My sister has been very distressed recently. Her nephew, who is in high school, has suddenly become obsessed with mobile phones and is particularly resistant to his parents’ teachings. This situation is scary to think about.

It’s normal for adolescent children to dislike their parents’ nagging, and it’s also normal for them to like playing with mobile phones. But why do they suddenly become more bad-tempered and more fond of playing with mobile phones than before?

Actually, it didn’t become like this all of a sudden. It was like this when I was in junior high school, but it’s just more obvious and unrestrained now. Maybe his emotions have accumulated to a certain extent now, and the heavy workload of schoolwork has made his heart even heavier, so he wants to vent.

All parents should really examine this issue: adolescent children are rebellious, love playing with mobile phones, and are unwilling to communicate with their parents.

Why are they unwilling to communicate with their parents? Why did the well-behaved baby who talked to his parents about everything suddenly change? Why did the "good boy" who taught his cousin in junior high school last year to study hard and play games less become obsessed with mobile phones now?

In fact, my nephew revealed to his sister before that he felt it was unfair - so he did not change all of a sudden. He feels that adults go to work every day, and then they can play with their mobile phones and do whatever they want; if nothing happens, they can proudly teach him to study hard and make progress every day.

He feels that we adults cannot sympathize with their hard work and their tiredness; they feel that their parents can be liberated only by saying, "Study hard and persist in three years to get into a good university." "You study for yourself." , I didn’t learn it for my parents.” “Study hard, otherwise you will have to work as hard as your parents.” “Is it easy for us to raise you like this?”...

They have heard these familiar words. The calluses are all gone, and they really go in from the left ear and out from the right ear. It's not that they are unfilial, nor that they are not well-behaved and sensible enough, but that they can only focus on their own feelings.

They feel that seeing the ardent expectations of their parents and teachers makes them tired; they feel that the intensive and increasingly difficult schoolwork every day makes them feel more and more guilty and at a loss as to what to do.

They are afraid of disappointing their parents and teachers. They feel that they have tried their best, only to see that the test results are not so satisfactory.

Over and over again, they became more and more frustrated and sad, but they did not dare to show it; their parents and teachers still continued to persuade them sincerely.

As a result, they turn their emotions to mobile phones and games - the short-term pleasure can make them feel relaxed.

The relationship between adolescent children and their parents is an eternal problem. Everyone has been young, and everyone has had that experience. But as parents, we can’t educate our children—maybe we can’t educate those of us in adolescence either.

Today's era is different from the past. We can no longer advocate that "filial sons emerge from under the stick" and "no talent can be achieved without beatings." Children will only be beaten further and further away from us.

We need to have heart-to-heart communication with our children and set an example to effectively accompany them. When our children are studying, we put our phones away. Pick up a good book and read a few good articles; pick up a pen and write some reading notes and movie watching experiences; buy a copybook and practice calligraphy; or if nothing else works, keep accounts and list some nutritious recipes...

Don’t criticize your children in front of others, don’t say they have bad grades, don’t say they are too playful and don’t study. As the children grow older, they become more concerned with saving face. If you blindly attack them, they will be disappointed - even broken.

Although the children are still young, they have a heart. Seeing their parents change a little bit for them, they will also change and be happy.

When I was working in a tutoring class, one of my students complained to me that he was ‘bored to death’. I asked him not to talk about his mother like that, because his mother was doing it for his own good. He said: "Teacher, you don't know, my mother is really annoying to death. She disappears every day and appears anytime and anywhere to ask me to memorize words. I am brushing my teeth in the bathroom, and she also makes me memorize a few words. It is even more exaggerated to accompany me to do my homework at night. , I stayed with her until the phone ran out of battery, so I played on the tablet one by one."

It can be seen that the mother of the child has a hard time doing this. She wakes up early and stays late every day with her child, but the child is very annoying to her. She usually ignores her when talking to her and doesn't appreciate her efforts at all - what this mother does is completely useless.

Admittedly, such companionship is ineffective. No matter how much he is a child, he will not be grateful at all, and he will even feel that his mother is spying on him - he will only become more and more disgusted in his heart.

Since we want to accompany our children, let us lead by example, throw away our mobile phones, and truly and effectively accompany them.

Looking at the "little man" sleeping soundly in my arms, I decided not to play with my phone in front of him from now on.

Although he is only one year old, I don’t want him to think that his mother only loves mobile phones and doesn’t love him; I also don’t want him to think that mobile phones are a good thing and let him develop the habit of playing with mobile phones.

I was playing with my mobile phone the night before yesterday, and he was playing with toys next to me. But he actually behaved obediently and played by himself for a while. Really: It’s scary to think about it.

If I don’t change, in 15 years we will be the exact replica of my sister and nephew today! No, it should be even worse - mobile phones were not popular 15 years ago!

Parents who love their children have far-reaching plans.

I hope every parent can hold on and be a qualified parent!