV movies and books before. Every time I think of him, I think the so-called heaven has eyes is a joke. The most indifferent family relationship I have ever seen is this one in my village! After reading this true and sad story, we will re-examine life!
This family is selfish, and both husband and wife have their own kitchens and ignore each other; The children met each other and fought. Parents didn't end well in the end, and the whole family was so indifferent! There is no good feeling, which makes people stunned.
It is said that parents are copies of the original, how children are derived from their parents' words and deeds, and their family affairs have completely verified this theory. Next, tell you something specific!
First of all, let's stroke the relationship between people:
The main members are: an old couple, two sons and daughter-in-law (three children each)
The old couple were born in the early days of liberation. At that time, the countryside still got married as soon as they met. It is not unusual that there is no love between them, but it is rare that they love each other until they are old.
The old lady is greedy and selfish. When she was young, she would go to the market to buy some food. She often hides in the street and goes home after dinner, regardless of her children or her husband. It's not good for parents-in-law, but it depends on the mood for food! The old man, almost, has never thought of anything good for his wife, and he is also a grumpy person. He never communicates with others about things he doesn't like, so he just starts to fight.
In this way, I also spent half my life seeing the old man off. My two sons and two daughters have been married separately, and I am slowly stepping into the old age.
When we get old, it takes decades of contradictions to produce, and we can no longer live together, so we start our own stoves and ignore each other. You eat your rice and I grow my vegetables.
A few years later, the old lady developed diabetes and high blood pressure. People are fat and deformed, and gradually lose their ability to work. The two daughters took medicine for several years and refused to pay any more, while the son was penniless. The old man refused to take care of him. In desperation, he secretly drank the medicine himself in the middle of the night.
After the old lady left, the old man was too old to plant. I divided the only property. In fact, it is nothing more than a little land and farm tools. Just for this, the two brothers had a big fight. The boss coveted the land allocated to his younger brother, which was flat and close to home. He was dissatisfied with his father's allocation and asked for a new lottery.
Then I drew a little bit of remote children and quit, arguing and arguing, and no one would let anyone. Finally, I took out all the kitchen knives. If the village cadres hadn't intervened and called the police if they didn't stop, the two men wouldn't stop until they saw blood.
Since then, the two families have forged a deep hatred and turned against each other, let alone sisters-in-law, and even children are not allowed to play together. Cousins are worse than strangers.
Such a relationship can't help but make people feel embarrassed. In fact, as far as our local countryside is concerned, it is common to have a war of words between brother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but no brother turned against each other because of a trivial matter. This is a mother's own brother!
And the idle old man over there, playing cards alone, is too lazy to watch anyway. The rations I ate were millet given by my two sons as agreed. If I don't have pocket money, I ask my two daughters for it. A family has become three families close at hand, but their hearts are far away Even important festivals are celebrated separately. At most, the daughter came back to give the old man a "vacation" (giving gifts on holidays, and then a daughter left unexpectedly. )
But this so-called "good day" did not last long, breaking the original "calm". The house where the old man lived collapsed on a stormy night, hurting his waist and legs. Later, he never recovered, and the child was too lazy to send him to see a doctor. That's right, because nobody will pay. Slowly, the old man collapsed on the bed, only his hands could move.
The two brothers have to face it together. This time, they reached an understanding that no one wanted to take the old man back to his home, so the boss cleaned up the abandoned flue-cured tobacco room a little, put a simple bed and a board, and left the old father alone.
Next, new contradictions have arisen. The two brothers take turns to deliver meals for a month, but no one delivers them when there is 3 1 in that month of the New Year. Noisy, no one will compromise. This matter was known by the nephew who worked outside the home, and he couldn't stand it any longer. He told his wife to send a meal every 3 1.
Paralyzed patients are not as simple as sending a meal. What about the next many things? Turn over, clean, urinate, etc. Although the two sons were perfunctory, the old man persisted for half a year. It is said that there is no dutiful son before the hospital bed for a long time, let alone two brothers who haggle over every ounce. Seeing that the old father was still alive, the two brothers became more and more agitated and impetuous. Turn over, I don't care about defecation, I just threw a bowl of rice in a hurry and left.
To this end, the elders in the village also criticized the two brothers. You can't treat your biological father like a dog. But these two people are really thick-skinned and never care about other people's opinions. Sometimes the meal is not delivered on time, and I am full of hunger. What do you expect?
No one has taken care of him for a long time. The old man's health is getting worse and worse, and his body is covered with sores and mattresses. In the midsummer, live maggots grew on his wound. My daughter cleaned it twice a month, but she still couldn't hide the stench in his room. Finally, one night I left alone.
At noon the next day, I found that the meal was delivered, and I still kept a scary posture. It is said that the shroud was not worn ...
It stands to reason that at this point in the story, their contradiction ended with the departure of their old father. But I didn't expect the two brothers to have another fight at their old father's funeral, moth. I don't know why they quarreled again, regardless of relatives and friends who came to mourn. If we don't reciprocate according to tradition (our local dutiful son will kneel down to show respect to the guests who come to mourn), forget it, a large group of people are still fighting for them. ...
It's so sad to write here. Such a close relationship has come to this. The two brothers are old enough to be grandfathers now. Originally it came out of a mother's stomach, but now it's so old and dead. It's really speechless!
This is a true story that happened in 2000. I was a day student in junior high school at that time, and I was a witness to what they did. This family made me deeply afraid of marriage when I was a teenager. I am afraid that I will have such a family in the future. After so many years, I have always wanted to write a story about this family to warn myself and others.
Write at the end:
I hope their next generation is better? However, who knows if these bad things will be "circulated" because of this? what do you think? Welcome to leave your opinion and exchange and learn together.
A condom was found in the old man's pocket. In order to punish the old man, the old lady waited until the old man fell asleep in the middle of the night and scratched his face into powder. The eldest son raised the third child, but his daughter-in-law found out and led his in-laws to block it in the basement. In winter, his wife and in-laws stayed out all night. Before the divorce procedure was finished, the younger son led his girlfriend to live at home in front of his daughter-in-law.
I met an elderly colleague many years ago, and my family relationship really opened my eyes.
The old couple have two sons, both of whom are married. The old couple live alone and usually take care of each other. The old man runs outside every day, and the old lady never cares whether the old man lives or dies. Get paid every month and it's over.
Once when washing clothes, I found a condom in the old man's pocket. Because it was all in English, the old lady didn't know it, so she asked the old man. In order to muddle through, the old man said it was a balloon for his grandson. The old lady believed it and gave it to her grandson. Unexpectedly, when the old lady led her grandson to play with balloons, she was seen by the neighborhood. A joke in the neighborhood let the old lady know that it was a condom, and the old lady suspected that the old man was fooling around outside.
As the saying goes, like father, like son, it really suits this family.
After the eldest son got married, he feasted every day, never cared about his daughter-in-law, and played around all day. Once, after being discovered by his daughter-in-law, he told his parents-in-law, who led his daughter-in-law to block the eldest son and mistress in the basement. Knowing that they were in the basement, they couldn't open the door, so they stayed outside all night. That night, the eldest son held San Xiao and slept in bed all night. In-laws and daughters-in-law froze outside all night in winter.
The youngest son, like the eldest son, is tarred with the same brush. He has just been married for a year and found a lover outside. Kannika nimtragol had no choice but to divorce him. In the absence of divorce procedures, the younger son openly took his lover home, insisted on sleeping with his lover at night in front of his daughter-in-law, and the younger daughter-in-law had no choice but to move back to her family.
My former neighbor, the husband and wife are both employees of a cigarette factory and have a daughter. The unit benefit is good, and the income is not small. But they each spend their own salaries. There are no curtains in their house, and the windows are all made of kraft paper. Because nobody buys curtains.
Cook by yourself, and the daughter and parents take turns eating. Clothes are also washed separately. My daughter also washes her own clothes after school.
Once I was chatting with my hostess, and she told me about their laundry. After listening, I asked curiously, "What about those sheets?" She said men wash clothes. Because there is no washing machine, men are strong.
At that time, the family area provided hot water, and they also carried thermos bottles to fetch water. Whoever made the water drank it.
I didn't understand at that time, how can a husband and wife live together after a family has become like this? At that time, the housing area was so small that the husband and wife had to sleep in the same bed. My daughter has entered junior high school, and she is twelve or thirteen years old. I have been married for more than ten years, and I don't know how I got here.
Later, when I moved, I never saw this neighbor again, and I didn't know that they still live like this. Still changed.
A friend's house of mine, if I hadn't seen it with my own eyes, I really couldn't believe such a cold family relationship!
Some time ago, my friend found out that there was a lump in my breast. I have been in the hospital these days, saying that I am preparing for surgery. During the Dragon Boat Festival, I stewed a pot of sparerib soup at home. My husband was on vacation at home, so I asked him to look after the children. Go to the hospital to send some soup to a friend and see her!
When I went to the hospital, I thought about bringing more soup to my friends' accompanying family. Who thought that when I arrived at the inpatient building, the security guard wouldn't let me in, saying that only patients can accompany their families during the epidemic!
No way, just call a friend and ask her family to come down and get it. As a result, my friend said that she was alone in the hospital, with no one to accompany her. Besides, she just had an operation yesterday and can't walk that far!
I have no choice. I only let the security uncle talk about it for a long time before agreeing to scan the health code! When I went up, my friend was still lying in bed, and there was an unfinished lunch box on the table beside the bed!
As soon as I went to see my friend, I complained that the box lunch in the hospital was not delicious. She couldn't eat it for days! When I brought her soup, I asked her, "Where's your husband? Why doesn't he take care of you in the hospital? " My friend listened to me and didn't speak. He took my soup and drank it directly!
I was impatient, so I said to her, "You don't take yourself seriously. You are in hospital for surgery, and you still don't let your husband take time off to take care of you. Is it that important for him to make money from work? Excuse me, about the holiday? "
Maybe my tone was too strong, and my friend cried at that time. I said that her operation is actually a minor operation, mainly to take out a small lump inside for pathological examination, and no one needs to take care of themselves! Call the canteen and someone will deliver it!
I'm getting more and more angry. Since my friend got married, her husband has been working in a factory. Anyway, he has no holidays for 365 days a year. I heard that his salary was only over 1000 at first, but now it's a little higher, but at most it's less than 3000!
As for my friend, she takes care of the children at home and grows some vegetables to sell. Later, when the child went to school, she rented 5 mu of land in the village, watered the vegetables in the field during the day, and picked the vegetables to be sold the next day in the afternoon, washed them and piled them up! At 4 o'clock the next morning, I want to get up and go to the vegetable market to pile vegetables for vegetable sellers. When I get home at 5 o'clock, I have to make breakfast for my husband. After breakfast, I have to go to the vegetable market to pick up the rest of the dishes, and I won't be back until noon 1 1!
Anyway, I think no matter how hard and tired she is, her husband has never helped her for a day. Such a broken formal job has become a shield from the wind and rain, and nothing can help her! Everything inside and outside the house is handled by my friend alone!
A few years ago, my friend had a fight with a family in her village for watering the land. At that time, his leg was broken. After calling the police, my husband and I went to the hospital to take pictures. Her husband is not stupid, so he still goes to work as usual. It doesn't matter to me that the sky is falling and you handle it yourself. I can't handle it if I go! I was particularly angry at that time. I thought my friend was looking for such a man blindly!
The same is true of my friend's illness this time. Before the doctor was admitted to the hospital, the doctor said that the situation might not be very good and he should take it out for case testing. My friend said that yesterday's operation was taken care of by her sister's family. Today, she was alone in the hospital. Originally, she said that her son would come back to take care of her, but her husband called her son and said he didn't have to come back. Minor surgery is nothing!
I'm really getting angry. My friend's son is in his mid-twenties this year. He just quit his job some time ago and went out to travel. I heard that he went to other provinces to attend a friend's wedding these days! I thought to myself that his mother was ill in hospital and the son could travel safely to attend a friend's wedding. How cold he should be! It's his father's child! Father and son are equally indifferent!
I thought to myself, my friend is really sad. I have worked hard for this family all my life. I have never rested in the wind and rain. Sick in bed, still worrying about selling vegetables. I can't wait to leave the hospital tomorrow to sell vegetables! As a result, her husband and her son are relaxing their own affairs, and no one cares about her!
The indifference of this family has really subverted my three views. To say the least, even if her husband is at work, you can come to the hospital to take care of him after work, even if it's just a look. Can't you come? I really can't figure out how he sleeps well at night.
Really should have that sentence: "mourn its misfortune, anger its indisputable!" " My friend just wants to pay for this family and take care of this girl for life! As a result, I turned myself into an omnipotent woman. I spoiled two men in my family because I didn't even know what responsibility and responsibility were. Who can blame?
It's my husband's house. A family can sit on the sofa and watch TV without saying a word for a day. No one talks at dinner and hardly calls. It is not good to say hello once in a while. Okay, I gotta go. I can't even understand the way their family gets along. I had dinner with my parents. It was fun and fun, and I was very happy. I call my parents who are away almost every day. I don't know what to eat today, who is in the village and what is missing at home. Well, there are many ways to get along with people. I'm not used to going to my husband's house.
One of my colleagues, who is about 5 meters tall, looks average and has average ability, but married a tall and handsome husband, who is 5 meters tall and handsome and can play basketball. I think when I first transferred here, two people often walked together, one tall and the other short, which was not harmonious, but her husband always put his hand on her shoulder and hugged her, which felt very harmonious and the picture was beautiful. We all envy her.
Whether the shoes fit or not, only the feet know, others only look at whether these shoes look good or not.
She once said with emotion that if she could choose again, she would rather marry an old man with a successful career than an ambitious handsome boy. You work with him until he has almost everything he wants, then the last thing he wants is you and nothing is yours! It sounds sad, but she speaks calmly.
She and her husband have been separated for a long time, and each lives in a room. My mother-in-law supports the elderly at home and lives in the master's room. It suddenly occurred to me that when I walk in the square, I often see her husband or mother-in-law, but I have never seen her, especially the tall and short figure, for a long time!
Mother-in-law and husband, no matter who cooks, only do mother and son. No matter how late she gets off work on holidays, she has to cook by herself. There are different bathrooms, but only one kitchen. You can't use your own kitchen, but it's clear whether the utensils and supplies in the kitchen are yours or mine.
One day, she fainted in the bathroom. Before she was completely unconscious, she thought, if she dies like this, I don't know how long it will take to be discovered, because no one will enter her room, except her daughter, of course. It's just that my daughter went to school in other places and rarely came back.
Then I woke up slowly and climbed into bed slowly. ...
The speaker is calm and the listener wants to cry without tears.
Obviously, your husband and your mother-in-law live under the same roof, but the relationship is not even as good as that of the co-tenant. A shared tenant can at least quit at any time and get rid of it at any time.
She is only over 40 years old, so it can be said that her life is just over half. Long life, getting older and older, how to live in the future? It hurts to think about it.