When it comes to happiness, we can't help defining it. Happiness is the satisfaction of self-set expectations. In this sense, it is logical to explain some ways people pursue happiness-lowering expectations, the so-called "contentment is always happy"; Improve your ability, the so-called "bitter first, then sweet."
Lowering expectations means lowering expectations, so that you can be satisfied without too much ability; For example, if you don't know a foreign language, you don't have to worry about frowning in front of the original foreign language, but you can gain a lot from the reading chinese document. Without a good car to drive, you can enjoy the scenery, exercise and reduce carbon emissions by taking the "1 1 road" for a walk without any emergency.
To improve one's ability requires hardship; Suffering hardship is a kind of breaking and re-integration of immediate comfort. For example, give up the good-looking TV series and fun games in front of you, and do some boring and laborious memory, thinking and accumulation first, so that when you look at the world again, your thinking and views will be promoted to a new height. This is also the meaning of deep happiness.
Of course, lowering expectations can make you happier, but this is not the fundamental way to happiness-you can not buy luxury goods, change a big house, and have no delicacies, but if you just lower expectations, you may even have enough food and clothing. Therefore, the expected value can only be lowered within a certain range, which is not suitable for going on.
In this way, the improvement of ability is particularly important. If you want other mountains to look small under the sky. You must climb to the top. This process requires a strong body and a strong will; If you want to taste your own good dishes, you must study recipes and purchase ingredients, and you can make your own satisfactory dishes after many experiments. If you want to buy something you like, you need to have an economic mind and turn value and potential into economic strength, so that you won't always be envious.
It is so important to improve one's ability that bookstores are full of successful studies, and learning is regarded as the essence in educational thought. In fact, learning is not an end in itself, the key is to apply what you have learned. Of course, you can't be useful without learning. It's no use not learning. And applying what you have learned is a manifestation of your ability.
Improving your ability can make you feel more satisfied, and happiness will be born from it; And new horizons and new insights will also increase expectations; In this way, there is a virtuous circle between constantly improving ability and constantly booking new expectations, and progress is thus produced. Of course, there should be no big gap between expectations and ability improvement, otherwise there will be a sense of loss and frustration.