China is a world-famous country of etiquette, which has paid great attention to etiquette for a long time. The custom of "father and son don't sit at the same table" has a long history, and it is also a manifestation of the relationship between honor and inferiority in feudal society.
Some people think that what our ancestors said is unreasonable, but it was not unreasonable in the past. We used to pay great attention to respect and inferiority. For example, in rural areas, some people still pay great attention to the seating of banquets. Where to sit and who to sit in this room are all arranged in advance, and you can't sit around.
I still remember going to a party with my grandfather when I was a child, and I would see them arguing for a position for half an hour. At an important banquet, the difference between father and son is not only a manifestation of respect, but also a kind of respect for guests.
Imagine that all the people attending the party are people of higher status or elders of the same age. If you sit with them as a young man, it will not only affect their communication, but also make you feel uncomfortable.
Today, this etiquette is still quite popular in some rural areas. For example, in our country, if the family holds a wedding, the father accompanies the wine and the young man sits on one side, mainly responsible for pouring wine and serving food to the elders, or serving rice and lighting cigarettes. But this is only limited to some important banquets, such as when there are no outsiders at ordinary times, it is completely ok for father and son to eat at the same table.
Let's take a look at the second half of the sentence "uncles don't drink, right", which means uncles had better not drink together. What the ancestors said was reasonable in the social environment at that time. In the past, all ages were orderly, with uncles as elders and nephews as juniors. There is a generation gap between two people. After all, the ancients attached great importance to seniority. On the one hand, it is inappropriate for uncles to sit together, on the other hand, everyone is unhappy and cautious, which is equivalent to drinking.
Another reason is that many people talk a lot after drinking, and they also say things that they are afraid to say at ordinary times, that is, "telling the truth after drinking", such as swearing, some disrespectful words, or being uncles before drinking, but becoming friends after drinking. Obviously, it's easy to make others laugh. In the past, people paid great attention to personal reputation, so "drinking with uncle" was taboo.
However, today, with the development of society, the concept has also changed, and this concept has gradually been eliminated by history. Like a farmer, he has a good relationship with several uncles. Every time he goes home, he will have a few drinks with them when he is free. Sometimes people get drunk and go back to their own homes, and then fall asleep, so the second half sentence is basically out of date, while the first half sentence still retains this custom in some areas.