First of all, reading a lot of parenting books is not necessarily related to the child's crying temper. If we read a lot of parenting books and know a lot of theoretical knowledge, but don't apply and practice them, then reading more parenting books is useless, just like not reading them. At the same time, in the process of reading parenting books, how much have we absorbed from the contents of the books, and are there any deviations in understanding? These are all very important.

If we read several books and apply all the above methods to children without paying attention to the ideas behind them, then these methods may become our tools to control children, and children are very smart. He can feel that they will not be easily controlled by us, but may control us by crying and losing their temper.

So I said that how many parenting books I read has nothing to do with the child crying. In the final analysis, it is still a question of one's own upbringing. This can't be solved by reading a few books, it's too simple. You can't be a good mother by reading many parenting books. It is influenced by our thinking mode, as well as our understanding and application of concepts and attitudes.

In the process of sharing positive discipline, I heard many parents say that I also read the book Positive Discipline, but after reading it, I found it useless. The child is still the same, and I still don't know what to do. Many times we know the method, but we can't do it. This is because of the influence of our model from small to large. For example, we grew up in the traditional education mode, so we are familiar with the traditional education mode, such as preaching and losing our temper with our children. Then I'll tell you, there is a parenting model that is neither punitive nor arrogant. We think it's good, but it's hard for us to do it. Once we get it, we will go back to the old model. These are all normal. It is not easy to transition from one mode to another. We need another mode.

There are still many things that our minds know and are useless because we don't feel deeply. In the classroom of active parenting, there are many experiential activities, which will enable parents to deeply understand their children's feelings and think from their perspective, so as to truly see and understand their children. On this basis, those good methods can be effective and combined with books will be more thorough.

Therefore, in the process of raising children, we don't read books mechanically, but really study hard and change hard!