Actually, I don't really like this topic. Obedience feels like training a kitten or a puppy, but most parents like obedient children. In fact, obedient is sensible. Being sensible means being highly emotional, being able to read adults' emotions and respond accordingly. In real life, you are often not so optimistic. Children will not cooperate with you as shown on TV. On the contrary, they tend to turn a deaf ear to what you say. The more you care, the more you talk, and the less your children will listen.

Why? Wrong method, communication problem. To change this state, we must first change ourselves.

First, take a serious attitude.

Mother Tao Tao cooked dinner and shouted to Tao Tao, "Eat, stop playing with building blocks!" " "I shouted several times in a row, but Tao Tao didn't respond. Now, Tao Tao's mother is very anxious: "Are you deaf? I didn't hear you when I told you to eat. Put away the building blocks and wash your hands to eat! " Tao Tao made a face at her mother when she was cleaning up the building blocks, while Tao Tao's mother kept nagging with anger and helped the children clean up the building blocks. There are many such examples in life. In fact, when communicating, we don't regard children as equal communication objects in our hearts. We usually make a hullabaloo about when we are busy doing things. For example, you must meet the following conditions:

You may be playing with your mobile phone when you let your children do their homework; When you ask your child to read, you may be watching TV series; When you ask your child to wash, you may be playing a game ..... this kind of communication is definitely not good. To achieve the desired effect, we must first correct our attitude and take it seriously. For example, if you let the children eat, you can walk over and look after them. When a child finds you around, he will ask you, "What's the matter?" At this time, look at the child's eyes and say, "The meal is ready. It is time for us to eat. Put away the building blocks! " "This effect must be much better. In this kind of communication, children can feel that they are valued.

Second, pay attention to and understand children's emotions.

Unlike adults, children can't manage their emotions. All emotions will be shown on the face, including crying, laughing and losing your temper. If they can understand their emotions correctly, they will communicate better.

When the child is disobedient and emotional, kneel down and hug the child and tell the child: "Mom can understand this mood." In this way, the child's mood will be relieved a lot, and then communication will be more effective.

Third, don't always order.

In fact, we are not better than our children. We just have more life experience than our children. Don't feel that you owe us after the child is raised, and don't always give orders. Over time, our children will feel depressed. Learn to be friends with children and think from their perspective. Doing so will make your communication with your child better and better, and also help your child to get through adolescence.

Fourth, be more patient.

I want to take my children out to play at the weekend. When I left, many people said, "Come on, stop dawdling!" "However, several parents said," Never mind, son, take your time! "When you start trying to say this and do this, you will find that the child who hates naughty turns out to be so cute. In fact, it is not that children are disobedient and difficult to communicate, but that many times we ask children from the standpoint of adults. Don't forget, we were children once!