1, college students fall in love with high safety factor. Because the objects are mostly students from the same campus, interpersonal relationships are simpler, and there is no need to worry about being cheated.

2. College students falling in love can improve their ability to adapt to society, promote their rapid growth and cultivate good emotional intelligence. Because college students will encounter all kinds of problems when they fall in love, it is not easy to deal with all kinds of interpersonal relationships and handle these problems and relationships well, and they will make progress and grow up by constantly solving these problems.

It is also easy to find like-minded people as lovers during college. In this way, we can encourage each other, help each other, supervise each other, make progress together and grow together.

Nowadays, the parents of the post-70s, especially the parents of girls, have generally learned the lessons of the previous leftover men and women, at least they don't object to their children falling in love during school. While studying hard, they will guide their children not to miss the right ones, especially when there are far more high-quality women than high-quality men. Parents of good families pay more attention to this matter. Instead of the parents born after 50, they always separate these things, only study, reject everything else, and overestimate the marriage value of their daughters. They generally look down on male students at the same level, thinking that there are better ones behind, and they passed 30 in a flash. At present, parents mainly study their homework.

1: The essence of marriage stability is emotional foundation. In the era when the marriage and love market is becoming more and more materialistic, the divorce rate is also high. College students feel a bit like childhood friends when they fall in love, and their relative emotional foundation is stronger.

2. Because college students are still young, they really feel that it is not appropriate to break up and find a new one, so that they will not be bothered by being too old.

Nowadays, excellent people, both men and women, rely on robbery. Get the first move and grab the "potential stocks" that feel good. If it is difficult to find a successful one, another family will think that you are interested in his or her wealth status. "Potential stocks" do not have this problem, and the marriage that men and women struggle together is more equal, which can reduce the risk of "entering a rich family as deep as the sea".

The child is going to college, parents say so.

The parents of boys "boldly pursue the girls they like, and the money is not enough." It is best to bring a daughter-in-law back to my mother during the holiday. "

Girls' parents "don't have enough money. Tell mom what you want to buy. Universities are too chaotic, and big cities are even more chaotic. Don't run around alone. Don't leave school too late. Tell your mother that my daughter is so excellent, don't take advantage of the smelly boy easily. It's not that you can't fall in love. You need to discuss it with your mother. Girls should love themselves and protect themselves! "

Parents of boys 100% encourage college dating. My colleague's son has no objection to falling in love in high school, and her performance is good. Why do you object? Now we study together. I guess I can get married after graduation. To say the least, I'm not married and my son has nothing to lose. What do I care? The parents of girls are very worried, and they can't wait to report to the province every week to check the dynamics. The most exaggerated one I have ever seen. My mother retired early and accompanied her to college for four years, just to protect her daughter.

After studying and working in the university for 20 years, both students and parents have come into contact with a lot. In fact, parents' attitude towards students' love has not changed much. Twenty years ago, I seldom heard of parents going to school to stop their children from falling in love in college. Today, 20 years later, I rarely hear any parents say to their children: you must chase after girls when you meet them, and you must fall in love with me during college.

Zhen Jing believes that most parents' attitude towards their children's love affairs in college is "let nature take its course". Of course, it is reasonable to say that this is an encouragement. When a child doesn't find a suitable suitor and begins to fall in love, parents generally don't ask this question, and at most they just insinuate that someone has talked about a boyfriend (girlfriend) to show their approval. But at this time, parents are not in a hurry. After all, children are still young, about 20 years old, which is the time when learning matters. Moreover, children's minds are still very simple, especially girls, and parents are not at ease.

However, most parents will support children falling in love. Parents are generally at ease if they are looking for school classmates, but parents will be more worried if they are looking for society. Even parents who personally encourage their children to fall in love during college will not encourage their children to fall in love with "others" outside college. This kind of mood of parents is not difficult for children to understand.

We summed up the parents' psychology and found that in fact, parents are not deliberately concerned about whether their children are in love, but more concerned about their children's normal social interaction.

On the one hand, this time is still far from the child's marriage. Although the love we talked about in college is pure, it is not affordable. In the future, two people will face employment and long-distance love. To some extent, the cruelty of reality will make lovers love and hurt more. So parents often have reservations about this kind of love.

On the other hand, love is just one of the social relationships of children in college. If a child is not in love, he has many friends and friends of the opposite sex in front of student cadres. In this state, parents will feel very gratified and feel that their children just don't want to find someone. As long as they are willing, they will find a good one. On the contrary, parents will be more worried about this situation if their children are puppy love and don't associate with other friends.

So is Zhen Jing's personal opinion. During college, you can fall in love freely, but don't delay your study or normal social interaction because you want to fall in love. Love is just one of countless flowers in college life. Never give up others for this one.

Learning has a great influence on life, so learning has a corresponding foundation. As a prelude to marriage, love has become a common concern of parents of college students. After all, I still pay attention to the happiness of my child's life. To tell the truth, teacher, so am I, so why do parents of college students encourage love during college?

Love is the prelude to a happy marriage.

Career and family are the wings of a happy life. Before college, children have a heavy academic burden, and most of them focus on their grades, so they have no time to pay attention to the opposite sex, let alone fall in love. Parents are also afraid that their children will be distracted at this time, and they have always advised their children to maintain the relationship of ordinary friends with the opposite sex students they admire. Many teachers' students have not handled the relationship between study and love well. The college entrance examination was a mess, which not only affected their studies, but also hurt their feelings at this age.

But college is different. Through hard work, children have been admitted to a satisfactory university, and their career planning has a general framework, and their age has also entered youth. Emotional needs call for the opposite sex to join their lives. As a prelude to marriage, love is becoming more and more important.

Love is also an ability, which needs to be cultivated.

Don't think that love is just an animal instinct, it is also an ability to get along with people and needs to be cultivated. For example, to know what kind of person you like, how to get close to the person you like, and what is the best appearance of love, you need to experience and explore in real life while studying theoretically.

1. Who do you like?

Everyone has seen many youth idol dramas. "Gao Fushuai" and "Bai Fumei" are Bai Yueguang in the minds of most young people. Everyone has a love of beauty, and there is nothing wrong with it. It's just that love is not for appreciation, but for getting along. Therefore, the love object should be realistic and appropriate.

2. How to get close to the person you like?

We have people we admire, so don't rush to confess, buy roses and invite dinner, and a lot of blood will boil. First of all, we should create opportunities for contact, understand in contact, show in action, and let the language fall behind. A poem in Untitled by Li Shangyin in the late Tang Dynasty tells how people who have a good impression on each other express it with actions: "Warm me up through spring wine and remind you how to bet." Holding so many people's arms and delivering things, and then people will be indifferent? If you have a good impression on you, you respond; Refuse if you don't like it. Those with high self-cultivation will decline; Straight tube, you will be embarrassed. You didn't say anything? Put it away at will. Don't be afraid that the person you like will be robbed by others first, and the person you like will wait.

3. What is the best state of love?

The best state of love is two of a kind, making progress together. Any unilateral pursuit, even if everyone is happy, will lose a tacit understanding of happiness. Besides mutual appreciation, common progress is also indispensable. Otherwise, on the long road of life, couples may become strangers. It's not anyone's fault, but our development is out of sync and we lost our initial acquaintance.

Since love contains a lot of philosophy of life, is it ok to read so much? The answer is that you can't have a good relationship just by reading books and attending classes. It's like reading a big cookbook, and the dishes you make are delicious. But also to feel and appreciate life.

Love needs a process.

Love needs a process. It's not that I'm 2067. When you get married, introduce a friend of the opposite sex with good conditions in all aspects. Everyone fell in love immediately, soul mates. Although we are excellent, we don't have enough time to get along. I can only say that I have a good impression and will not go to each other's hearts immediately. Love is like brewing wine. No matter how good the raw materials are, it takes time.

Therefore, college students' parents are encouraging their children to fall in love, and thoughtful and prescient parents will communicate with their children and give them some guidance in a timely and appropriate manner. Of course, you don't need a mature and independent child.

Not only do parents encourage their children to fall in love in college, but children also like to fall in love during college. As for the reason, Mr Miao explained it from four angles: appropriate time, parent-child relationship, surrounding environment and love relationship.

First of all, the time is ripe.

Let's imagine the timeline of children's growth: preschool, primary school, junior high school, high school, university, employment, and children will become adults when they are employed.

In high school, in order to meet the important pass in life-college entrance examination, most teachers and parents have made painstaking persuasion: son, you can't fall in love early, and you can't delay your studies for puppy love. You see, before junior high school, children were simple and didn't want to fall in love. In high school, he thought about whether you supported it or not. After employment, it doesn't matter whether you support him or not. Isn't the university going to support it?

From the child's point of view, it is a normal physiological and psychological phenomenon to be eager for close contact with the opposite sex, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Many children in Seeds of Love are in high school or even junior high school. Teacher Miao needs to remind parents here, never shy away from their children's love education and sex education, but accept and respond generously. If children can face it calmly, they will naturally lose the desire to "get to the bottom of it."

Second, parent-child relationship.

The relationship between parents and children is connected by blood, and no matter how it is cut, it will not stop. Parents worry about their children's lifelong events, and children care about their parents' physical and mental health. Falling in love in college can not only make parents worry, but also benefit their physical and mental health. Don't believe it? Then look down.

High school can't fall in love, parents' feelings have been saved, and children's ideas have not been realized. When I go to college, it is a gate for parents and children, and I can't wait to find a friend of the opposite sex. Look at your parents. Their children went to college and found someone. Are there happy smiles on their faces?

When parents are in a good mood, can this parent-child relationship get better? Otherwise, children will not dare to call home for money, and they will listen to their parents' nagging when they go home for the New Year. Where are the parents? A heart hangs in the sky, but it cannot fall to the ground.

Third, the surrounding environment

The environment of high school is relatively closed and the contact with people is relatively narrow; After work, the environment is greatly open and I have the opportunity to know all kinds of wonderful things. So, is the university environment better? The love object is relatively simple, and there are not so many material entanglements.

During high school, schoolwork was very tense, and children who didn't get enough sleep every day caught a lot; It's better to go back to cities below the third line after work. Once you go to Beishangguang or embark on the road of entrepreneurship, 996 begins to wave to you. Looking for time to fall in love? Sorry, I'm busy ~

Universities in China are not only places to study, but also places to stay. Besides classroom study and social practice, students still have a lot of time to talk about romantic things and enrich their life experiences.

Fourth, love relationship.

Love on campus is completely different from love in society. The love on campus is relatively simple, and there are many impurities in the feelings, sometimes it is simply mutual attraction.

Campus love is not easy to cause bad consequences. Even if you break up, you can accumulate experience for the next relationship; If you walk into the palace of marriage, a story will be produced.

Campus love, although there is no economic foundation, has a common struggle. You and I promote each other in study and support each other in life. Besides your parents, you have someone who cares about you.

I am Miao Dengfeng. I have visited thousands of universities in the past ten years, and I have a lovely baby at home, which has a deep connection with parenting.

You pay attention to me, help you take care of the beasts at home, and help you plan a bright future.

I have two daughters who are also in college. I really don't object to my daughters falling in love in college. I feel that finding a classmate is more reliable than going to society. But their hearts are too high and they think the outside world is more exciting. I am speechless!

The woman's parents will guide her daughter reasonably and know that youth is precious.

Year after year passes quickly. Wait until the girl is 25 years old after graduating from college, and then go to apply for a job. When the dust settles, it will be 30 in a blink of an eye.

Campus love, what a wonderful time.

Just give guidance, don't interfere foolishly.

Smart parents.

College students' falling in love has long been extremely opposed by many schools and parents. Many parents think that college students' own future is confused and uncertain, and the graduation season is the season of lovelorn. Instead of spending time in love, it is better to study your lessons. But times are different now, and people's thoughts have changed a lot. Nowadays, the parents of college students are generally born after 70, and their generation is more educated, more open-minded and more capable of accepting new things.

In addition, related research shows that because a large number of college students are only children, loneliness and loneliness are their common characteristics. Schools and parents encourage their children to fall in love during their college years, which helps to ease their psychological barriers and avoid their depression to some extent.