I have experienced despair, which is worse than misery. When there are only a few dollars left in my arms, many people have them. From then on, I vowed never to let myself live that life again. Self-pity is useless. The brute force after death is a kind of wealth. Always remind yourself of that feeling and grab what you have.

Most importantly, we must not be short-sighted in adversity. If you just want to live temporarily, you can't erase your will. You should plan your career step by step. Otherwise, you will be at the bottom all your life. This society will never be fair, so strong that even if the rules of the game are against you, you can be strong enough to win the final victory.

People's life, more or less will encounter some unsatisfactory or even desperate times, in the face of sudden despair, how to get out of the heart?

The summer before last, my friend Mr. Zhou's son and his playmates went to take a bath in the pond near his home. Unfortunately, Mr. Zhou's son accidentally slipped into the middle of the pond and eventually drowned.

At the scene, Mr. Zhou and his wife cried bitterly. Taking care of his son's funeral, Mr. Zhou is almost ten years old.

In desperation, Mr. Zhou often drinks to drown his sorrows. His friends often accompany him to get drunk when they see this situation. Continue to enlighten Mr. Zhou after waking up. Slowly, Mr. Zhou stopped drinking. Soon, my friend took Mr. Zhou to see a psychiatrist.

Half a year later, with the help of friends and psychologists, Mr. Zhou gradually came out of his grief. Although he still often misses his son, although he is often silent, his inner wounds are slowly healing.

Last year, Mr. Zhou invited a group of friends to dinner. During the dinner, he told everyone that his wife was pregnant. After that, Mr. Zhou showed a long-lost smile.

Looking at Mr. Zhou's happy appearance, his friends were also infected, and they congratulated Mr. Zhou and blessed him in their hearts.

Now, Mr. Zhou has no despair when he just lost his son. He said that the past has passed, and no matter how you recall or miss it, it will be of no help. Only when the living are strong and live a good life can they become the comfort of the dead.

There is an unforgettable love, we met in a unit.

She belongs to an innocent girl, virtuous and lovely. When she appeared in front of my eyes for a second, I felt that the world was still. In my eyes, only her figure, like a butterfly dancing in the flowers.

It is also like a small white rabbit jumping on the grassland, gentle and lovely.

I can't resist the softness in her body!

When I met her, I was still a little nervous, excited and excited. My heart rate can be used in unparalleled medical equipment. In the following days and life, I pay attention to her, help her and protect her. Maybe I insisted, maybe I cared more. She slowly accepted my help and felt protected. This is what I am most proud of, because I have worked hard.

We walked together, went shopping together, talked about our ideals together, and looked forward to the future together. The feeling of happiness almost overflowed.

We left the familiar city together and went to a strange city to work hard, thinking that our hearts were suffocating.

I didn't go back to the city that I was familiar with and felt strange, but she stayed in the bustling and strange city that we had been to together. Heartbreaking memories are tearing my nerves, and I feel a little disgusted with depressed tears and worthless appearance.

In the end, we parted ways, sat watching the sky all day, said sentences that we didn't even understand, and lived next to each other day in regret and regret.

People are bald and useless, without a soulless body. The smoke in their hands yellows the index finger and middle finger, and the cigarette holder burns unconsciously in the two fingers.

In the passage of time, slowly return to the normal life track, time makes a person who has been hurt by love and despair wake up slowly.

Empty your head, close the door, cut off the noise from the outside world, think nothing, even if you still don't want to do anything, and you are not interested in anything.

Instinctively let the body relax. When you are hungry and sleepy, you will find that you will still eat and sleep, because this is the instinctive demand of the body, as long as the brain does not interfere too much and actively release the bad mood of despair.

Please rest assured that no matter how bad the emotional illness is, no matter how bad the state is, it will get better one day.

Despair is generally divided into passive and active, passive is limited by objective conditions, and active is self-abandonment of hope.

You are desperate because you have been depressed for a long time, curled up in the dark, unable to find the exit and direction, and feel that no one has come to give yourself a lamp.

In fact, you should know that maybe if you get up and take a walk and take a step forward, you may find a new door. It is light to open it.

Personally, I feel that as long as my heart is not completely dead, there is still hope to continue living, because the sun rises as usual, and I always believe that good things are about to happen!

I am An Wenyu, An is my surname, Wen is my name, and Yu is my hobby.

There are many disappointments in life.

Many people are immersed in it.

How to walk out by yourself when you are desperate?

This question is actually very simple.

Develop some habits and hobbies at ordinary times.

Use these to vent and relieve when you are sad.

For example, if you like music, you can sing your heart.

Like sports, you can run wildly and paralyze your inner pain with physical fatigue.

In fact, the best way is to find a sustenance and underestimate the pain.

I didn't care and came out.

If it's emotional, you don't mind carrying it alone.

It's best to talk to someone and find a better ta.

The best way to cure is to talk.

If you really don't want others to know, you can go to a deserted place and say what you want to say out loud, so you will feel better.

Of course, I hope you don't have a chance to step into despair this time.

I also wish my friends in pain an early exit from the predicament and shine their brilliance.

I haven't experienced it, and I really don't know what despair is. In fact, people are very fragile, suffering and unable to take care of themselves. The doctor said that the disease was not good and asked the doctor, "Does it hurt to have an analgesic injection?" The doctor said that you can't get an analgesic injection, but you can support it now because you are mentally prepared. If you have an analgesic injection, it will be difficult for you to commit suicide by jumping off a building after eight hours. Therefore, you can't hurt the needle. Desperate and powerless, no one can help, unwilling to feel reluctant? What if we are calm, calm, let nature take its course and let fate take its course? But at ordinary times, I can always be kind-hearted The so-called good deeds need not be known, but virtue will be known. Ji's own help saved him from death again.

Personally, the most desperate time comes from reading and keeping a diary. Reading is to think, to reflect, to know yourself, and to get out of despair!

In the book, we can communicate with the wise and get the best help; Keeping a diary can reveal a person's true feelings, understand a person's real predicament and remove all the entanglements in his heart. ...

In short, everyone's situation is different, and the despair they encounter is different. Many people, faced with despair, are used to asking for help; Either escape or change the status quo, which will not help. None of these problems can be finally solved.

By reading books and keeping diaries, we seek inner self. In reading, learn the thinking of the wise, get the enlightenment of wisdom, in the diary, put aside the deep heart, find the true self, find out the root cause, prescribe the right medicine, save yourself and get out of despair.

In a word, changing yourself is the best way to get out of despair.

This reminds me of an incident. Some people say that there is a contradiction to death. When I visit the survivors, I always say that they are the first to do it. You gave him the prerequisite to get out of despair. Very good. Then I don't know what is the most desperate thing here. Really, the most desperate possible events are all kinds. Jackie Chan announced that he was going to get married, and someone committed suicide in Japan immediately. So, are there some beautiful women among Jackie Chan fans who haven't committed suicide after so many years? And I want to question, is the most desperate ending really death? The death of someone may be a new beginning for a single individual, or it may be a manifestation of a person coming out. Although I know what you mean, I think it seems more meaningful for me to analyze other reasons from another angle, don't you think?

The reasons for this problem are different, and the practices are different.

1: Go home often! Chat with parents, grandparents and other elderly people and have a meal. Being with them often will make you feel that it is not easy to support you hard, even if it is very difficult. )

2. If possible, you can go to temples, Taoist temples and other places, and it is best to watch books and videos on Buddhism. It will broaden your mind, pattern and vision. You can't say that you can see through the world of mortals, at least you will feel that the difficulties in the world are very small.

3. Have the conditions to live in poor areas for a period of time. For example: China West Africa Lantern, experience their life, (the children of the rich second generation live there for a few days and become very good when they come back)

The most ruthless way is to go to the war zones in Syria and Iraq. Whether you have money or not, even a loan will do. I dare not ask you to look down on everything, at least your heart will get a higher sublimation! Fight poison with poison, simple and practical. If you don't know how to get there, contact me to help you find a way. )

Summary: positive energy places, poor places, places in war. Everyone has great or small difficulties and pressures in his life. Major career failure, family members seriously ill, when your ability can not be changed, you must stick to it! No matter what the result is, it is most important to stick to it.

Finally: I hope I can help you, and you can continue to play if you want.