In the morning, among the villagers, Ahua sent a message: "Come on! Goldfinger, go! Pull it to the end and vote directly for my daughter's school No.11 Middle School. Thank you! "

Attach a link to vote.

Ayuan replied below: "Poof. Eleventh Middle School is recognized as the worst school. "

Someone @ A Yuan said, "What a blow! ! ! "

A Yuan replied: "The truth."

A little impatient, Iowa suddenly replied, "Your child is excellent."

I can see that Hua is a little unhappy. This sentence, which is also obvious irony, is probably "If you say that my child's school is poor, then your child must be excellent." The meaning of.

A yuan didn't see what she said, and continued to answer: "It's not that my children are excellent. My child has not yet entered junior high school. "

Knowing that Ah Yuan didn't hear her clearly, but didn't want to put her dissatisfaction too bluntly in the group, Ah Hua only replied, "I won't tell you, I just understand it myself."

Unexpectedly, Ah Yuan still didn't recognize the implication and continued: "Of course I understand. I have lived here for more than N years, just telling the truth. " Probably trying to prove her point of view, Ayuan has always stressed that she has lived here for a long time and knows all the middle schools here very well. No.11 Middle School is as bad as she said.

When Ah Yuan finished, Ah Hua didn't reply. Ahua, who has always been very active in the group, did not speak in the group for the next seven or eight hours. I can see that Hua is unhappy. It can also be seen that the atmosphere in the group is very embarrassing.

I believe that most people prefer praise to belittle. A yuan said in the group that the school attended by Ahua's daughter was poor, which was equivalent to indirectly denying Ahua's daughter. When a person's daughter is denied, parents are naturally unhappy. Ayuan repeatedly stressed in the group that this is a fact. She has lived in the local area for a long time and knows the local schools well. She can't go wrong. This makes Iowa even more unhappy.

Just like when you go to the vegetable market to buy food, you turn your head when you think the food bought by the grandmother selling vegetables is not delicious. You've been telling grandma how bad the food is. You know where the grain is planted and where the land is barren. The grain you grow is definitely not delicious. You also bought grandma's food, which is really not delicious. I'm sure grandma must have picked up a stick and tried to hit you, even if she didn't mind her own business. She kept saying that her food was bad in front of everyone and told all her customers to leave.

Ah Hua must be thinking in his heart: "Ah Yuan doesn't vote for himself, but he keeps saying in the group how bad this school is, which not only makes him lose face, but also makes others influenced by Ah Yuan not to vote for himself."

People with low emotional intelligence often speak frankly, regardless of timing and occasion. Even if what I said upset others, I didn't notice it, and even deepened this unpleasant topic, which made people even more disgusted.

02

Some time ago, Ming Xi went on a hot search in Weibo because he forced Jackson Wang to eat Chili in a variety show.

At first, Jackson Wang kept saying, "I don't know, I can't eat." Ming Xi seemed to think he was joking and insisted that he eat it.

Jackson Wang explained, "I'm sick. I have this disease. If I eat spicy food, my sweat will be like taking a bath. "

Regardless of Jackson Wang's feelings, Ming Xi replied, "I know you are sick, so I will be beaten."

In desperation, Jackson Wang had to bite the bullet and eat Chili. I just took a sip, and the sweat on my face immediately came out.

See this kind of situation, Ming Xi not only didn't care about him, but pointed to him and laughed.

As soon as the program was broadcast, Ming Xi went on a hot search in Weibo, which caused a lot of abuse.

"How vicious it is to force a person to eat something he is allergic to ..."

"How can there be such a person who bases his happiness on the suffering of others?"

"I can't eat and force others to eat, and I still laugh around. Simply. "

"What's the difference between this and toasting a person who can't drink?"

......

People with low emotional intelligence always don't know how to empathize, don't consider other people's feelings, and just want to be happy. In order to satisfy their curiosity, they do not hesitate to force others to do things they don't want to do. Even if others are reluctant, they will not give up.

03

In the fifth season of "Where's Dad?", a special edition was made-fathers told behind-the-scenes stories emotionally.

When talking about the friendship between Jasper and Uh-huh, Jordan chan said, "I feel that Uh-huh doesn't like him."

In this regard, Du Jiang said: "In fact, I have seen little girls establish friendship, while boys, who seem to be strangers at first, have not established real friendship."

At first, Jasper and Uh-huh didn't get along very well. Jordan chan used "Mm-hmm don't like Jasper" and Du Jiang used "Boys haven't established real friendship yet."

After careful consideration, do you think Du Jiang's expression is much better than Jordan chan's?

"Don't like" is a derogatory term, which makes people feel a little alienated and unfriendly to Jasper. And "friendship has not been established" is a neutral word, which gives people a feeling that it will not be particularly good, but it will not be particularly alienated. After all, two children who have never met before have just met and are not familiar with each other. It is impossible to become particularly good at once. It always takes a while to get along, and the feelings will heat up. So it makes sense to use "friendship has not been established"

The same thing, the same point of view, with different expressions, the effect will be much worse.

04

The root of all low emotional intelligence is that you don't know how to empathize and consider other people's feelings.

The behavior of low emotional intelligence, once done, is like spilled water, which can't be collected. And those actions hurt others, just like nails carved on boards. Even if you apologize afterwards and pull out the nails on the board one by one, those scars will always be there.

Smart people are praised for their high EQ, and stupid people are hated for their low EQ.

The stupidest behavior in the world is that others make friends with high emotional intelligence, and you make enemies with low emotional intelligence.

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