Who will push you away if you don't move forward? Therefore, a proactive attitude is the principle of realizing personal vision.

We often say, "I won't ... because of heredity ...", "I'm late because ..." and "I didn't finish my plan because ..." We are always looking for excuses or complaining, which consumes our lives. The difference between humans and animals is that humans can actively create and realize their dreams to improve our quality of life. Therefore, proactive people are always willing to be responsible for their actions and choices in life, and choose their own attitudes and coping styles to deal with the external environment; They are committed to achieving what they can control, rather than passively worrying about things that are uncontrollable or difficult to control; They strive to improve their efficiency, thus expanding their attention and influence.

A positive attitude can give you "freedom of choice". Although we cannot control the objective environment, we can choose how to react to the objective reality. The positive meaning is not only taking action, but also representing a responsible attitude towards yourself. Personal behavior depends on itself, not the external environment, and people have the ability and responsibility to create a good external environment.

2. Behavior habit of planning in advance

We often lose our way on the road of life, wander on the wrong road and consume our lives. The difference between man and animals is that man knows how to design his own future. They carefully plan what kind of people they want to be, what kind of things they want to do and what kind of people they want to have, and write them down clearly as a decision guide. This can ensure that your behavior is consistent with your goals and is not influenced by others or the external environment. This written plan is a "mission statement". Any existing social organization needs a "mission statement", and any enterprise or individual is no exception. The "mission statement" needs to be evaluated in stages and constantly revised and improved.

Set a goal and go all out. This is what we call doing the right thing at the right time and doing it right. Why do many people feel lost when they succeed? Many people have not found the ultimate goal of life when they are working hard, but are busy for the sake of being busy. They have never understood what they want in their hearts, and have never examined their life creed: What are you going to do? What is the most important thing in your life? What is the focus of your life? Only by establishing a life goal that conforms to values can we gather our willpower, go all out and put it into practice persistently, and get the greatest satisfaction from our hearts.

3, distinguish between primary and secondary behavior habits

Everyone's time is limited, so do important things, that is, things that you think are valuable and contribute to your life value and highest goals. So "priority" is the principle of self-management.

The important difference between people and animals is that people will prioritize. In fact, only a few very important emergencies and crises in people's lives need to be dealt with immediately. We should focus on important but not urgent things to keep the balance between benefit and efficiency.

"Effective management" is the key management that puts the most important things first. After the leader decides what is the key, he should grasp the key, always put the key first, and don't be influenced by feelings, emotions or impulses. If you want to focus on current priorities; We must first get rid of secondary things and dare to say "no".

Some people's failure lies in their confusion of priorities: when it was time to study hard, he chose to fall in love, and when it was time to lay the foundation for his career, he chose to get married and have children.

4. interpersonal behavior habits that are beneficial to both people and others.

People who know how to benefit others and themselves regard life as a stage for cooperation, not an arena. Most people often use the dichotomy when they are in trouble: either strong or weak, or win or lose. In fact, the world has given everyone enough room to stand on, and the gains of others are not their own losses. Therefore, "win-win thinking", which is beneficial to both people and themselves, has become the principle people use to deal with interpersonal relationships.

We have participated in various competitions and exams since childhood, and cultivated a competitive mentality that you win and I lose. Imagine, who is willing to give up in the game? Establishing win-win thinking means constantly seeking mutual benefit in interpersonal communication in order to reach an agreement that both sides are satisfied with and committed to cooperation.

People with win-win thinking are often loyal to their feelings, values and commitments; Be brave in expressing your own thoughts and feelings, and be able to treat others' thoughts and experiences with an open-minded and considerate attitude; I believe that the world has enough development resources and space for everyone to share.

The formation of the concept of benefiting others and benefiting oneself is based on honesty, maturity and openness. Openness comes from personal lofty values and self-confident sense of security, so I am not afraid to share fame and fortune with others, so I am willing to try unlimited possibilities and give full play to my creativity and broad choice space.

5. Interpersonal communication habits of empathy

We often say that we should look at each other when things happen. However, when we communicate with people, we often make the mistake of jumping to conclusions indiscriminately. Therefore, understanding others and expressing yourself are indispensable elements in interpersonal communication. The key to effective interpersonal communication is to know each other first, and then try to let them know themselves. We should change the tendency to make suggestions or solve problems in a hurry.

It is necessary to cultivate the communication habit of "empathy". If you want to understand others, you must first understand each other. Everyone wants to be understood and eager to express, but often ignores listening. As we all know, effective listening can not only obtain extensive and accurate information, but also contribute to the accumulation of feelings between the two sides. When we are trained to grasp ourselves, maintain peace of mind, resist external interference and learn from others' opinions, our interpersonal relationship will be by going up one flight of stairs.

6. Be good at recording and summarizing the habit of introspection

In the complicated work, if you want to be clear-headed, not miss important events and learn lessons from failures in time, you must be good at recording and summarizing. The way need not be too harsh, it is important to persevere. More recently, it is necessary to record the special events that happened at a special time, the solutions to the problems, and the lessons and experiences learned from everything, and review them regularly so as to continuously learn from the experience in classic cases; Far is to constantly adjust the ways and means of doing things, design a better life trajectory, and keep a clear head and a thinking mode that keeps pace with the times at any time.

7. Behavior habit of immediate action

It is better to stand up and act than to lie down and think and sit and talk. In life, what many people can't do is not ability, but effective execution. Children's real journey in life begins with the day when they set their goals in life and put them into action. "It's better to retreat and form a net." Therefore, parents should guide and warn their children: don't wait until everything is ready to do anything, but constantly find and solve problems in the process of doing it. Creativity itself can't bring success, but creativity is valuable only if it is put into practice. Use actions to overcome your fears and enhance your self-confidence. Do what you are afraid of, and your fear will naturally disappear. Use actions to push your spirit, don't wait for spirit to push your behavior; Get into the habit of "I'll do it now". Don't waste time on a lot of preparation, just start acting right away.