My neighbor is a combined family. My father took his son Wenwen's brother and my mother took her daughter Haoran's sister. Both children are three or four years old. There is not much difference in age between the two children. They go to school together and are good friends of our daughter.

Wenwen's mother died of illness when her brother was about one year old. Wenwen's brother was brought up by his grandparents. Haoran's sister's father died, too, and her mother always took it with her. Wenwen's brother grew up shy and quiet, while Haoran's sister grew up lively and generous. Although it is a combined family, the family of four is harmonious and happy, and the life is quite warm. We are neighbors upstairs and downstairs, and adults and children often sit together and chat. Haoran's sister is high flyers, and my daughter is her iron fan.

Time is like a slowly unfolding picture, and no one can predict what is inside. In a blink of an eye, the children have grown up, and the civilized Haoran brother and sister are about to enter the tense review stage of senior three this year. I was surprised to hear that Wenwen's brother dropped out of school. There is a simple reason. He played the glory of the king and soon became addicted to it. And in this way, on the way to the glory of the king, I never came back, just like a different person. Eat when you are hungry, sleep when you are tired, have a sense of time day and night, have no self-discipline and compassion in daily life, and treat parents as nothing. .

What makes me sad is that Wenwen's brother's father has no countermeasures against his son's behavior, and he is in a hurry and doesn't know where to discipline his son. Slowly watching my son's increasingly numb and indifferent eyes, I was as flustered as flowers flying all over the sky in the spring breeze.

Sister Haoran, who is also a combined family, is a sunny, polite, ideal and ambitious girl who is very sensible. Everyone likes her very much. She was busy reviewing her spare time and didn't forget to persuade her brother. She is a very reliable girl.

This is a very typical case in our daily life. How important is the influence of the original ecological family on children? How important is mother's companionship and communication to children? How important is mother's guidance and love to children? Time will tell you the answer.

Parents often say that children are rebellious and ignorant, which is a common phenomenon in adolescence. I don't think this is a problem of adolescence, and adolescence should not carry this pot. Adolescence is only a turning point in children's physical development and has nothing to do with children's rebellion. I am confident to say so. Neither of our children has what experts say about puberty. They just grow taller, get fatter, eat more, and talk just a little funny. They walked through their every step peacefully, discussing the difference between Huawei mobile phone and Apple mobile phone with me every day, evaluating each teacher's style, helping me buy food on weekends, and then searching online for recipes and cooking dark dishes for me.

But whenever a child has such a problem in adolescence, you should go back to five years ago or ten years ago, or his childhood and adolescence. Like Wenwen's brother, he had no maternal love in his childhood. The so-called father's company is just that he and his father go to have a haircut and take a bath together. He was accompanied by an alcoholic grandfather and a smoking grandmother.

Our son also played king, but after I explained the disadvantages of this game to him, he took the initiative to uninstall it and never touched it again. Brother Wenwen without a mother is more like a lonely little beast. No one knows what his heart is like, no one can understand his loneliness, and no one is willing to listen to his heart. He doesn't know what his mother's love and warmth are like, so he can't say true happiness and happiness. He is addicted to the virtual satisfaction and happiness in the game, which he thinks is true.

I feel very sad because there is nothing we can do. A person's sense of mission, trust and security is built up by his mother bit by bit in a stable family environment. What I see now is just fruit, and I can't come back for a long time.

I have witnessed the common growth of these two children, the influence of their mothers on their children, and the wonderful quotations from various experts, which are not as desperate as those children who grew up on the wooden bridge in words and deeds.

One of my girlfriends is unmarried and childless. Five years ago, she adopted a three-year-old girl named Yingying from an orphanage. The child was taken home, and the girlfriend threw the child to her grandparents on the pretext of busy work. Last year, when she was in primary school, she took the child over. In less than a year, her girlfriend went completely crazy. Wechat with me every night is full of tears. My child was disobedient, didn't do his homework, got poor test scores, and the teacher talked to his parents again.

I told her that all the laziness you stole will be returned to you at some point in the future. If you want your child to have an ideal life, you have to pay a lot for her. My best friend is a very brave man. After listening to my words, she immediately went to the unit to retire, sent her grandparents back to their hometown, and began a long journey of forcing her mother to death by herself.

We often use WeChat to communicate and discuss, cultivate children's good habits, good methods and even play a trick. She even sent her daughter to live in our house for a while, so that the children could experience how other children live and study.

After a semester, the children's grades went from the second to the top five in the class, and their calligraphy was good. The Go course was also introduced, and the children were much quieter. The original eyes are not sloppy, revealing a quiet and warm temperament.

I am very pleased with this practice and change of my best friend, and I have given her great encouragement and affirmation. She is also very motivated. A few days ago, she also reported Chinese studies to her children, who recited the Analects of Confucius and the university, and the effect was good.

Meng Mu moved three times, and her mother-in-law was tattooed. The image of a wise mother has been circulating since ancient times. No matter how talented a man is, she is still ignorant, poor or rich, beautiful or ugly, her mother is always great and her love is irreplaceable.