1. Interrupt others as little as possible.

Interruption is a hook. However, we'd better not use it unless we have to. Because this treatment is sometimes worse than the disease itself.

John Locke said, "Interrupting others is the most impolite behavior."

If a person is talking about something with relish, and the audience is as happy as the female guests around the bride, then you suddenly interrupt: "Hey, was this the week you went to new york?"

People who are interrupted by you will definitely not like you. Others may not like you either.

Therefore, please remember:

Don't interrupt others' conversation with related topics.

Don't interrupt others' conversation with meaningless judgments.

Don't rush to speak for others.

Don't rush to help others finish the story.

Don't interrupt other people's topic for trivial quarrels (this often happens between husband and wife).

In short, don't interrupt easily unless the other party obviously drags on for too long; His writing is no longer attractive and even makes them sleepy; His words became more and more ugly, which aroused everyone's disgust.

When you interrupt him at this time, everyone will think that you have done a good thing.

Step 2 avoid disappointing topics

Maybe others don't want to listen to you, such as your health, food and recipes, football and your family disputes.

You can talk to the doctor about your health problems; You can talk to your wife about your food and recipes; About football, you can talk to the fans; As for family disputes, it's best not to make public.

There was a shrewd lawyer who could have enlivened the atmosphere at a party and talked about the important events that happened recently. However, he spent half an hour telling people how he found a missing long-haired dog. After he finished speaking, people knew all about the crack in the road where he was looking for the dog. But all the audience were listless and depressed like a long-haired dog.

Former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill thought it inappropriate to talk about children all the time.

Once, an ambassador said to Churchill, "Prime Minister, you know, I have never told you about my children once."

Churchill patted him on the shoulder and said, "I know, dear partner, I should thank you for this!" " "

3. Never hurt others.

Politeness and hypocrisy are often confused in today's society. If this equation can be established, then people will have more to say about hypocrisy. True politeness never comes from hypocrisy, but from an "experience". This is the most important thing for an actor. This means that you can put yourself in others' shoes as if you were there yourself. It can be said that politeness is sensitive and a person's high respect for others. You should be sensitive to the things around you. Of course, you can't always feel right. However, you should still try.

In a small-scale gathering, everyone was talking about a city, so people talked about the traffic congestion and poor sanitation in this city. But after a while, it was found that a person at the party was the secretary of the mayor of that city.

Whether your words are appropriate or not depends on the object and atmosphere at that time.

For example, talking about current events, horse racing and religion may be popular in some groups, but may not be popular in others. On the eve of the election, people may be generally emotional; In the era when the "generation gap" prevailed, talking about the behavior of some young people may cause a fierce reaction.

Jane Curt said, "Being flexible and elegant means knowing how to be decent."

Unless you are with friends who like to argue, it is best to avoid topics that will lead to anger or quarrel between the two sides.